15/06/2025
If you’re someone who deeply self-reflects, you need to be very aware of something crucial: most people don't. They project. This is an incredibly important awareness to cultivate because you might mistakenly self-reflect on their projections, thinking that they, too, are engaging in honest introspection. You can easily get lost in this confusing loop of self-questioning, often based on people gaslighting you or subtly inducing self-doubt, simply because they are unwilling or unable to turn the mirror toward themselves.
So, before you consider what someone else says to you about yourself, first of all, be absolutely sure that it comes from a person who is not only able to take accountability for themselves, but is also genuinely in the state of mind of trying to understand you, rather than judge. Understand that many people are not willing to confront their own flaws or turn the mirror to themselves. They don't care if they induce self-doubt and mental fog in you, as long as it helps them get away from their own wrong-doing. Not to forget those who know you are someone who self-reflects, and are simply using that very quality against you to manipulate you.
Self-awareness is beautiful, a powerful tool for personal growth. But that being said, external awareness—awareness of others' patterns and intentions—is just as important, if not more so, in order not to fall into other people's toxic traps. This commitment to truth, even when uncomfortable, allows you to live with unfiltered emotions and clarity.
~ Unknown
