Midwife Adzo, Korle-Bu, Accra (2025)

28/11/2025

Throughout this month, we walked through stories of loss, grief, courage, and the quiet rebuilding that follows.
Every post was written for the woman who has ever asked “Why me?”
Every lesson was shared for the family searching for meaning after heartbreak.
As we bring this series to a close, my heart remains open to you.

If you’re carrying questions, fear, confusion, or hope about trying again, healing, or understanding your experience reach out here or privately on 0201574700

Sometimes the first step is simply talking to someone who understands both the medical and emotional sides of this journey.

If you missed any part of this month’s conversation, consider this your invitation to go back.
Each post was created to guide you gently, support you practically, and remind you that you are not alone in the loss, and not in the healing.

Have a blessed weekend
Much love from Midwife Adzo.

26/11/2025

"When I was 12 weeks pregnant, I went for a check-up and had an ultrasound. The doctor told me that something was wrong without specifying what it was. The next day I woke up and noticed that the bed sheet were stained with blood. I did not receive any information on why I had a miscarriage. The nurses were very cold and unfriendly and they behaved as if it was just a medical procedure. Among all the staff at the hospital the only one who had a bit of humanity was the doctor, who later reassured me that I could try again to get pregnant." Andrea, 28, stylist, Colombia (WHO)

Birth Experience are Never Forgotten
A woman may forget some of the little details of her pregnancy the cravings, the swollen feet, even the sleepless nights.

But one thing she never forgets is the day she gave birth.
Whether she held her baby in her arms or in her heart, she remembers.
She remembers how she felt, how she was treated, and the hands that cared for her or didn’t.
She remembers the tone of the voices in the room, the atmosphere, the emotions that filled the air.

Birth leaves a lasting imprint one that shapes how a woman views herself, her baby, and even the healthcare system.
That’s why as healthcare providers, we must give our very best not just medically, but emotionally.

Every birth, every loss, every moment of care is a memory in the making.
Let’s make it one filled with respect, reassurance, and empowerment.
Because long after the pain fades, the experience remains.
Let’s make it one worth remembering for all the right reasons.

I will be glad you could share your birth experience with me on 0201574700.
How is the week going?

24/11/2025

It wasn’t the medicine that helped her first it was the kindness.She walked into the clinic slowly

She had just lost her baby.
And for a moment, she wasn’t sure if healing was even possible.
But then something shifted.
A nurse sat beside her not across a desk, not in a hurry
but beside her, at eye level.
No questions yet, no instructions.
Just presence.
And that was the beginning of good care.
Because after miscarriage or baby loss, the right support from healthcare providers can become a lifeline. Here’s what that support looks like:
1. Compassionate Communication
Healthcare providers explain gently, give information at her pace, and avoid blame or judgement.
They listen more than they speak.
2. Physical Recovery & Medical Follow-Up
A simple check-up to ensure her body is healing well, treat complications early, and guide her on rest, nutrition, and what to expect next.
3. Emotional Support & Validation
They acknowledge her loss as real.
They say, “Your grief is valid,”
instead of “You’re young, you’ll have another.”
4. Guidance on What’s Normal
They help her understand:
– what bleeding or pain to expect,
– warning signs to look out for,
– when to return if something feels wrong.
Knowledge removes fear.
5. Support for the Partner & Family
They remind partners that they are grieving too.
and teach them how to support her with presence, patience, and shared healing.
6. Discussing Future Fertility Gently
Only when she’s ready, they explain when it’s okay to try again, what tests may help, and reassure her that many women go on to have healthy pregnancies.
7. Referrals for Mental Health or Support Groups
Because sometimes strength is knowing when to ask for extra help
and having a caring professional make that connection for her.

Every woman’s healing starts differently.
But compassion, safety, and clear guidance from healthcare providers can turn the darkest moment into the start of gentle recovery.
If you’re supporting someone after loss, remember:
You don’t have to fix her pain.
Just don’t let her walk through it alone.

How was your weekend?
This week will be an amazing one!
Let's go for the best❤️

21/11/2025

“You’re young. You’ll have another.”
“At least it happened early.”

They didn’t know that every loss is real. Every baby is loved.
But then something changed.
Her neighbour started showing up.
Her church group sent gentle messages not asking questions, just reminding her she wasn’t alone.

A friend sat quietly by her side as she cried, no advice, no judgement, just presence.
Those small acts became lifelines.

