The Men Spirit

29/07/2025

Is Your Phone Controlling Your Life More Than You Think?

Guys, let's talk real for a minute.

You wake up, grab your phone. Work break? Check Instagram. Stressed? Scroll Facebook. Before bed? One more scroll through Reddit...

Sound familiar? 🤔

Here's what's actually happening: Your brain's reward system designed to help our ancestors survive is being HIJACKED by apps engineered to keep you hooked.

The stats are eye-opening:
Nearly 50% of men are addicted to their phones (vs 35% of women). And it's not just about "screen time" it's about how digital overstimulation is quietly stealing your:
🎯 Focus and mental clarity
😴 Quality sleep
💪 Motivation for real-world goals
🤝 Presence in relationships
⚡ Inner peace and confidence

But here's the empowering truth: You can take back control.
A digital detox isn't about becoming a hermit, it's about intentionally creating space for what actually matters. It's about rediscovering the strength that comes from stillness, the clarity that emerges from silence.

Ready to reclaim your edge?
We've created a practical guide with real exercises you can start TODAY whether you want to begin with phone-free mornings or go full weekend warrior mode.

Because the man you're meant to be is found in the moments of presence, purpose, and genuine connection.

Read the full guide here: https://www.themenspirit.com/the-dopamine-dilemma

Drop a 💪 if you're ready to break free from digital overwhelm!

25/07/2025

Ever feel like you're constantly chasing 'good enough' but it's always just out of reach? Yep, me too! My amazing colleague Alena Turley and I noticed this 'good enough' theme popping up when we were swapping Root Cause Therapy sessions and honestly, it's a bit of a sneaky trap.

It's like trying to catch smoke... you think you've got it, but then p**f! It's gone. This whole 'good enough' idea can actually hold us back from truly accepting ourselves. It keeps us stuck in a cycle of proving our worth, which, let's be real, is exhausting!

So this is my realization: You were always enough. No, seriously! You don't need to earn it or prove it. Our latest blog post, "The 'Good Enough' Trap: Why This Popular Mantra Is Failing Men" (and everyone else!), dives into how to ditch that endless chase and finally feel at peace with who you are.

Ready to stop playing 'catch the smoke' and start living? Click the link to read more and join the conversation:
https://www.themenspirit.com/blog/goodenough

What's your take on 'good enough'? Let's chat in the comments!
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Discover why the 'good enough' mantra leaves many men feeling empty. A men's therapist explores how masculine conditioning creates the trap of constant proving and offers a path toward authentic self-acceptance and mental wellness.

22/07/2025

WE ARE LOOKING FOR MEN TO SHARE THEIR JOURNEY AND INSPIRE OTHERS

Our "Two Voices One Circle" needs brave men willing to share what's alive within them: your struggles, your breakthroughs, your real story.

This isn't about having it all figured out. It's about the courage to speak authentically and the power of being witnessed by a brotherhood that gets it.

✨ We need 2 VOICES for each session
✨ We need men to HOLD SPACE and witness

Whether you're dealing with career pressures, relationship challenges, feeling stuck, or navigating life's curveballs - your story matters. Your vulnerability becomes a gift not just to yourself, but to every man listening.

This is a trauma-informed, judgment-free space where healing happens through connection. No advice-giving. No fixing. Just authentic sharing and deep listening.

Wednesday, 30th July
7:00 PM - 8:30 PM AEST
Online
https://lu.ma/43ok17iv

ALSO - Our monthly gathering is THIS FRIDAY!

Can't wait to connect again and see what surfaces for us. These gatherings create such a warm and welcoming environment where there's no need to DO anything or BE anyone special.

Just come as you are. Relax. Be present.

It's a space where men of all backgrounds come together to connect, grow, and support each other. Whether you're already on your healing journey or just starting to explore, you'll find the support you need.

Friday, 25th July
7:00 PM - 9:00 PM AEST
45 Miller Cres
Mount Waverley, Victoria
https://lu.ma/6cqnv88h

Join us at The Men Spirit for a safe space where men can connect, grow, and support each other. Discover the power of connection and growth. Our group focuses…

17/07/2025

Let's bust some myths about male grief. Many of us are taught to suppress our feelings, but that only leads to silent suffering.

