Daniella Krause - Couples & Intimacy Therapist

20/06/2017

What is "The Ideal Relationship"?
The ideal relationship is an interdependent relationship. First as children we are all dependent. We start out dependent on our parents for survival, but we grow up and we should become independent. The same is often true in relationships. Unfortunately many people start out being dependent on each other. They get married for the wrong reasons, to escape other problems or because they think being married will make them feel better about themselves. Growth is becoming independent, no longer 'needing' each other. One has to be independent before one can become interdependent, which means not needing each other, but choosing to be together, because together you are stronger and better than alone.

18/06/2017

Codependency and Boundaries in a marriage.
Codependency is not just about drug and alcohol addictions. It involves other inappropriate or addictive behaviors within relationships as well. Many times we allow others to mistreat us, while we play the part of the noble spouse, who is so kind, so giving and so loving, helping our spouse through all their difficulties. Really our behavior is disgusting and unhealthy, because we are enabling another's inappropriate behavior. Codependency and the issue of having healthy boundaries are interrelated. Having healthy boundaries means that we do not take responsibility for that which is not our responsibility. We do not pick up the ball that someone else drops. It means we allow others to suffer the consequences of their own mistakes. We do not pay their price for them.

15/06/2017

Try to take a moment for self-care today. It doesn't have to be big or time consuming, you just need to do something kind for yourself

Here are a few ideas;

1. Think three loving thoughts toward yourself.

2. Take a walk and thank your body for the ability to carry you forward.

3. Take a warm bath and enjoy treating yourself to this peaceful time.

4. Look in the mirror and give yourself three compliments.

5. Take 5 minutes before bed to do some gentle stretches while you take deep calming breaths through your nose.

There are many other ways you can practice self-care. Try to make it a priority to care for yourself. You are your number one ally.

11/06/2017

Types of Infidelity
Several different types of infidelity can occur in a relationship.
• An object affair can be described as the neglect of a relationship for the sake of pursuing an outside interest. This pursuit may reach a point of near-obsession.
• In a s*xual affair, one partner may have s*xual in*******se outside the relationship, but he or she generally experiences no emotional attachment to the other person. Studies show that men have a more difficult time forgiving a s*xual affair than women do: women appear to be more likely to forgive extramarital intimacy when emotions are not involved.
• A cyber affair, or infidelity committed through s*xts and chats, may remain entirely online and never reach the point of s*xual intimacy. This type of affair might also include the viewing of po*******hy, which some people consider to be a form of infidelity.
• An emotional affair occurs when one partner becomes emotionally attached to another person, generally of the gender to whom one is attracted. In an emotional affair, a person might spend hours chatting online or talking on the phone to someone other than his or her partner. An emotional affair can have a negative effect on a relationship because a person engaged in emotional infidelity often discusses relationship problems with the object of his or her attachment, rather than with his or her partner. S*xual in*******se is usually not part of an emotional affair.
• An affair might also combine s*xual and emotional intimacy. This is generally considered to be a secondary relationship, and most would view this as infidelity.

09/06/2017

Trusting Yourself
after cheating many people felt that they first of all had made the mistake of marrying the wrong person. Now they don't trust themselves in making decisions regarding choosing a mate. Many of us also recognized that we had made many wrong decisions along the way in our relationships, allowing abusive, codependent and inappropriate behavior in an effort to keep peace. The problem was at the time we did not even recognize that these behaviors were abusive and/or codependent. We were unconsciously incompetent - that is doing the wrong things and not even aware of it.

06/06/2017

Ever wondered what is an ideal relationship?
The ideal relationship is an interdependent relationship.
First as children we are all dependent. We start out dependent on our parents for survival, but we grow up and we should become independent. The same is often true in relationships. Unfortunately many people start out being dependent on each other. They get married for the wrong reasons, to escape other problems or because they think being married will make them feel better about themselves. Growth is becoming independent, no longer 'needing' each other. One has to be independent before one can become interdependent, which means not needing each other, but choosing to be together, because together you are stronger and better than alone.