Community support matters.
It can be the difference between a woman drowning in grief and slowly learning to breathe again.

Here’s how we, as a community, can support women going through pregnancy loss:
1. Listen More, Speak Less
You don’t need the perfect words.
Sometimes silence with a hand to hold is the greatest comfort.

2. Avoid Minimizing Statements
Don’t say, “It wasn’t meant to be,” “You can try again,” or “It’s God’s plan.”
These words can deepen her pain, not ease it.

3. Offer Practical Help
Food, childcare, errands, or even helping with laundry.
Grief is exhausting practical support brings real relief.

4. Create Safe Spaces
Churches, women’s groups, workplaces, and communities should acknowledge baby loss.
No woman should feel she has to grieve in hiding.

5. Check In Regularly
Grief doesn’t end after the first week.
A simple, “I’m thinking of you today,” months later can warm a hurting heart.

6. Encourage Professional Support if Needed
Gently remind her that counsellors, midwives, and support groups exist and seeking help is strength, not weakness.

7. Honour Her Baby
Call the baby by name if she gave one.
Remember important dates.
Validate her motherhood.

When a community rises with compassion, a grieving woman doesn’t just heal,
she becomes whole again.

Has these conversations been helpful?
I will be glad if you could share an experience, ask questions and most expecially share this post to help others.

Have a blessed weekend.
Much love from Midwife Adzo

19/11/2025

Partners may not carry the pregnancy, but they carry the love, the dreams, and the grief too.

He didn’t know what to say at first.
After the miscarriage, he watched the woman he loved move through the days like her heart was carrying invisible weight.
She cried quietly sometimes, stared at the ceiling longer than usual, and held her stomach as if holding memories that hurt to touch.
He thought healing meant “being strong.”
But he soon learned that what she needed was presence, not perfection.
So he began showing up in the small, gentle ways that mattered:
1. He listened—truly listened.
One evening she said, “I feel like I failed.”
He didn’t rush to correct her or offer quick explanations.
He just held her hand and whispered, “You didn’t fail. You loved deeply.”
2. He helped with everyday tasks.
From cooking simple meals to handling chores, he gave her body space to rest.
Miscarriage is not only emotional it is physically draining.
Her body needed time to recover, and his support made that possible.
3. He attended follow-up appointments with her.
Sitting beside her in the clinic reminded her that she wasn’t walking this journey alone.
He asked questions, helped her remember instructions, and made her feel safe.
4. He expressed his own grief too.
Partners also feel the loss.
He allowed himself to cry, to talk about the dreams they both had for that baby.
Sharing grief brought them closer instead of pushing them apart.
5. He watched for signs of emotional overload.
He gently encouraged her to talk to a midwife, doctor, or counselor when the sadness felt too heavy.
She didn’t feel “weak” she felt supported.
6. He protected her peace.
When friends and relatives asked insensitive questions, he stepped in, shared only what she was comfortable with, and created a safe emotional boundary around her.

Healing after pregnancy loss is not her journey alone it is theirs.

Sometimes the most powerful thing a partner can do is simply be there quietly, consistently, and lovingly.

How is your week going?

17/11/2025

Her strength didn’t show up as courage, it showed up as softness.

Softness in choosing to rest.
Softness in allowing herself to grieve.
Softness in believing that healing was still possible after her loss.

Miscarriage doesn’t just affect the body it reshapes emotions, routines, and even relationships.
But with the right support, recovery becomes a journey of steady, gentle rebuilding.

Here are some interventions that help women heal after baby loss:

1. Rest & Physical Care

Her body needed time, nourishing meals, proper sleep, hydration, and light movement when she felt ready.

2. Follow-Up Medical Check-Up

A simple review ensured her body was healing well and protected her from hidden complications.

3. Emotional Support

Counseling or support groups gave her a safe space to process what her heart couldn’t always express.

4. Support From Loved Ones

Allowing family and friends to help with small tasks reminded her she didn’t have to carry everything alone.

5. Self-Care Rituals

Short walks. Breathing exercises. Journaling. Quiet moments.
Little habits that created room for peace.

6. Understanding Fertility After Loss

Clear guidance from her healthcare provider offered reassurance and restored hope for the future.

And through it all, she discovered a truth many women need to hear:

Grief has no timetable.
Healing isn’t about “moving on.” It’s about finding strength again softly, slowly, one day at a time.

To anyone walking this path:
You are not alone.
Wishing you a gentle and blessed week.

