04/08/2025
Don't Ignore Your Body in the Name of Spirituality. Get It Right (Being H***y)
By Shadrach Osei-Mireku (Rev)
Introduction
In the pursuit of spirituality, many believers—especially young Christians, ministers, and devout leaders, struggle silently with their physical desires. One of the most misunderstood, suppressed, and mismanaged areas is sexual desire. Some hide behind long fasts and intense prayer vigils, hoping that their natural sexual urges will vanish. But here’s the truth: being h***y (sexually aroused) does not make you unspiritual. It makes you human. And ignoring your body in the name of spirituality can lead to guilt, confusion, unhealthy coping habits, and sometimes even moral failure.
It’s time to get it right.
1. God Created Your Body (Desires Included).
Sexual desire is not a curse; it’s a divine design. Genesis 1:27–28 tells us that God made man and woman in His image and blessed them to “be fruitful and multiply.” That blessing involves sexual union. The same God who calls us to holiness also created hormones. Desire is not sin—mismanagement of desire is.
It is important for the believer to acknowledge that the same body that kneels in prayer is also the same body that can experience sexual arousal. Spiritual denial of physical reality leads to double living: sanctified in public, struggling in private.
2. Suppressing Desire is Not the Same as Submitting It to God
Suppressing your sexual urges doesn’t make them disappear. Instead, they often manifest in harmful ways: po*******hy addiction, emotional manipulation, inappropriate relationships, or even distorted spiritual expressions.
In Romans 12:1, this is what we are told; “Present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God.” This includes your sexual body. Submission is different from suppression. Suppression avoids the issue. Submission invites God into it.
Do this;
Don’t rebuke your biology; steward it. Talk to God about your struggles. Journal it. Find accountability. Be honest in prayer. Real spiritual maturity involves integrating your physical self into your spiritual walk, not amputating it.
3. Being H***y is Not a Sin (But It Can Become a Trap)
There is a dangerous belief that “feeling aroused” equals sin. That’s a lie. Temptation is not sin, yielding to it in a way that dishonours God and others is. Even Jesus was tempted in all ways but did not sin (Hebrews 4:15). So when you find yourself aroused or attracted, the goal is not shame. The goal is discipline and direction.
1 Corinthians 6:18 warns us to flee sexual immorality, not sexual identity. Your sexual urges are not evil; but they need boundaries. Think of fire—it’s powerful, beautiful, and necessary in a fireplace. But uncontrolled, it burns homes down.
4. Holiness is Practical (Build Healthy Rhythms).
You don’t overcome desire by ignoring it. You master it through structure:
This is what to do:
Get accountability: Have spiritually mature friends or mentors you can talk to without fear of judgment.
Practice boundaries: Avoid environments or content that stir unhealthy lust. Not everything wrong is obvious; some are just unwise.
Exercise and diet: A healthy body contributes to a more regulated emotional and hormonal state. Don’t fast and ignore rest or fitness.
Channel your energy: Serve, create, study, work. Sexual energy is life energy, it can be directed positively.
5. Single, Saved, and Still Sexual? That's Okay
Many singles, especially in ministry, feel torn between spiritual expectations and physical realities. You’re anointed, yes...but you’re also a man or woman. Ignoring your body won’t make it disappear. Learn to wait well.
Singleness is not punishment. It’s preparation. Use this season to understand your body, master your desires, and learn healthy expressions. Be honest with God about your struggles. He’s not ashamed of your feelings.
6. Married and Still Struggling? You're Not Alone
Even in marriage, desire doesn’t automatically align. Hormonal changes, stress, mismatched libidos, or unspoken issues can cause confusion. Don’t spiritualise away what you need to address practically. Get counseling if needed. Communicate. Prioritize intimacy.
God is not glorified by a sexless marriage or by a partner constantly ignored. 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 talks plainly about mutual fulfillment. Your spirituality should make you a better lover, not a disconnected partner.
Conclusion: Integrate, Don’t Isolate
The body is not your enemy; it is your temple. Spirituality is not about denying your humanity, it’s about surrendering your whole self, body included, to God’s will and wisdom.
So yes, you may be h***y. That doesn’t mean you’re backsliding. It means you’re alive. The goal is not to feel nothing, the goal is to handle everything God’s way.
Don’t ignore your body in the name of spirituality. Get it right.
If this article speaks to you, share it with someone silently struggling with guilt, shame, or confusion. Let’s build a generation of believers who are spiritually deep, emotionally whole, and physically honest.
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