Dijan

Inner Contemplation Methodologies. Wellness, purposeful living & business strategy for self-led women

29/07/2025

There's a part of me I call my "mini-me" - the one who's full of doubt about whether I'm good enough, deserving enough, elevated enough, or doing things for the right reasons.

She has a lot of opinions.

She finds me selfish and self-centred when I don't do enough for my family. She calls me ignorant, spoiled, and horrible when I think I'm not contributing enough to the world.

She generates tremendous guilt around "non-doing" - not enjoying enough, not delivering enough, not connecting enough, not meeting enough people, not making the best out of life.

For years, this mini-me ran the show.

Her voice was so loud, so convincing, so persistent. She made me question every decision, second-guess every impulse, apologise for taking up space in the world.

But something has shifted through my spiritual practice. These thoughts that used to be my constant reality now feel more like... visitors. They come, they have their say, and they pass through.

The difference? I feel more aligned with my spirit.

I know this because I felt this same alignment during the pandemic years when I was making $500 a month, living with my family, with basically no external validation. Yet I felt elevated and aligned. Maybe even more so than now.

Now when my egoic self gets loud - when the mini-me starts her familiar litany of not-enough - I know what to do. I retreat. I meditate more. I listen for the silence underneath the noise.

The mini-me isn't the enemy. She's trying to protect me, keep me humble. But she doesn't need to be in charge.

What does your own "mini-me" tell you about yourself and your worthiness? 🕊️

24/07/2025

I fell in love twice in recent years with men who seemed absolutely perfect for me.

The first one - I remember thinking "This is exactly the kind of man I want in my life." Amazing conversations, aligned values, the way he approached life felt so inspiring. I was completely smitten.

But he wasn't available.

The second one simply didn't flow, despite all the apparent compatibility. When I really looked at it honestly, we weren't actually a match.

Both times, I felt genuine heartbreak.

But this isn't a story about romantic disappointment. It's about learning one of life's most crucial lessons.

Years ago, my dance teacher watched me during improvisation and said: "Dijan, you're so focused on reaching the window that you're missing all the incredible movement possibilities happening around you."

That feedback unlocked something profound.

My Ayurvedic doctor later explained it using detachment: "You're at point A and want to reach point B. Your job is to do your best to get to B. But where you actually end up? That's not up to you anymore."

This is the dance between effort and surrender.

With those relationships, the pain was real - and so was the gift. I'm genuinely grateful I was able to fall in love. My trust in what's possible was renewed. And if neither connection was meant to be, it's definitely for good reasons.

I've learned to trust that life is constantly redirecting me toward something better.

Sometimes losing what you think you want is life's way of making space for what you actually need. 💫

Where are you so focused on reaching "the window" that you're missing other possibilities?

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19/07/2025

There was a time when I approached creating anything like a military operation.

I'd plan my retreats with exact revenue targets, specific attendance numbers, detailed curricula delivered in perfect sequence. I wanted to control every variable, manage every outcome, ensure every participant had precisely the experience I'd designed for them.

When reality didn't match my rigid expectations - when numbers fell short or someone didn't respond to an exercise the way I'd hoped - it felt like failure.

I was exhausting myself trying to direct every moment instead of conducting the flow.

Then something shifted. I stopped being a director and became a conductor.

A director controls every detail - where actors stand, how they deliver each line, the exact timing of every movement. If someone deviates from the script, it's a problem.

A conductor works with the natural talents of each musician. She sets the tempo, guides the energy, brings out the best in each instrument. But she doesn't force the violin to sound like a piano.

This shift transformed everything.

Instead of rigid schedules, I started following my natural rhythms - my menstrual cycle, my daily energy patterns, my emotional flow. Some mornings I wake up wanting to tackle admin tasks. Other days I'm purely creative.

My one-to-one work became truly inspired. Clients find me effortlessly now. They often say "I've been thinking about this for a while and I'm ready to work with you." No convincing necessary.