Here are 5 common myths about male grief, and the truths that can set you free:

1.
MYTH: Time heals all wounds.
TRUTH: We learn to carry grief differently. Healing isn't about forgetting, but integrating the experience into your life.

2.
MYTH: Men should be strong and stoic.
TRUTH: Vulnerability IS strength. True strength lies in acknowledging your feelings and seeking support.

3.
MYTH: Grief has a clear set of stages.
TRUTH: Grief moves in waves. It's not a linear process, and feelings can resurface unexpectedly.

4.
MYTH: You need to get over it and move on.
TRUTH: Grief is unresolved love. It's about honoring that love and finding new ways to carry it forward.

5.
MYTH: Talking about grief makes it worse.
TRUTH: Sharing your story and connecting with others who understand can be incredibly healing. Isolation amplifies grief.

Join us for "Grief and Loss: The Why Me Question" on August 14th to learn how to transform pain into purpose. This workshop is a safe space for men to explore these truths and find authentic healing.

Early Bird: $15 AUD

Register: https://www.themenspirit.com/grief-loss-workshop-men

Which myth resonated most with you? Comment below 👇

Join The Men Spirit for a powerful online workshop on grief & loss. Learn to navigate your pain, find purpose, and connect with a supportive brotherhood. Exclusive for men. Register now!

12/07/2025

Men: An Invitation to Transform Your Relationship with Grief

After 20+ years in healthcare and men's work, I've learned something profound: most men carry unprocessed grief that impacts every area of their lives.

Not just grief from death - but from:
• Dreams that didn't materialize
• Relationships that ended
• Career setbacks
• Health challenges
• The gap between who you are and who you thought you'd be

This isn't about "getting over it" or "toughening up." It's about understanding that grief is unresolved love seeking expression.

"Grief and Loss: The Why Me Question" - 90 minutes that could reshape how you process life's inevitable losses.

📅 Thursday, August 14th, 11:00 AM AEST (Online)
💰 Early Bird: $15AUD

What You'll Discover:
✅ How to reframe the paralyzing "Why me?" question
✅ Practical tools for emotional regulation
✅ How grief can become your greatest teacher
✅ The power of authentic male community

This workshop fills a gap I see in men's mental health - a space specifically designed for how men process loss differently.

Your grief doesn't make you weak. Your willingness to face it makes you warrior.

Register: https://www.themenspirit.com/grief-loss-workshop-men

Questions? Comment below or message me directly.

04/07/2025

📢 July Newsletter 📢

Dive into our July newsletter from The Men Spirit! This month, we're exploring powerful topics like healing from grief, finding strength in shared stories, and connecting with your purpose.

Discover:
✨ Our special Grief & Loss Workshop
🗣️ How to share your story in 2 Voices 1 Circle
💡 Insights from Morteza Chalak on conscious love
🌳 Brotherhood in nature at Island of Men Community
🎧 A deep dive into inclusivity & masculinity on The Informed Perspective Podcast
📖 Why men avoid emotions and how to break the cycle

Plus, get your FREE 'Daily Questions for Men' to boost self-awareness and resilience!

Read the full newsletter here: https://mailchi.mp/ea875db555bd/july_newsletter

Welcome to the July edition of The Men Spirit newsletter! This month, we're diving deep into topics that matter to men: healing from grief, finding strength in shared stories, and connecting with purpose. We're excited to bring you insights from powerful voices in our community and opportunities to....

03/07/2025

Men: An Invitation to Transform Your Relationship with Grief

You know, after spending over 25 years working in healthcare, I've noticed something that really struck me: so many guys are walking around with grief they've never really dealt with, and it shows up everywhere, whether it is in their relationships, their work, how they handle stress, everything.

It's like they learned early on that they're supposed to just push through and keep going, but all that unprocessed stuff doesn't just disappear. It finds other ways to surface.

Not just grief from death but from:
• Dreams that didn't materialize
• Relationships that ended
• Career setbacks
• Health challenges
• The gap between who you are and who you thought you'd be

This isn't about "getting over it" or "toughening up." It's about understanding that grief is unresolved love seeking expression.

