Harte Essence Psychotherapy

24/07/2025

🔥 Hot Take:

"Comfort isn’t healing. It’s where healing begins — but if you stay there too long, it becomes a trap."

I say this with love:
A lot of what we call “healing” today…
is just emotional sedation with better branding.

You light candles, sip tea, talk about your triggers —
but never go near the deep rupture beneath it all.

The truth?
Healing isn’t a vibe. It’s a process of re-alignment.
And alignment requires discomfort — the right kind.

That’s why in my work, I use the ALIGN framework:
It’s not just about soothing — it’s about real integration.

✨ Awareness — not just of what hurts, but how you avoid
🌀 Listening — to the body, not just the story
🔥 Integration — where insight becomes action
🪞 Grounding — in your values, not just validation
🌱 Nudging — gently but consistently beyond your comfort zone

We need to stop pretending that safety alone = transformation.
Safety is the start.
But change happens when we step into tolerable discomfort — on purpose, with guidance, with structure.

• You don’t need to stay comfortable.
• You need to become capable.

💬 Let’s Talk:

💥 Have you ever used comfort to avoid change?
💥 What’s your relationship with “emotional safety” — healthy or hiding?
💥 Where in your life do you need gentle discomfort to finally grow?

Agree or disagree? I'd love to hear your honest thoughts and engagement on this week's Hot Take!

23/03/2025

Anxiety: Your Hidden Ally, Not Your Enemy

For many, anxiety feels like an unwelcome intruder—racing thoughts, a tightening chest, an overwhelming sense of dread. It’s easy to want to push it away, to silence it, to fight against it. But what if anxiety isn’t here to destroy you? What if, instead, it’s an internal ally, trying to communicate something vital?

Anxiety is not the enemy; it’s a signal. It is your nervous system’s way of saying, "Something needs attention." It might be alerting you to unresolved emotions, pushing you toward growth, or trying to protect you from perceived harm. In essence, anxiety is the voice of your deeper self—sometimes distorted, sometimes too loud, but never without purpose.

From a Jungian perspective, anxiety can be seen as a call from the unconscious, urging you toward greater self-awareness. Carl Jung believed that inner turmoil often arises when we ignore aspects of ourselves that need to be integrated. Anxiety may be pointing to parts of you that have been neglected—dreams left unexplored, truths left unspoken, boundaries left uncrossed.

In psychosynthesis, anxiety is seen as an energy that, when properly directed, can fuel transformation. Rather than suppress it, what if we listened? What if we asked:

What is this feeling trying to tell me?

Where in my life am I feeling out of alignment?

How can I work with this energy rather than against it?

Even in existential psychotherapy, anxiety is acknowledged as part of the human experience—a reminder of our freedom, our choices, and the weight of our own existence. Instead of fearing it, we can embrace it as a motivator to live more authentically.

So, the next time anxiety visits you, take a breath. Rather than seeing it as an adversary, try meeting it with curiosity. What if, instead of battling it, you sat with it? What if, instead of resisting, you leaned in and listened?

Anxiety is not here to break you; it’s here to awaken you. And maybe—just maybe—by understanding its message, you can transform it from a source of distress into a guide toward deeper self-connection.

💬 What has anxiety taught you about yourself? Let’s start the conversation.

16/03/2025

🍀 Happy St. Patrick’s Day! 🍀

Today, we come together to celebrate the rich history, culture, and spirit of Ireland. St. Patrick’s Day is more than just a day of parades and festivities—it’s a time to reflect on the story of St. Patrick himself, a figure who symbolizes resilience, transformation, and the spread of kindness and faith. According to history, St. Patrick was brought to Ireland as a slave, escaped, and later returned to bring hope and unity to the people. Over time, his legacy grew into the global celebration we know today, a day that honors Irish heritage, community, and the deep connections we share with one another.