Where are you trying to direct every detail instead of conducting the flow? 🎼

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10/07/2025

I used to let my happiness depend on everything outside of me — my partner’s mood, work going smoothly, social plans, workouts, yoga, all of it. If life looked good, I felt good.
But that was the trap. I had handed my power over to circumstances I couldn’t control.
The breakthrough?

Creating space for myself — a quiet, sacred cocoon — where I could reflect, face my shadows, embrace my light, and most importantly...

Own my power. 🌿✨

28/06/2025

I spent years being over-responsible for everything that went wrong in my relationship.

I thought this was humility—openness to learning, understanding my shadows, being willing to grow.

But what it really was? A guilt trap.

I'd analyze every conflict: What did I do wrong? How could I have handled it better? What shadow of mine contributed to this?

When things were good, I felt like a good partner. When things went sideways, I took excessive responsibility for the relationship's quality.

I thought I was being humble. Really, I was avoiding the harder truth: sometimes the relationship itself just isn't right.

Without realizing it, I started valuing myself as a partner based on my partner's approval. My self-worth became tied to how well I could fix, understand, or take responsibility for whatever was going wrong.

It took me years to realize that true humility in relationships means owning your part without taking on the whole.

Being grounded in reality includes recognizing when something isn't working—and that it's not always about what you need to fix within yourself.

Have you ever found yourself over-responsible for a relationship's problems? Where's the line between healthy self-reflection and taking on too much?

28/02/2025

Today is one of the most auspicious days of the lands where yoga and meditation comes from.

It is Mahashivaratri; the longest night carrying the potentiality of cosmic consciousness awakening in our being.

In the stillness, we find the language of the divine — one that transcends all understanding and speaks directly to our souls. ‘Silence is the language of God; all else is poor translation.’

In a world filled with noise, we often forget that true wisdom comes from within, through quiet reflection and listening.

I invite you to take as much time as you can to meditate tonight. Stay with your spine straight and embrace the moments of silence, for they are where the most profound truths are revealed. ✨

Tonight, we know at the door. Again, again and again.

14/12/2024

Growth is a continuous process.

Every step you take—whether it’s nurturing your body, mind, or spirit—is part of a larger transformation. We’re not meant to reach perfection, but to embrace the ebb and flow of progress, understanding that each moment offers an opportunity for growth. 🌱

Don’t rush the process. Honor where you are and trust that every phase is exactly where you need to be. You are always becoming the best version of yourself, and that’s where the magic lies. ✨

Keep evolving, keep thriving, keep shining. 🌟

07/12/2024

✨ Real Leadership is not about having all the answers or pretending to be perfect—it’s about embracing the full spectrum of who you are. 💫

It’s the vulnerability of humility, knowing that we are always learning, evolving, and willing to admit we don’t have it all figured out. It’s about staying grounded, open, and teachable, while also acknowledging that growth never stops. But vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s a powerful strength that allows us to connect deeply with others and with ourselves. 🌱

Then, it’s about having the courage to own your power, unapologetically. Knowing that your voice, your presence, your unique gifts are worthy of being shared with the world. True leadership comes from stepping fully into who you are—without shrinking back, without fear. When you embrace your own strength, you empower others to do the same. 🌟

When humility and courage unite, that’s when real leadership begins. It's not performative; it's authentic, empowering, and transformative.

Are you ready to lead from a place of true power and deep humility? 🌍

27/11/2024

Sometimes I find myself questioning—Is this the right path for me?

Am I repeating old patterns where my hard work and energy get overlooked or taken for granted? 🤔

It’s easy to get lost in these questions, to feel like I’m stuck in a cycle of frustration and uncertainty. But I’ve learned that sometimes, these feelings are just a reflection of my own fears around self-worth and value. They’re not always rooted in reality!