"Grief and Loss: The Why Me Question" - 90 minutes that could reshape how you process life's inevitable losses.

|Thursday, August 14th, 11:00 AM AEST
|Early Bird: $15 AUD (Regular: $30)
|Duration: 90 minutes
|Location: Online (Zoom link provided after registration)

What You'll Discover:
-How to reframe the paralyzing "Why me?" question
-Practical tools for emotional regulation
-How grief can become your greatest teacher
-The power of authentic male community

This workshop fills a gap I see in men's mental health - a space specifically designed for how men process loss differently.

Your grief doesn't make you weak. Your willingness to face it makes you warrior.

Register: https://www.themenspirit.com/grief-loss-workshop-men

Questions? Comment below or message me directly.

Join The Men Spirit for a powerful online workshop on grief & loss. Learn to navigate your pain, find purpose, and connect with a supportive brotherhood. Exclusive for men. Register now!

30/06/2025

We’re always looking for men who feel ready to share a piece of their story.
Not for attention. Not to perform.
But because speaking it out might lift a weight off your shoulders…
Or it might be the thing that helps another man realize he's not alone.

But if sharing feels too much right now, that’s okay too.
There’s power in simply being there.
No need to say anything. No fixing. No advice.
Just your presence in the circle can mean more than you know.

2 Voices 1 Circle is a space for men to show up as they are.
We meet online: safely, openly, and without judgment.

🗓 Next gathering: Wednesday 11am AEST
📍 Online –

Two Voices, One Circle is a free, fortnightly online men's circle dedicated to emotional well-being, self-development, authentic masculinity, and building…

27/06/2025

Nothing fancy, just a bunch of good men getting together tonight.

If you're around and feel like connecting, slowing down, or just being in a space where you can be yourself, come join us.

🕖 7PM – 9PM
📍 Mount Waverley Youth Centre (Room C), 45 Miller Cres
💰 Donation-based

No pressure. No expectations. Just show up.

Join us at The Men Spirit for a safe space where men can connect, grow, and support each other. Discover the power of connection and growth. Our group focuses…

25/06/2025

2 Voices 1 Circle
Wednesday 3rd July | 11:00am AEST
Tuesday 2nd July | 6:00 PM PT (Pacific Time)
Online & Free

This is a space for men to slow down, speak honestly, and be witnessed, without judgment or advice.
Each circle, two men bring something real they’re navigating. The rest of us hold space, listen deeply, and support with presence, not solutions.

Whether you come to speak or just to sit with brothers, you're welcome.

Here’s the link to register:
👉 https://lu.ma/4dhy5z1v

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Two Voices, One Circle is a free, fortnightly online men's circle dedicated to emotional well-being, self-development, authentic masculinity, and building…

23/06/2025

Just a little reminder to slow down for a minute, check in with yourself, and maybe even reach out to a mate. It doesn’t have to be deep, just real.

Men’s Minute Monday: https://chat.whatsapp.com/FXy7Ud00vA171p77zSsMQp

Also, we’ve got our face-to-face gathering this Friday, 27/6 at 7pm.
As good as tech is, nothing beats being in the same room, sharing space, and having real conversations.

Would love to see you there.

https://lu.ma/31jop7vi

Join us at The Men Spirit for a safe space where men can connect, grow, and support each other. Discover the power of connection and growth. Our group focuses…

20/06/2025

Day 30: Hope
Behind every statistic is a man who could choose life if given hope.
Your story isn't over yet.

Thirty days ago, we began with silence.

Today we end with hope, the bridge between suffering and healing.
Every man who reads this: your story can have a different ending.
Statistics don't define you. Society's expectations don't own you.
The darkness you've carried doesn't have to be permanent.

Hope isn't naive optimism, it's the courage to believe change is possible.
It's choosing tomorrow when today feels impossible.
It's one conversation, one call, one moment of reaching out.

To every man still fighting in silence: you are not alone.
To every man who shared his story: you are a warrior of hope.
To every man ready to begin: today is your day one.
The silence is broken. The conversation continues.
Your voice matters. Your life matters. Your healing matters.

This is not the end, this is the beginning.