As we celebrate, let’s remember that the best memories are made when we look after ourselves and those around us. If you’re enjoying a drink today, do so responsibly—pace yourself, stay hydrated, and know your limits. Never drink and drive—make a plan to get home safely by using a designated driver, public transport, or a taxi. If you see a friend who needs support, step in and make sure they’re okay. St. Patrick’s Day is for everyone, whether you’re raising a glass or simply soaking in the festive atmosphere. You don’t have to drink to enjoy the day—there are countless ways to celebrate, from watching the parades and connecting with loved ones to exploring Irish music, stories, and traditions.

As the old Irish saying goes, “Is ar scáth a chéile a mhaireann na daoine”—we all live in each other’s shadow. Today is a day to celebrate community, kindness, and looking out for one another. Let’s honor this day with joy, care, and respect—for ourselves, for each other, and for the legacy of Ireland.

Wishing you all a safe, happy, and unforgettable St. Patrick’s Day! Sláinte! 🍀💚

21/02/2025

Delighted to now be a part of Mind and Wellness as an online psychotherapist. Please find me at https://www.therapyonline.ie/shane-harte for bookings and availability, alternatively reach out to me here.

Shane provides a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space for you to explore your thoughts, emotions, and experiences. His approach is rooted in compassion and authenticity, drawing from a blend of therapeutic modalities, including Jungian psychodynamics, psychosynthesis, and existentialism. Toget...

09/02/2025

💖 February is for Love—Starting with YOU 💖

Valentine’s Day often celebrates romantic relationships, but here’s a truth worth remembering:
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself.

When you cultivate self-love, it transforms how you show up in all your relationships—romantic, familial, and even professional.
✨ You set healthier boundaries without guilt.
🌟 You communicate with clarity and confidence.
💞 You give and receive love with empathy, compassion, and a deeper understanding of your worth.

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💖 Free Self-Love Checklist: 5 Daily Practices to Nurture Yourself

🧘 Mindful Moments: Spend 5-10 minutes connecting with your thoughts and breath without judgment.
✍️ Gratitude Journaling: Write down three things you appreciate about yourself each day.
💬 Positive Affirmations: Speak kind words to yourself, like: “I am worthy of love and care.”
🎵 Do What Brings Joy: Listen to a favorite song, read a book, or engage in a hobby that lights you up.
💙 Boundary Setting: Say no to things that deplete you and yes to things that nourish you.

Download this checklist or screenshot it as a gentle reminder that love starts from within.

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How Self-Love Strengthens Relationships:

💬 Better Communication: When you're kind to yourself, you're more patient and understanding with others.

🛡️ Healthy Boundaries: You’re less likely to overextend yourself, fostering mutual respect in your relationships.

💕 Increased Emotional Intimacy: Loving yourself builds the confidence to be vulnerable and authentic with your partner.

🎁 Giving from a Full Cup: When you care for yourself, you can give to others from a place of abundance rather than depletion.

At Harte Essence Psychotherapy, I’m here to help you explore your relationship with yourself, uncover your inner strengths, and deepen your connection with loved ones. Therapy can be a transformative space for growth, healing, and self-love.

💬 This Valentine’s Day, what’s one way you’ll show love to yourself? Share your ideas and inspire others!

25/01/2025

🌧️ Caring for Yourself and Each Other After the Storm 🌈

The recent storm has left many of us feeling shaken, overwhelmed, or even struggling to process everything that’s happened. In times like this, it’s important to prioritize both self-care and community care—because healing happens when we come together.

💙 Self-Care Tips After a Crisis:

Take small steps to regain a sense of calm—deep breaths, journaling, or a quiet moment with a cup of tea.

Give yourself permission to feel your emotions—whether it’s sadness, frustration, or relief.

Stay grounded by focusing on what you can control in the moment.

💚 Community Care Reminders:

Check in with your loved ones and neighbors—sometimes just asking “How are you holding up?” can mean so much.

Offer support where you can—sharing resources, lending a hand, or even just listening.

Remember, seeking help isn’t a weakness—it’s a sign of strength.

At Harte Essence Psychotherapy, I’m here to support you as you process, heal, and rebuild—whether the storm stirred up emotions, challenges, or simply a need for connection.

Let’s lift each other up and prioritize both our inner worlds and the communities we’re part of. Together, we’ll weather whatever storms life sends our way.