I’m choosing to open myself up to the process of feeling through it all, instead of reacting to it. I’m committing to releasing the mental drama, the overthinking, and the stories my mind loves to tell. 🌟

It’s not always easy. There are days when I wonder if I need to make difficult decisions, or if I’m just letting the natural fluctuations of life get to me. But in those moments, I remind myself that clarity comes with patience. I trust that life has a way of bringing in fresh perspective and the peace I’m seeking. 🌈

A deep breath in. A gentle tap on the heart. A steady focus on trusting the process, rather than reacting to the noise of the ego.❤️

Evolution is not linear, and sometimes, it feels messy. But I know that every challenge, every question, every feeling is part of the growth. And that’s what I’m here for. 🌱

It’s all part of the journey.

Trust the process. Trust yourself. You’ve got this. 🙏🏼✨

13/11/2024

It is one of those days.

I was digging through some old visuals, taking a trip down memory lane of my business's seven-year cycle. Instead of being lit up this time, I felt a dark and heavy cloud sinking in my entire being.

All the difficult feelings I felt along the way bundled up and hit me hard.

The disappointments of failures or `small` achievements.

Suppression of taking a wrong step or saying the wrong thing that would hurt me or others.

Frustration of doing things in the way `experts` tell me to do and failing each time.

Always feeling like swimming against the current with a total lack of encouragement on my journey from my family and friends.

Today I am not lifting myself from this blues. I am letting these feelings run their course. It is part of my journey.

Tomorrow is another day.

09/11/2024

What Does it Really Mean to Feel Grounded?

I am sure you`ve heard the term “grounded” a lot, but what does it actually mean?

Is it just a buzzword, or is it something deeper? How can we feel grounded—and what happens when we don’t? 🌱

If you have missed my masterclass on this theme introducing some powerful tools, get ready for the next one; this time on Linkedin. I`ll post the date/time in my stories.

If you are a little bit like me; always on the go, the idea of “feeling grounded” can seem foreign. It sure felt that way for me for a big portion of my life.

But the truth is, grounding is one of the most powerful tools for managing stress, anxiety, and even burnout.

When we’re not grounded, the consequences show up in your life as:
✨ Overwhelm
✨ Lack of focus
✨ Stress or anxiety
✨ Physical exhaustion
✨ Emotional burnout

These are the signs that we may need more grounding in your life. And, often, you don’t notice them until they hit hard.

Let`s talk about it; soon!

26/09/2024

🌟 Embrace the Journey 🌟

How often do we let our minds whisk us away from the present moment, tangled in a web of future scenarios? 🚀✨

We rush ahead, craving outcomes and results, but life dances to its own rhythm. 🎶🌱

Let go of the need to control and trust the process. 🌊💫 In the quest for future goals, don’t forget to cherish and be thankful for what’s unfolding right now. 🙏💖

Ask yourself:

Am I heading in the right direction?
Are the fruits of my hard work being overlooked?
Can I find harmony in this chapter of my life?
Do I need to make tough choices, or am I just reacting to temporary bumps on the road? 🛤️

Open your heart, breathe deeply, and tap into the present moment. 🧘‍♀️💓 Stay focused and keep your ego in check. Trust the journey—every step is part of your evolution. 🌟

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MY BACKGROUND

I studied the following areas and my work is a synthesis of the valuable teachings I have received from my teachers.

Yoga Therapy: Holistic approach to health integrating body, mind and soul through hatha, pranayama, kriya (purification), ayurvedic principles, mindfulness, psycho-spiritual work, meditation, diet and life-style adjustments. Traditional Ta***ic Practices: Meditation with long mantra, yantra, yagna (fire ceremony) and other elaborate practices. Study of meditation with Deities; with a focus on Dasa Mahavidyas – 10 Cosmic Powers of Wisdom.

Advanced Meditation Techniques: Vjnana Bhairava Ta**ra, Laya, Mindfulness, Mantra, Yantra, Music, Hridaya, Goenka Vipassana.

Kundalini Yoga: Advanced kundalini techniques for awakening and directing the Kundalini energy.