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29/05/2026

Most of the women I work with are the capable ones.
The ones other people lean on.
The ones who can explain exactly why they do what they do and still can’t stop doing it.

That’s not a knowledge problem.
It’s a nervous system still running an old script.

On Monday, June 1, I’m running a free 75-minute live workshop on exactly this, how attachment, nervous system patterns, and protective responses shape the way we relate, cope, and move through the world.

🗓 Monday, June 1 · 6PM Israel / 9PM AEST
Free & online

The full breakdown is in the slides.
Comment ME and I’ll send you the link 🤍

13/05/2026

A yellow papaya. The birds chirping. The cold water.

That's it. That's the practice of mindfulness.

Mindfulness isn't meditation apps or sitting in silence for 20 minutes. It's this, letting something real land in your senses and pull you out of your head and into the present.

Clinically, this is what it does:
— Activates your parasympathetic nervous system (rest & digest)
— Lowers cortisol
— Interrupts the anxiety thought loop
— Brings you back into the present moment

When you've experienced trauma, your mind is constantly somewhere else. The past or the future. Mindfulness is one of the most evidence-based tools we have.

So what can you see, smell, taste, hear and touch right now?
If your body is still waiting to exhale, I see you. 🤍

30/04/2026

You feel responsible for how everyone around you feels.

You don’t just notice other people’s emotions. You’ve made it your job to manage them.

You:
• check in first
• apologise first
• smooth things over first
• swallow your own reactions to “keep the peace”

It looks like being caring. But inside, it’s exhausting and lonely. You hide your own needs because you don't want to be "another thing" for people to handle.

This isn’t just a habit. It’s a survival strategy from a time when other people’s moods were unpredictable, and love felt conditional on you being "easy" and "understanding."

Your nervous system learned: “If they’re okay, I might be okay.”

Real healing isn't just "setting boundaries." It’s working with the part of you that panics at the thought of disappointing someone, so you can stay with yourself instead of abandoning yourself to fix them.

You’re over-functioning for people who were never meant to be your responsibility. You are allowed to stop hiding and finally be seen, too.

Save this if you’re tired of being the one who holds it all together.🦋

❤️

15/04/2026

There’s a moment where you realise…
you can see the pattern clearly now.

You’re aware.
You’ve done the work.
You’re trying.

And it still happens.
Your chest tightens.
Your body goes into protection.

You react before you can choose differently.
That’s often the part that brings the most self-doubt.

But this isn’t where you’re failing.
This is how your body has learned to protect you.

❤️

19/11/2025

This might trigger you… and I hope you let it.

You say you want a healthy relationship
but the moment someone treats you well, shows up, or tries to be consistent…
you lose interest.
You get bored.
You find a flaw.
You pull away.
You shut down.
You sabotage it.

And then…
you run right back to the person who keeps you anxious, guessing, and waiting.
The one who gives you crumbs.
The one who never fully chooses you.
The one who activates every old wound you hoped you were “over.”

Here’s the part you may not want to hear:
It’s not chemistry.
It’s trauma.

Your nervous system is more comfortable
with inconsistency than safety.
With anxiety than calm.
With intensity than intimacy.

Because the part of you that learned love through chaos
doesn’t know what to do with someone who doesn’t hurt you.

If this makes you defensive, angry, or “not in the mood” to keep reading
that’s the trigger.
That’s the part of you that still believes chaos= connection.
That’s the protector who is terrified of real closeness.

This isn’t blame.
This is survival.
This is the body doing what it had to do
when no one showed you what safe love feels like.

The trigger isn’t the problem.
The trigger is the map.
It shows you exactly where the wound lives
and how your body is trying to protect you
even if it’s hurting you now.

You’re not broken.
You’re patterned.
And patterns can be rewired, gently, slowly, safely
when you’re ready to look at the places you avoid the most.

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05/11/2025

I didn’t find spirituality by seeking it.
I found it in the moments I refused to abandon myself.

18/08/2025

When you’ve lived in survival mode, calm can feel unfamiliar.
But safety isn’t something you think, it’s something you feel.

Here are 3 tools to support your nervous system:
✧ Hand on heart + belly. Breathe in for 4, hold for 4, release for 4.
✧ Look around: name 5 things you see.
✧ Movement: stretch, sway, or shake it out.

You’ve overcome the hard times. Now your body just needs to learn it’s safe to release.

✨ My Weekly Nervous System Journal is coming soon.
Want early access? Comment “WANT” and I’ll add you to the list 🌿

04/08/2025

I know how heavy this thought feels and I want you to know you’re not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with you.

When you’ve been through trauma, it’s so easy to minimize your pain… to believe it wasn’t bad enough or that you’re weak for still feeling this way.

But trauma doesn’t heal just because time has passed.
It’s not about how much you’ve endured compared to someone else.
It’s about what your body went through—and how it’s still protecting you now.

Beating yourself up won’t make you heal faster.
What helps is giving your mind and body the space, kindness, and support it needs to process what happened and finally learn to feel safe again.

This is the work we do, releasing what’s been trapped in your body, calming your nervous system so your body can feel safe and helping you move forward with self trust and acceptance.

You’re not broken. You’re human. And your story matters💛

🌿 Save this post for the days you’re hardest on yourself as a reminder you deserve kindness.

21/06/2022

With so much happening in the world and life slowly returning to “normal”. We still need to remember to take time out to prioritize ourselves. We have spent the past few months in isolation and quarantine and now how do we slowly adjust to seeing friends, returning to work and also making time to be on our own. Accepting that it’s actually okay to not be social everyday, saying no to events or people we don’t want to be doing or seeing or being in environments that might be triggering for us. These are all healthy ways of choosing you and prioritizing your needs and wellbeing.
I choose me today. Do you? ❤🧘‍♂️
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20/06/2022

Moving from surviving to thriving.

A survivor personality type within a trauma context is someone that has the belief that the world is an unsafe place and they are unable to rely/trust anyone. Surviving means that as a child you learnt that the only person that was ever going to be able to meet your needs, is yourself. As an adult you became fiercely independent, self sufficient and emotionally detached/ numb (because this is what kept you safe). Whilst in survival mode, your body is in a constant fight, flight, freeze mode and therefore it can be difficult to rationalise and change situations, thoughts, feelings and behaviours when our body feels it's under attack.

The “work” done in this space is to have awareness, change our beliefs, reparenting the inner child, trusting yourself and your judgements and breaking unhealthy patterns and relationships that retraumatize us. Sounds easy huh? 😋 It all begins now with you.

Making the decision to choose you and committing to your healing journey is the first step to recovery. Saying no to the things that no longer serve you, the people and places that trigger old wounds and to make the decision that you no longer just want to survive in life, you want to really thrive at it. 🙏

Carli Rothschild Trauma Specialist

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