💬 How have you been taking care of yourself and others this week? Share your thoughts below—I’d love to hear from you.

18/01/2025

🌟 New Year, New Opportunities for Growth 🌟

As we welcome a new year, many of us are setting resolutions, dreaming of change, and hoping for a fresh start. But what if this year, instead of focusing solely on external goals, you turned your attention inward?

Therapy isn’t just about addressing challenges—it’s a transformative gift you give yourself.
🧠 It’s the space to explore who you truly are.
💡 A place to uncover your strengths and reframe old patterns.
❤️ An opportunity to heal, grow, and step into a more aligned version of you.

At Harte Essence Psychotherapy, I believe that mental health is as vital as physical health. Together, we can work to destigmatize seeking help and celebrate the courage it takes to prioritize your well-being.

💬 Let’s start a conversation:
What’s one resolution you’ve set this year for your emotional or mental health?
Share below or send a message—I’d love to hear from you.

✨ If you’re ready to make this the year you invest in yourself, reach out today. Your journey starts here.

Let’s move into 2025 with compassion, resilience, and a commitment to growth. Together, we can make mental health care a priority for all. 💙

Comment ‘YES’ below, and I’ll send you my free guide: 5 Ways to Support Your Mental Health in 2025!

25/12/2024

🎄✨ Wishing You a Season of Self-Care and Joy ✨🎄

The holiday season is here—a time for connection, reflection, and (hopefully!) a little rest. While it can be a joyful time, it’s also okay to acknowledge that it may bring challenges like stress, overwhelm, or even loneliness.

As we celebrate this festive season, I want to remind you of something important:

🌟 Your well-being matters, too.

Here are a few ways to prioritize yourself this holiday season:
🎁 Give yourself the gift of boundaries—say no when you need to.
🎄 Take moments to pause and breathe amidst the chaos.
🤝 Remember, it’s okay to ask for support if you need it.

At Harte Essence Psychotherapy, I’m here to support you in creating balance and nurturing your inner peace—this season and beyond.

Tell me, how will you take care of yourself this holiday season? Let’s inspire each other with ideas!

Wishing you a joyful, peaceful, and meaningful holiday season,
💙 Shane

15/12/2024

Common Misconceptions About Therapy 💡

1️⃣ “I have to have a huge problem to go to therapy.” False! Therapy is for anyone wanting to improve their mental or emotional well-being.

2️⃣ “Talking won’t change anything.” Therapy helps you find clarity and actionable tools for change.

3️⃣ “I’ll feel judged.” Absolutely not! A good therapist offers a compassionate, safe space.

At Harte Essence Psychotherapy, you’ll find support tailored to your unique journey.

💬 Book a free consultation today!

10/12/2024

Feeling overwhelmed or stuck? You’re not alone.

At Harte Essence Psychotherapy, I work with individuals who want to move beyond stress, self-doubt, or anxiety to create meaningful change in their lives. Together, we’ll work to heal old wounds, uncover hidden strengths, and embrace a future filled with clarity and confidence.

Whether it’s navigating life’s transitions, overcoming emotional challenges, or simply learning to live more authentically, I’m here to guide you.

💬 Take the first step today—book a free 15-minute consultation and let’s talk about how I can support your journey.

30/11/2024

🌿 Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey? Harte Essence Psychotherapy is Here for You! 🌿

I’m excited to share more about what Harte Essence Psychotherapy offers and how it can support you on your path to personal growth and transformation. My practice is grounded in compassion, authenticity, and a deep belief in the power of self-discovery.

✨ Why Choose Harte Essence Psychotherapy?
Specialised Approaches: I integrate Jungian psychodynamics, psychosynthesis, and existential therapy to help you navigate life's challenges and reconnect with your true self.
Tailored Support: Each session is designed around your unique needs, whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, or seeking deeper meaning.
Safe Space: You’ll find a warm, non-judgemental environment where you can explore your thoughts and feelings openly.

