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06/02/2026

Your brain isn’t broken - it’s overworked.

Ever feel like your mind just never switches off? That’s because it’s working too hard, not because it’s broken.

Your brain is doing exactly what it believes it needs to do to keep you safe, prepared, and in control.

So it scans. It anticipates. It analyses. It replays conversations. It rehearse future scenarios.

From the outside you look capable and composed…but inside? Your brain is always on duty.

That’s intelligence. Just using strategies built upon old narratives and limiting beliefs.

The cost is that your brain never powers down, your nervous system never fully relaxes. You exist in a low hum of pressure. Always managing, doing, holding things together.

You don’t need to become less driven, less thoughtful, or less capable to feel calm. You just need your thinking to work FOR you, rather than against you.

If you’re ready to stop living in mental overdrive and start experiencing confidence, DM me READY.

05/02/2026

Motherhood didn’t just make you a mum.
You became the:
• Operations Manager
• Emotional Regulator
• Household CEO
• Head of Logistics
• Finder of Every Lost Thing
• Keeper of Everyone’s Schedules
• Human Reminder System

And somehow… you’re expected to carry it all like it’s normal.

You’re holding:
• Your own mental load
• Your children’s emotional worlds
• The equilibrium of your family

No wonder your nervous system feels permanently switched on.

Here’s the truth: it’s not life “too much” - it’s the belief that keeping everyone safe and happy is all on you.

Myth 1: It’s all on me
If someone’s upset → your fault. Stop being the God of Outcomes. Others can have feelings without it being your failure.

Myth 2: Good mums fix things
No. Good mums model steadiness. Stop over-protecting, over-functioning, and manufacturing happiness. Let them learn to handle life.

Myth 3: I must prevent future regret
Parenting from fear drains your nervous system. Kids don’t need perfection - they need a mum who isn’t bracing all day.

Kids need:
• A calm, steady parent
• Space to learn they’re capable
• Confidence built by facing challenges

You were never meant to hold the emotional weight of your family. You can put some of it down. And when you do? You become calmer, safer, thriving.

Exhausted from being everyone’s emotional backbone? This is your sign.

Inside my coaching, I help mums drop over-responsibility and build unshakeable emotional steadiness.

Message me READY and let’s talk about what changes when you stop carrying it all.

29/01/2026

The way to build true confidence 👇

Well it starts with realising that the things you DON’T like about yourself… aren’t actually you.

They’re whispers from past experiences, societal expectations, old conditioning - moments where you perceived that you weren’t quite enough.

Because when you were a baby, you didn’t think “I need to be better to deserve love and acceptance.”

You didn’t worry about your looks or your personality, or compare yourself with others.
You didn’t beat yourself up for the things you hadn’t learned yet.

You just were. And that was enough.

So the belief of “I’m not enough” was learned.
Which means it can be unlearned.

And this is where confidence really begins - not by fixing yourself, or by pretending you’re someone you’re not,
but by gently questioning the stories you’ve been carrying for years.

If you could see you’re enough, always have been, and always will be - what does that change for you?

24/01/2026

That intrusive, anxious, critical first thought?

Not you. Just conditioning.

It’s your brain doing what it’s been trained to do - trying to protect you, even when it’s not helpful anymore.

What IS your responsibility is the pause. The second thought.
The response you choose next.

That’s where your power is.
That’s where you change your future conditioning to be who you want to be 🧡

23/01/2026

I received this lovely message this week from a family I worked with last year. Looking for effective tools to help their son gain confidence in himself and stop anticipating negative outcomes in his head before going to places.

I have no doubt he will continue to grow in confidence now that he knows how, and with thriving parents he’s in safe hands 🙌

22/01/2026

As a coach, one of the hardest things I see is when truly the loveliest of people struggle with the quiet belief:
“I don’t really matter.”

Not in a dramatic way. In a subtle, everyday way.

😞 You stop expecting much from yourself.
😞 You don’t prioritise your needs.
😞 You don’t follow through - and it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because somewhere deep down you don’t quite believe you’re worth the effort.

The thing is that what you think and believe becomes your reality. Not because it’s true…
but because your mind is constantly looking for proof that confirms the belief.

That’s how confirmation bias works.

If you believe you’re not important, your brain will filter your life to match it.
👉 You’ll notice every moment you’re overlooked.
👉 You’ll minimise your efforts.
👉 You’ll dismiss your progress.

And sure enough, it starts to feel like fact.

But I’ve got you 🫶

You need to know this isn’t an accurate reflection of who you are. It’s just the relationship you’ve learned to have with yourself - you have the power to change that and it doesn’t take a lot to begin 🧡

It’s about gently rebuilding your view of you - so that you see yourself, notice yourself, appreciate yourself.

Here’s what you’re going to do:

🫶 Morning: acknowledge yourself in the mirror. Choose to notice yourself. Look at yourself and say good morning.

You’re starting to see “I matter. I’m worth greeting. I can take up space. I worth saying good morning to.”

🫶 During the day: after you do something, recognise it. Give yourself a little nod of appreciation, or a little virtual pat on the back.

You’re starting to recognise and appreciate yourself and your efforts, achievements.

🫶 Evening: look in the mirror - look into yourself own eyes and say “goodnight - than you for today”.

You’re starting to see yourself, appreciate yourself, see that you matter.

