When you focus on you and only you (yes, you can still do this with the demands of daily life and a family), that’s when you will really see a difference and quickly, with the intensity and control of your grief.
This is THE focus of my 12 week programme and it is transforming lives!
You learn how to live again, fully.
You learn how to manage your grief and work with it.
You learn how to remember your loved one with happiness and love and much less pain.
I only have one more space beginning in May, you can book a complimentary call 🔗 or comment READY and I will DM you and we can chat!
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You get intense waves of grief because your attachment brain doesn’t yet understand your person isn’t here.
You can retrain it, by doing something different at that specific time, by moving an object, be redecorating, buying new bedding etc.
All of these little things will teach your brain that it is different now.
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Our brain and nervous system do their best for us and whenever we are perceived to be in danger, it shuts us down into survival mode.
This is why you are forgetful, wanting to sleep all day, not have any motivation to do the most basic of things. It is why you procrastinate, you are anxious and numb.
In the early stages of grief, this is normal and we do need protecting to some extent from the pain.
The problem is when this is taking over your life and you are stuck in a survival pattern. This brings no end of problems; emotionally, physically and mentally.
For me, it was ten years. Doing my own research as I knew this wasn’t normal for me, I discovered the effects of grief on the brain.
You can change this, thankfully. Our brain and nervous system can be rewired and regulated again. This takes time and is a small step process. If it has been in the same unhealthy state for years, you are more than likely feeling you have no hope now and this is your life now.
Not true!
If you are willing to help it along, you can live fulfilled and happily again, I am!
I have complimentary calls open now for my 12 week 1:1 programme where you will begin to feel safe in your body and environment again, you will understand what your brain is doing, what to do about it and how you can move forwards in a healthy way.
Link to book is in the usual place!
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I didn’t display the typical prolonged grief disorder symptoms but my behaviours and coping strategies were so dangerous for me on every level.
I didn’t receive professional help as I knew 6 weeks therapy on the nhs wouldn’t help and also, if I had no idea this was grief, how could I talk about it?
I healed myself. I researched, studied, qualified, spent so much time alone to feel the pain and finally understand why I was trying to cope in very unhealthy ways.
I now teach this to you, to save your grief brain anymore stress from all of the confusion around grief research.
It’s 3 steps. There will be something from your younger years that is not allowing you to move forwards with your grief in a healthy way, so that you can live a life fulfilled and happy, with grief at your side but in a pleasant, comforting way.
I’m now taking on 3 more women this month, for my 12 week 1:1 grief mastery programme and you have unlimited contact with me inbetween sessions.
Book your free call to have a chat with me about moving your forwards. Link ⬆️
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Grief affects us in ways that we wouldn’t even think!
Once you identify the emotion/s that are preventing you from moving forwards and living again, you’ll be able to trace back to why you’re experiencing this particular emotion/though/feeling with your grief. Then you’ll be aware and also understand that it is because of something that had happened most likely a long time ago, or it could be your attachment style that could do with some love.
When you realise, the emotion that was holding onto you so tightly, begins to shrink so you feel more able to move forwards and just let that bit go.
If you need grief support, check out my info and book in for 1:1 sessions. One off appointments available to a 12 week intensive package.
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I LOVED the short acting dopamine hits 😅
Whether that was drinling far too much, attracting the wrong relationships, booking the holidays or buying the handbags, they all gave me an instant boost (as well as helping me hide from everything).
At the time, I had no idea, all i knew was that it made me feel good for a few hours. When I realised and understood about how our brains change and the neuroscience of grief, it all made so much sense.
We don't want the short hits - they aren't good for our body or our mind.
What we do want is an inner sense of happiness, that is cultivated through our small, daily(healthy) habits. We want our nervous system to be more settled and to find our dopamine in the simple things in life.
If this is you, begin to think next time you are about to drink or spend money compusively, and ask yourself why you are doing it. How else can you get that feeling?
Once you have understanding and awareness, you can change it.
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‘I get to’ will instantly shift you.
I needed this for my daily walk today in the ☔️ and I ended up staying out for much longer than I usually do!
You don’t need me to tell you that you get to do things others don’t ☹️
When grieving, the word gratitude can make you feel worse, so by simply changing the words, your mindset will change which will make you feel more able to do that thing, and that thing will change the outlook of your day for the better!
If you’re putting something off, or you’re mindlessly scrolling to avoid coming out of your daily grief funk, then let this be your sign to do that thing you get to do!
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This is your sign to begin working with your grief and all that comes with it!
Buy yourself a journal, get comfy and just write down words that come to you about your grief and how it makes you feel.
It was my first step when i didn't know what to do and it is still a daily part of my life.
Follow me for updates on my guided grief workbook that will be available in March!
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You are waiting for time to be your magic wand!
I waited almost 10 years for that day when time would have healed all of my grief 😕
Let me save you from even more self saboage - here is what you NEED to know!
- Time will hellp you heal when you intentionally decide that you want to feel better;
- Time will help you heal when you undertsand that healing does NOT mean forgetting;
- TIme will help you heal when you accept that there is no point holding onto guilt, regret, blame, anger, sadness etc because the only person it is affecting is you!
If you need short term or longer term help to stop the self sabotage and destructive patterns, then the link is in my bio and my DM's are open for a chat to see if my work is right for you.
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Taking a break from all@of this social thing, it’s been so head clearing, in a way that I didn’t know I needed!
Here’s a little snippet of what we’ve been up to! Im@a little under the weather now but hoping to be better and back to fully enjoying life with the boys super soon!
I hope you all found some peace and maybe even a little joy 💕
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