04/06/2017

10 Signs He's Not Satisfied

Most women think that once their partners reach an or**sm, they are s*xually satisfied. But according to men, this is not always the case. According to a recent survey, only one out of three men are s*xually contented in bed.
1. Your man is ma********ng more frequently than the usual. Though occasional ma********on is normal as it is considered universal in men, excessive s*xual stimulation of self is a sign of s*xual discontentment.
2.Your man seems to have an increasing attachment for p**n. Men are naturally visual. Attractive women in p**n videos boost up their desire for s*x. P**n is a quick and an accessible way of fulfilling an unsatisfied s*xual fantasy.
3. He comes home every night tired and exhausted. Some unsatisfied men work hard during the day to disconnect himself from the reality occurring inside the bedroom – that his s*xual needs are ignored. For men, this might be a better option than going to bed every night frustrated.
4. Unsatisfied men seem more active than the usual in sports and in other activities. Playing and watching more sports is a way to distract their minds from their s*xual unhappiness.
5.Your guy has developed an intense need to tell s*xually explicit jokes or stories when you are with friends. The jokes often involve a statement or two about men’s biological need for adequate action in the bedroom. This might be their way of making a hint that they need more s*x.
6.Your man looks at other women. Checking out attractive women distracts them and helps fulfills their s*xual fantasies.
7.Your man turns into a narcissistic guy who is more preoccupied with the way he looks. He begins to criticize himself about his bulging stomach belly and seems to spend more time in the gym. This is might be your man’s way of calling out your attention that he is a s*x raging machine.
8.He keeps the light off. It is a technique that prevents s*x from occurring. He’d rather not have s*x than to get it half-filled.
9.He refuses to take responsibilities at home hoping you might notice that his needs are not being met.
10. His old habits are back. Drinking and Friday nights with the boys turn into an everyday routine. These are his ways of compensating for the lack of s*xual satisfaction.

04/06/2017

Hi, I am Daniella.
I am a couples and family therapist with a specialization in s*xuality, intimacy, newly married connection.
I have worked for over 25 years in the US, Germany and in Israel with both secular and religious clients – from all faiths and sects.
Discretion guaranteed, there is a supreme need to be sensitive and respectful to those suffering with these issues.

I have created programs that have been proven to be successful for couples in need within a very short span of time.
I have lectured at numerous international conferences and meetings and group sessions and would be happy to discuss any issues you may have over the phone before setting up a clinic meetings.
You can find my clinics in Haifa, Jerusalem and Zichron Yaakov. I also do home visits.

13/01/2016

הצטרפי לקורס ייחודי להכשרת יועצות זוגיות.
בהעדר מוסדות להכשרת מטפלי ויועצי נישואים-אנחנו זקוקים לכישורייך בהשכנת שלום בית.יש לך הזדמנות להירשם לקורס ייחודי גם ללא תואר טיפולי או רקע בפסיכולוגיה
בקורס המתקיים בתל אביב בימי שלישי מאמצע פברואר ,אנחנו נגלה לך את הסודות המקצועיים פתרון המשברים,ותוכלי להעצים את עצמך ואת בנהזוג שלך.
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11/11/2015

אנשים מופתעים מכך שייעוץ מיני יכול להיות כל כך חזק ואסרטיבי – ויכול להפוך כל תחום בחיים. האם אתה מוכן להסתפק בלהיות רק בסדר?

04/08/2015

HERE is some general info on Or***ms based on all the questions I have received recently
בהתחשב בכל השאלות אשר קבלתי לאחרונה בנושא אורגזמות החלטתי לספק קצתמידע בסיסי



MULTIPLE OR***MS

Dodson’s descriptions of or**sm which she outlines in her excellent book Or***ms for Two come from over 30 years of teaching women to or**sm, and her own or**smic experience, which may be unparalleled. Her descriptions of or**sm are guided by her own biases, which favors ge***al stimulation, and while she discounts the experience of some women, these descriptions offer a great starting point to discuss the multitude of ways men and women can experience or**sm. Below is a summary of some of her or**sm types, with additional comments.