🌱 What Sets My Practice Apart?
Holistic Transformation: Therapy isn’t just about overcoming challenges—it’s about uncovering hidden strengths and transforming your relationship with yourself.
Free Initial Consultation: To make starting easier, I offer a free first consultation where we can discuss your needs and goals.
Workshops Coming Soon: Stay tuned for group workshops focusing on topics like self-esteem, managing anxiety, and shadow work.

📍 Located in Roscommon | Secure online sessions are also available.
I believe in the power of genuine connection and self-exploration. If you’re ready to take the next step, I’d be honoured to walk this path with you.

🔗 DM me or visit https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1417231 to schedule a consultation.

17/11/2024

In today’s fast-paced and often chaotic world, it’s easy to lose touch with the most essential relationship in our lives—the one we have with ourselves. Many of us are so busy navigating external demands that we neglect our inner world, leaving unresolved questions, buried emotions, and untapped potential. This is where psychotherapy steps in, offering a safe and transformative space to deepen self-awareness, confront inner conflicts, and ultimately enhance the relationship with the Self.

Drawing on approaches such as Jungian psychodynamics, psychosynthesis, and existentialism, psychotherapy provides a powerful framework for understanding who we are, why we struggle, and how we can live more authentically.

At its core, psychotherapy invites us to explore the multifaceted nature of the Self. In Jungian terms, the Self encompasses all aspects of our being—conscious and unconscious—and serves as the guiding force towards wholeness. However, this journey is rarely straightforward.

We often construct a “persona,” the mask we show the world, while relegating uncomfortable or unwanted aspects of ourselves to the “shadow.” Psychotherapy helps us identify these hidden parts, not to judge them but to integrate them, unlocking hidden strengths and freeing ourselves from self-sabotaging patterns.
Jung believed that individuation—the process of becoming one’s true self—requires embracing all parts of who we are. Through therapy, we confront our fears, aspirations, and contradictions, moving closer to a state of inner harmony.

While Jung focused on integrating the shadow, psychosynthesis emphasises the creative and transcendent potential of the Self. Developed by Roberto Assagioli, this approach views the psyche as a dynamic and evolving entity with an innate drive towards growth.

In psychosynthesis, we learn to recognise our subpersonalities—the inner voices or parts of ourselves that vie for attention. Whether it’s the Inner Critic, the Perfectionist, or the Dreamer, each part has something to teach us. Therapy helps us mediate between these voices, fostering a stronger sense of inner leadership.
Beyond resolving inner conflicts, psychosynthesis encourages us to connect with our higher Self—the aspect of our being that seeks meaning, purpose, and unity. By aligning with this deeper essence, we can make choices that reflect our truest values and aspirations.

Existential psychotherapy, rooted in the works of thinkers like Viktor Frankl, Rollo May, and Irvin Yalom, addresses the fundamental questions of existence:
Who am I?
What is my purpose?
How do I cope with the inevitability of loss and death?
Rather than offering easy answers, existential therapy encourages us to confront these uncertainties with courage and authenticity. By doing so, we discover that meaning isn’t something we find—it’s something we create.

Therapy can help us take ownership of our choices, recognising that while we cannot control every circumstance, we are responsible for how we respond.
Living authentically means aligning our actions with our values, even when doing so feels uncomfortable or risky. Therapy provides the support needed to navigate this process.

How does psychotherapy enhance the relationship with the Self?
Therapy acts as a mirror, reflecting back our patterns, motivations, and emotions. With greater awareness, we can break free from automatic reactions and choose more consciously.
As we explore our vulnerabilities and wounds, we learn to treat ourselves with the kindness and understanding we often reserve for others. By challenging limiting beliefs and stepping outside our comfort zones, we unlock new possibilities for personal and relational fulfilment.

Psychotherapy is not about fixing what is “broken”; it’s about discovering the beauty and strength that lie within the complexities of the human experience. By engaging with different approaches, we embark on a profound journey of self-exploration—one that helps us reconcile with the past, live fully in the present, and step boldly into the future.

If you’re ready to deepen your relationship with yourself and explore the possibilities of a more authentic and meaningful life, psychotherapy offers a supportive and transformative path.

Would you like me to help you take the first step? Reach out today, and let’s begin this journey together.