Growing Your Potential

22/03/2018

This is a great summit - if you are looking for inspiration.

Join 6 top experts as they discuss the science and practice of lasting well-being in a changing world.

06/04/2017

http://www.coachingwithlene.com/are-you-feeling-scattered-or-distracted-how-to-find-more-grounding-in-a-busy-life/

Feeling distracted? Learn how to center and refind focus.

27/03/2017

VIDEO: Stop telling your brain to stay awake.

23/03/2017

If you dropped by my house it wouldn’t be unusual to see a few of us browsing our individual smartphones or laptops. My husband and I may be working or checking news (or husband checking sports results) and kids will do homework or staying connected with friends. The pressure to stay connected is in...

11/02/2017

This is such a great article. Like Mark I have had people asking for coaching because they want more. That's no problem but we need to uncover "For the sake of what"? This is the fundamental question that needs to be answered.

Success is often the first step toward disaster. The idea of progress is often the enemy of actual progress.

18/01/2017

Victor or Victim – part 2:

In Victor or Victim part 1, I talked about the context (mood and emotions) of your contents (your story, your difficulty, your dilemma, whatever you are telling yourself, your life story). Context is how you are being with the contents of your life. The idea is that, at any moment in time, with the content of your life you’re either being with that content in the “to me” space, which is victim consciousness (below the line) or in the “by me” space (above the line). Here, people have stepped from victim consciousness to victor; being a conscious creator of their experience.

Let me give you an example. My 13 year old has requested more freedom; freedom with his friends away from adults. My initial reaction was to go below the line and say no and attack the “messenger”. I quickly went into black/white thinking – clinging to my opinion that good behavior was not hanging out in the city alone. This is not one of my proudest moments but I believe it was a very humane response. We’re hard-wired to look out for threats. It’s part of our defense mechanism and we’ve survived because it works. It’s a natural reflex and helps us survive. The problem is that our brain cannot tell the difference between physical threat and threat to our identity or ego.

If I had been candid with my son, and myself, I’d noticed that I was scared for his safety and that a part of my mom ego was threatened as he was voicing his independence. I was in a state of threat and reacting accordingly. This is below the line thinking, giving away my power and more importantly impacts my relationship with my son. This is not the mom I want to be!

The key is to see this is happening so that you can shift your thinking. Please note these are states not stages. It’s neither good nor bad to be above/below the line. They’re just states. You will be reactive because of your defense mechanism but you can learn to shift to a place of trust.

What would it be like to act from this place in the present moment? The benefits are that you think better, relate better; less stress and more energy.

Here are some typical behaviors and statements that people use above and below the line. Again I ask you, where are you?

12/01/2017

Victor or Victim: It’s Your Choice

One of the things I help clients with is self-awareness. Self-awareness is the foundation for growth, happiness and success. It’s the process of understanding yourself and the ability to tell yourself the truth.

We are always operating in some sort of mood or emotional space. Our behavior has a kind of emotional tone to it. This emotional ‘mood state’ dictates our actions and behavior. The more self-aware we are, the more we have the power to change it. The first step is to understand what is going on.

We have a choice and you can think of it as the ‘line of choice’ between living above or below the line. Above the line, we take 100% responsibility. It’s a simple yet powerful belief that we create what happens to us. Think of it as ‘by me’. When we’re above the line, we are in a space of trust. We trust ourselves, we trust the environment. We’re open and curious and we’re really interested in learning.

When we are below the line, we are actually in a threatened state. We believe that someone or something out there is a threat to us then we go below the line and we become closed and defensive and we get really committed to proving that we’re right. This is ‘to me’ thinking. Common traits of below the line thinking are; blame games, problems, justification and denial.

At any given moment, we are either above or below the line. This is not a stage but a state of consciousness. It’s not good or bad, it just is. Can you locate where you are? Is this serving you for what you want to achieve?

In the next post, I will talk about why this is important and how you can make the shift from below to above the line.

11/01/2017

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05/01/2017

Saturday Open Day at Alive Wellness. Join lots of free workshops and talks. Come visit us. It's this Saturday 7th January!

My talk will help you move into 2017. We will look back at 2016 - acknowledging and appreciating the year it has been for you. Acknowledging achievements even in a small way, increases positive emotions such as self-respect, happiness and confidence. This is great for your personal growth and helps you become more resilient. I hope to see you there and don't forget to share the event. Tx

31/12/2016

A year is ending. Here's to a new year and new beginnings. Wishing you a happy 2017.

28/12/2016

Day 14: Try something new... I rode a camel today. New experiences do more than broaden your horizons. They improve your outlook on life. Whether it’s travel to a different part of the world, a dance class, or a new food, new experiences give you confidence to try new things.

You now have 12 new techniques to assist you in getting out of your own way and living a more joyous, passionate, energetic life. Try any of these when you are feeling stuck, sluggish or in a bad mood.

I have tried out all these techniques but don’t take my word for it – try it out yourself. S**t still happens. I still have to deal with problems and challenges and teenagers! But what have changed is my attitude and my stress levels. I have started having more patience. I don’t rush as much more. I see that things don’t upset me like they used to. I feel a greater sense of peace and calmness. I am finding myself being less reactive. So apply some of these tools as you experience your life. Perhaps you can begin to replace some of your habituated, reactive often negative response to life’s events with greater ease because of these techniques. And don’t forget to let me know how you get on. Good luck!