04/05/2026
How does living with an LGBTQ+ identity in Malaysia shape one’s mental health?
In our latest publication in the Journal of LGBTQ Issues in Counseling, we describe this experience as “Finding Lighthouse in the Raging Sea of Expulsion.” Drawing on qualitative responses from 398 LGBTQ+ Malaysians, our findings show how many participants felt excluded in Malaysia and unable to find peace within themselves. Yet, amid this sense of exclusion, hope was not entirely absent. Like a lighthouse whose beam briefly sweeps across the darkness, participants encountered fleeting but meaningful moments of safety, affirmation, and connection that allowed them to be themselves, and supported their mental health.
Three key insights stood out to us:
(1) First, affirmation from long-term close friends can be deeply powerful. Being accepted by someone who had known them for a long time helped LGBTQ+ individuals accept their own identity and support their mental health, sometimes even more meaningfully than connection with LGBTQ+ communities alone.
(2) Second, emotional and identity suppression may not only reflect internalized stigma. For some LGBTQ+ Malaysians, muting themselves may also function as a culturally embedded strategy of care, an attempt to protect their loved ones from shame, conflict, or emotional distress.
(3) Third, online solidarity matters. Participants felt profoundly validated when they witnessed strangers defending LGBTQ+ individuals in hostile online comment sections. These moments offered a sense of existential relief, reminding them that they were not alone.
We wish to thank the 755 participants who completed this section of the KAMI Survey, and fellow colleague Aron and Kyle who are co-authors of this paper. The study is now available Open Access at https://doi.org/10.1080/26924951.2026.2628744