Do it for a few days and slowly, quietly, the story changes from:
“I don’t matter”
to
“I’m learning to matter to myself.”

And that changes everything 🧡

21/01/2026

You don’t have an anxious mind. You have an incredibly intelligent one 🫶

Think about it…to worry the way you do, your brain has to:
• spot patterns
• imagine outcomes
• anticipate danger
• problem-solve quickly
• connect dots that others don’t even notice

That’s not weakness. That’s a powerful processing system 💪

Anxiety isn’t a sign that something is wrong with you -
it’s a sign your mind is incredible… it’s just working a little too hard at over-protecting you right now.

You don’t need to fix your mind. You need to better understand it - and stop treating it like the enemy 🧡

If this resonates, save it for the days you doubt yourself. You’re more than capable of overcoming anxiety - it’s just a case of retraining some of that clever thinking 🌟

20/01/2026

If you’ve been feeling stuck for a while, just know that progress can be really hard to see.

When you’re in it, everything can feel the same. Like nothing is changing. Like you’re trying but not getting anywhere.

But progress rarely looks dramatic. It usually looks like tiny, almost unnoticeable shifts.

A 1% better thought today.
A 1% kinder response to yourself.
A 1% softer reaction than last time.

On their own, they don’t feel like much. But they stack.

1% better thinking today is 10% better by mid-next week 💪

1% more self-compassion today is 30% more by next month 🫶

Keep up the consistency through your doubtful thoughts and soon enough, without forcing anything, you’ll be in a different place.

The problem is we tend to dismiss the small wins because they don’t feel big enough to count. But they’re actually the very ones that create lasting change.

So if today all you managed was:
- pausing instead of spiralling
- being slightly less harsh with yourself
- noticing the thought without believing it

That counts.
That’s progress. If it was someone else doing those things, you’d agree.

So just know it’s adding up, even if you can’t see it yet. 🧡

09/01/2026

Social anxiety isn’t really about people. It’s about you and the way you’ve learned to protect yourself from uncomfortable feelings like vulnerability and not feeling good enough.

You analyse faces.
You adjust yourself to fit.
You people-please.
You try to control how you’re perceived.

And underneath all of that are beliefs that say:
👉 I need approval to be okay.
👉 Other people’s reactions mean something about me.
👉 It’s my job to manage other people’s emotions.

You don’t need fixing - you need some new beliefs to live from 🫶

👉 my value IS me - as long as I know it, I don’t need to earn it or prove it to anyone
👉 other people’s reactions are a reflection of them, not me
👉 my life is affected by what I think about me - I own the control over that

So speak up, have opinions, express your needs, take up space, make mistakes, have emotions, be imperfect, be human!

Other people’s emotions are created by THEIR thoughts, not your behaviour.

You don’t need permission to be you and you don’t need to live your life based on anyone else’s opinions - yours is the one that matters most.

Live your life for you. 🧡

08/01/2026

Becki has just enjoyed her first holiday and Christmas as an EX-emetophobe, having had emetophobia for as long as she could remember.

We worked together so that she could learn about the underlying beliefs and thinking habits that were driving her anxiety and panic. Fear is created on the inside, so it requires an inside fix.

Once she had the necessary understanding she quite rightly worked hard to build her confidence in her new skills, which enabled her to stop fearing and over-controlling situations, and her protective phobic thinking was soon redundant.

Comment “help me” if you’re ready to overcome your emetophobia - it’s a predictable process once you have the necessary awareness and understanding.

07/01/2026

Anxiety itself isn’t a problem - it’s just a passing feeling like any emotion.

It becomes problematic when you’re stuck feeing anxious. When that happens it’s helpful to understand how you’re -innocently - keeping it alive.

Overthinking it.
Analysing it.
Trying to logic your way out of it.
Monitoring it.
Fixing it.
Getting rid of it.

That’s called intellectualisation and it can turn managing anxiety into a full-time job 😓

Your mind says: “If I can just understand this properly, it will stop.” But all that thinking and efforting sends one message to your nervous system:
👉 This matters. Stay alert.

The shift doesn’t come from thinking more - it comes from
thinking differently.

Choosing not to get involved with every thought.
Letting anxiety be there while you carry on living.
Building confidence in your ability to handle anxious thoughts and feelings.

Calm doesn’t come from figuring things out and avoiding things - it comes as a side effect of learning to respond differently to anxious thoughts, feelings, sensations and urges.

It’s a skillset you can learn, so if managing anxiety has become your full time job, send me a message. I can help 🧡

24/12/2025

I hope you all have a lovely Christmas 🎄

And remember it doesn’t need to be perfect, and if you don’t feel happy, calm, or grateful - sobeit.

Thoughts are just thoughts.
Feelings are just feelings.

Enjoy to the best of your ability and that is absolutely good enough 🫶

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The Thrive Programme is mental health training that teaches people the skills and resources to fully overcome mental health issues and learn to thrive. Based on over 30 years’ clinical experience treating thousands of people around the world, and is thoroughly research-backed and evidence-based. Quite simply, it teaches you how to completely re-wire how you think, feel and behave.

Thriving people have a skillset that makes them more robust, resilient and confident...they feel powerful and more in control of their lives...they are less prone to stress, anxiety and depression. Thriving people find it easier to resist social pressures, take more responsibility for their physical and mental health and live a more positive and active life.

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