MK Surrey Counselling

26/04/2026

Our online events refuse to collude with the culture of diagnosis & disorder. They explore non-pathologising, relational and creative ways of understanding and responding to emotional distress.

26/04/2026

Pleased to say I'm now offering a clinical supervision service as a trainee.
Queries are welcome.

26/04/2026

Please be sure to check credentials before embarking on your therapeutic journey. All reputable therapists and supervisors will be registered with an accredited membership body such as UKCP, BACP or NCPS. Don't be scared to check any therapist against these registers.

26/04/2026

2026 is shaping up to be quite the year. Finally, so many things I have been working on are finished, and ready.

If you read nothing more of this article today - just know that I have finally been able to launch viable solutions for victims of pathologisation, abuse, and trauma.

I started working in trauma and abuse at 19 years old. I am 35 years old now, and I have dedicated my life, career, businesses, and my writing to addressing the way victims of abuse, trauma, violence, and oppression - are blamed, gaslit, pathologised and harmed by the very systems we all go to for help.

So in the 16 years I have been working with and for victims - I have noticed many patterns, systems of power, structures and narratives which mean that victims of all forms of abuse and trauma are likely to be pathologised, dismissed, ignored, and even further victimised and traumatised.

Everywhere, really. In family court. In the police station. In criminal court. The hospital. The workplace. School. Mental health services. Universities. Social care services. Fostering and adoption. Care homes.

Pathologisation and victim-blaming is baked into every system I have ever come across - and I have spent 16 years teaching, training, researching and influencing governments, police, social care, health, professionals and individuals to understand that it is not them that is broken - but our systems of power.

So this article is a detailed explanation of what Jaimi and I have been building - and what we are now able to offer (and how you can access it all as a professional, or as an individual).

Dm or comment for link - or go to stories now x

25/01/2026

Pathologisation is a tactic. If your abusive partner is pushing you to go to a doctor or psychiatrist, or keeps calling mental health teams about you - you must understand that this is a tactic of the abuse itself.

Pathologisation is a form of gaslighting, controlling and reframing you as mentally unstable that can be used against you later on.

Many victims of abuse have already been pathologised by their parents, families, partners and friends - and the impact is devastating - and can last decades.

This is why I fight so hard to reach millions of people every month about this topic - because one day - this might be you.

If you are being abused right now, and you have noticed that your abuser consistently suggests that you have undiagnosed mental disorders and need to go to hospital or a doctor - seek support urgently from confidential specialist abuse services and explain what they are doing to you. Do not go to the doctor or hospital with your abuser - and if they forcibly take you or threaten you, try to pass a note to ask that your partner is not allowed into the room with you - so you can tell them what is happening. Show the professionals this post, if it is easier than explaining it.

Professionals reading this - you MUST become responsible for spotting this pattern. If a partner or family member seems very pushy and insists on speaking for or explaining the patients ‘mental health issues’ - ask to see the patient alone and check that they are not being abused, controlled or harmed in some way. SPOT THE SIGNS OF PATHOLOGISATION TO PROTECT YOUR PATIENTS.

Pathologisation is the process whereby your natural and normal emotions and behaviours are recast as mental illnesses. It happens to thousands of people - in every country in the world.

06/07/2025

“This is the best dog,” may mean, “This love shaped who I am."

08/04/2025

Did you know, counsellors and psychotherapists are not qualified to diagnose mental health conditions? If your therapist is suggesting you (or your parent ot partner, yes it does happen) may have x,y,z you may want to see proof of their psychiatric/medical training.

12/09/2024

If you are thinking about starting therapy this article may be worth a read. It's not unusual to be curious before embarking on your therapy journey and I would further encourage taking your curiousities to any initial consultations you arrange with prospective counsellors.

Can therapy make you feel worse? How much should I pay? We asked the experts to answer your most Googled queries about taking the leap

12/09/2024

Currently considering setting up online group therapy. Having been both a client of group therapy and having delivered group therapy face to face before the pandemic I can attest to the benefits from a personal and facilitive perspective. I'm just debating whether online is as beneficial as face to face.

06/09/2024

Can anyone advise on how to change a page name please? I'm at a complete loss. Thanks 🙏

06/09/2024

After quite a few weeks away from the office I'm now very much looking forward to opening my door again to old and new clients.
Time away from therapy can feel quite daunting for clients however being able to work through times of absence is testimont to progress made.
It is always a deeply felt honour to be entrusted with and to be able hold clients through some very dark times.
It is also very much a privilege to see them stand tall and leave the room for the last time.
Clients are the best people to judge when to seek therapy for themselves and equally they hold the power for when it's the right time to end their therapy journey.
Clients know when they are ready to take on life with their new found energy and fighting gusto.
Accessing therapy is such a courages act because we never know what to expect.
You have the power, You hold the key.