14/11/2025

When she lost the pregnancy, grief didn’t come alone.
Her body felt every part of it.

The sudden drop in hormones hit hard
fatigue that made the simplest tasks heavy,
night sweats that kept her awake,
mood swings she couldn’t control.

Her breasts stayed tender.
The bleeding and cramping continued long after people expected her to move on.

And her family felt it too the sleepless nights, the stress, the quiet exhaustion.
Each person carrying the pain in their own way.

Miscarriage and baby loss are not just emotional wounds.
They leave physical changes, deep aches, and invisible scars that deserve care, rest, and compassion.

To anyone walking through this, you are not alone.
And to those around them let’s show real care.
Let’s listen.
Let’s be present.
Let’s make room for healing.

I trust you had a peaceful week.
Have a blessed weekend.
Much love from Midwife Adzo.

12/11/2025

"Why me?"
It’s a question many women ask after a miscarriage or baby loss. The pain runs deep guilt, anger, sadness, confusion all tangled in one heart.

But you are not alone.
Miscarriages can happen for many reasons sometimes due to fetal abnormalities, maternal age, cervical incompetence, or infections like malaria or syphilis. Some causes can be prevented, but often, the exact reason remains unknown.

Let’s start a conversation.
If you feel ready, share your story what happened, what helped you heal, or what you wish others understood.
Let’s break the silence.
Let’s talk about it.
Because healing begins when we share.

How has your week been so far?

10/11/2025

'It may be product of conception to them, but to me, it was my baby'.

There are many terms health care providers use that women going through pregnancy loss do not understand.

Let's explain some of these words to you today.
- Non viable means a pregnancy that will not continue to develop but hasn't yet miscarried.
- Anembroynic pregnancy or blighted o**m means the pregnancy sac is empty. The embryo (baby) stopped developing very early.
- Incompetent cervix means the neck of the womb which is your cervix opens or dilated long before it should.
- Molar pregnancy means an abnormal fertilised egg implants in the womb. The cells that should become the placenta grows quickly and take over the space where the baby would normally develop.

Are there some words you want explained to you?
Have you ever experienced miscarriage or baby loss?
How did you recover?
Would you like to share some personal stories with me?

You can reach out to me on 0201574700
More grace for the week!

07/11/2025

Losing a baby in pregnancy through miscarriage or stillbirth is still a taboo subject worldwide, linked to stigma and shame. Many women still do not receive appropriate and respectful care when their baby dies during pregnancy or childbirth

Pregnancy loss isn’t one story it’s many.
It includes miscarriage, molar pregnancy, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, neonatal death, and infant loss.
Each loss is unique, but the grief is real.
Understanding these helps us offer the right support.

Pregnancy loss is defined differently around the world, but in general a baby who dies before 28 weeks of pregnancy is referred to as a miscarriage, and babies who die at or after 28 weeks are stillbirths. (WHO)

Every year, nearly 2 million babies are stillborn, and many of these deaths are preventable. (WHO)

According to Ana Bonel et al (2024) ,
Exposure to extreme heat in pregnancy increases the risk of stillbirth.

As simple as hydration which is drinking enough water, can improve outcomes of pregnancies.
Let's be each other's keeper, let's encourage our friends and family to stay hydrated.

Share this so this information can reach other people. Have a blessed weekend

05/11/2025

A Conversation That Touches the Heart

Some stories never get told because they’re too painful to speak about the stories of babies who never got to cry, and pregnancies that ended before the world even knew they began.

We’re opening a tender but powerful conversation across all my platforms about baby loss and pregnancy loss.

We’ll talk about the silent grief many families carry, the emotional and physical toll it takes, and how we, as a community, can offer better support and compassion.

Whether you’ve walked this road, know someone who has, or simply want to understand and help this conversation is for you.

Let’s break the silence together. Let’s bring healing, awareness, and hope to the topic that so many experience but so few talk about.

03/11/2025

October came with pink ribbons, stories, and reminders about knowing our breasts and you showed up beautifully.

You listened, learned, checked, and shared.
But here’s something we often forget: breast awareness doesn’t end when October does. Cancer doesn’t wait for a specific month, and neither should we.

So as we step into November, let’s keep the lessons close still pay attention to every change, every lump, every unusual feeling. Keep checking, keep caring, keep talking.

Because your breasts deserve attention all year round, not just when the world turns pink.

I've got some exciting things to share with us this November. Stay connected fam!
Enjoy the best of the month.

Midwife Adzo

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