20/12/2024
在十多年的輔導工作中，大概有70%來找我的案主的起始原因(initial issue)都是感情問題。年紀由十多歲到五十多歲都有，分手不分手都弄得自己滿身傷痕、焦頭爛額、一身病痛。
往往，在面談的過程中，我們都會慢慢發現到，深藏在內的真正原因(core issue)，並非那一個他或她愛不愛，而是自己有沒有學懂愛自己。
真正的愛來自內在，是內在泉源。學習愛自己是一個很重要而漫長的成長課題，涉及很多認知上、理解上、行動上和修養上的探索和決心；同時亦是一條很有趣、很刺激和充滿驚喜的旅程！
借用我的一位案主的笑言：「點解個個見完你之後都會靚咗嘅？！」😁 於2025年，（為咗大家變靚嘅福祉🤣），我將會舉辦一系列的活動和工作坊，和大家一起Co-create屬於大家的成長旅程！請記得密切留意囉🩵
Do you love Me? Alice asked.
No, I don't love you! replied the White Rabbit.
Alice frowned and clasped her hands together as she did whenever she felt hurt.
See? replied the White Rabbit.
Now you're going to start asking yourself what makes you so imperfect and what did you do wrong so that I can't love you at least a little.
You know, that's why I can't love you.
You will not always be loved Alice, there will be days when others will be tired and bored with life, will have their heads in the clouds, and will hurt you.
Because people are like that, they somehow always end up hurting each other's feelings, whether through carelessness, misunderstanding, or conflicts with themselves.
If you don't love yourself, at least a little, if you don't create an armor of self-love and happiness around your heart, the feeble annoyances caused by others will become lethal and will destroy you.
The first time I saw you I made a pact with myself: "I will avoid loving you until you learn to love yourself."
From ‘Alice in Wonderland’