Pressure or**sms. Dodson ties these to early childhood experiences rocking back and forth or ma********ng by squeezing your legs together. This or**sm comes from indirect stimulation, no rubbing, but instead applying pressure (by leaning heavily against or on something). As children we may engage in this kind of self soothing and s*x stimulating behavior even if it doesn’t result in an or**sm the way we think of them as adults. A study published in the journal Pediatrics in 2005 took note of this very common form of self-stimulation, particularly in young girls. Some adults may bring this behavior into their s*x lives and have or**sms from it.

Tension or**sms. This is the or**sm that comes from direct and intense stimulation usually while you are holding your body and muscles tight and tense, and holding your breath. Dodson considers tension or**sms the most common, favored because they are quick and dirty. She also calls them “peak or**sms” as they offer an intense build up followed by a sudden release. Tension or**sms could be our default because of early s*xual experiences, which are often secretive and quick. It’s often been suggested that for men, premature ej*******on is a result of learning early on how to get aroused and or**sm quickly. For women too, early experiences can influence later ones, and Dodson encourages people to try to experience more or**sms beyond these, even if they do do the trick.

Relaxation or**sms. Dodson describes this type of or**sm as coming not from a build up of tension, but from deep relaxation during s*xual stimulation, where you continue to release tension and relax your muscles and eventually the or**sm sneaks up on you. As opposed to the “peak or**sm” Dodson cites Shree Rajneesh, a Ta***ic s*x master and author of Ta**ra, Spirituality and S*x , who refers to these kinds of or**sms as “valley or**sms”.

Combination or blended or**sms.Ideally or**sm is a fluid process (no pun intended) and if s*x play lasts long enough you’ll get to enjoy more than one experience during or**sm, which we can call a combination or**sm. For Dodson, who has been teaching women to or**sm for over 30 years, combination or**sms involve a specific set of actions, including: “cl****al stimulation, vaginal stimulation, PC muscle contractions, pelvic thrusting, and breathing out loud.” One could broaden this definition to include or**sms that offer a variety of experiences and opportunity for you to pay attention to the different waves of or**smic feelings.

Multiple or**sms. While female multiple or**sms are more often talked about, both men and women are capable of having multiple or**sms. Dodson distinguishes between multiple or**sms and the “aftershocks of pleasure” that follow a big or**sm, which some people might call or**sms, and which allows them to count 20 or 30 or**sms a night. One of the pitfalls of multiple or**sms is the trap of waiting for them and having anxiety about whether or not you’ll have them. Do either of these things and your attention will be taken away from the pleasure you’re feeling, which is a waste of an or**sm whatever number it comes in.

G spot or**sms. The g spot debate is far from over, and while Dodson doesn’t discount them, she favors cl****al stimulation at least being in the mix, and offers a wary attitude to those who argue for or**sms that come from pe*******on alone. Nonetheless, many women report or**sms that come from g spot stimulation being fundamentally different from or**sms that come from other kinds of stimulation, and given the number of women who have written and talked about it, they certainly deserve a place in the or**sm encyclopedia.
Fantasy or**sms. Dodson largely discounts the idea of or**sms that result from mental stimulation alone (which is not surprising given her belief in the supremacy of cl****al stimulation). In fact there have been several studies and years of anecdotal reports by women who have or**sms without any physical contact, and from mental fantasy alone. There is a tendency by many to see or**sms from fantasy as being less than other kinds of or**sms, but this attitude seems to come mostly from rigid thinking about the right and wrong way to or**sm, and less from people’s personal experiences. דניאלה קראוזה, מ.א
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Daniella Krause,M.A.
KOSHER FAMILY COACHING CENTER
kosherfamily@gmail.com
077 436 1430
0545359072

16/07/2015