13/08/2025
Most people don’t randomly decide to avoid difficult conversations …..instead, they’ve learned to stay away from conflict as a way to avoid painful feelings they haven’t yet learned how to manage. Still, avoiding topics leaves the other partner left in the dark, confused, and/or unresolved…..feelings which don’t foster relationship closeness.
At the same time, there are times when it makes sense to postpone a topic. Sometimes the timing is off, one or both partners are too triggered to address the topic with emotional safety, or someone needs space to get more clear about what they think and feel.
It’s not always easy to know when it’s avoidance and when it’s healthy postponing (and sometimes it’s some of both), but here are some guidelines. ❤️
