06/01/2026
How To Master Going Down On Someone
A no-nonsense guide to mind-blowing cu*******us.
Eating p***y, licking out, going down on someone, eating someone out...there are about as many ways to talk about oral s*x as there are ways to do it. Cu*******us focusses on c**toris stimulation, which can be seriously enjoyable when done right: even more so than pe*******on for many people.
If you're wondering how to lick someone out really well, give this step-by-step p***y-eating guide a read, with tips from certified s*x expert educator for Bedbible.com Isabelle Uren. Really want to level up your oral s*x game? Keep scrolling for s*xpert tips on the Kivin method—an oral s*x hack which claims to make someone or**sm within three minutes—and how to use your mouth and hands at the same time, too.
Our first tip? Remember that all v***as are unique, and what works for one person might not do it for another. "Everyone is different so there are no hard and fast rules for giving great oral s*x," says Uren. "One of the most important skills is being able to communicate with your partner and read their body language so you can adapt to suit them."
Eating p***y—How to eat a girl out
Step 1: Kiss your way down there
Make your way down their body slowly. To amp up the tension, mark this path with small kisses beginning from their neck and proceeding down to their pelvic region. "Build arousal by using your tongue and mouth to stimulate their whole body without going near their v***a, giving them a taste of what's to come," says Uren.
Eye contact is fine. It's an intense move, and depending on who you're going down on, it could be very creepy or it could be very hot. You feel it out and consider the context of the hook-up—is it someone you've just met (maybe pass!) or is it a longer-term relationship (see how it goes!)?
Before you take the plunge, experiment with some sensual kissing up and down their inner thighs. Not totally necessary, but I'm just saying they probably wouldn't not be into that—a little teasing like this can increase the anticipation.
Step 2: Find the c**toris
Once you’ve built up some tension, move on to the ge***al area. "When they are fully aroused, you can gently move into c**toral stimulation by tracing your tongue around the outside of their c**toris," says Uren. In case you’re unsure of what that is, it feels a lot like a bean and can be found on top of the l***a (the fleshy 'lips' of the va**na). There's no shame in asking for directions: if you can't find the c**t, ask them to guide you.
Before you really get started, you need to keep in mind that the c**toris is super sensitive and has more nerve endings than the p***s. It's incredible—and it's the source of or**sms for most people with v***as.
So, familiarise yourself with the c**toris. Start thing off right by DJing (using your fingers to rub the c**toris) then introducing your mouth and tongue—this is a great opportunity to tease your partner, if they're into that.
"Use the flat of your tongue for more broad stimulation over the c**toris and l***a rather than just using the tip, as this can feel a little pointy," suggests Uren. "If your partner isn't too sensitive and wants more intense c**toral stimulation, you can use one hand to lightly lift the area above the l***a up to release the c**toris from the c**toral hood."
Step 3: Stimulate their whole v***a
While the external part of the c**toris is the most sensitive, the majority of the organ (and it is an organ) is actually hidden inside the l***a and around the va**na. Stimulating other parts of the c**toris can lead to a more satisfying experience and intense or**sm.
So, while you focus most of your attention on the (external) c**t, don't be afraid to mix it up and lick, kiss, suck other parts of their v***a and l***a.
"For more intense sensations, you can use your whole mouth to stimulate their v***a—a little similar to motorboating but slower, more sensual, and definitely no sound effects," suggests Uren.
When it comes to the c**t, lick it up, down, and all around, but remain focused on and aware of the pressure of your tongue. Start off lightly and gradually increase the pressure and speed if their body responses and noises point to yes. You can also play with the shape of your tongue on the c**toris in order to mix it up. Some people like a broad flat tongue, others like a more pointy tip. It really is a matter of personal preference and exploring what your partner prefers by listening to how their body reacts.
You can also try the Kivin method. It claims to get women and people with v***as to or**sm in a matter of minutes...Whether you believe that or not, it's still fun to try! It's actually really simple: instead of coming at oral s*x from in between your partner’s legs, approach it from the side and lick up and down.
Step 4: Ask if they like it
Seriously, ask if they like it. Not only does this add a good intro to dirty talk, but also, not all v***as are the same—far from it. Vulvas come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and sensitivities, so you're going to run into many different preferences depending on your partner at the time.
More pressure or a certain tonguing may be better for one person versus another. They may prefer it slow, hard, in circles, or up and down. If you're already passing this with flying colours, asking how they like it is 100% a turn on anyway and opens the door to more honest s*xual communication.
Plus, don't be afraid to show them how much you like it. "Be enthusiastic and let your partner know you are enjoying yourself to help them relax into it," suggests Uren.
Step 5: Try using accessories
Using a s*x toy while going down on someone can ramp up the experience even further. If they're okay with it (you need to ask beforehand), you could use a bullet, wand vi****or, or c**t vi****or on their c**toris while fi*****ng them or focusing on other parts of their v***a.
Some people really enjoy internal stimulation during oral, so you could try using a d***o or vi****or alongside sucking or licking their c**toris. Pro tip: "Try stroking the front wall of their va**na rather than going for hard thrusting," says Uren.
"Use a s*x positioning pillow or a regular cushion to prop their hips up, as it opens the whole ge***al area and will save your neck! This position is also great if you want to explore ri***ng," suggests Uren.
Oh, and we can't say this enough: try out a touch of flavoured l**e to make the experience all the more exciting for you...
Step 6: Get other areas involved
The same way some people with p***ses like to have their balls played with during a blow job, you might want to stimulate other parts of your partner's v***a or body while you're eating them out.
Run your fingers down their thighs, grab their hips, or reach for their breasts/chest and massage those too if that's what they're into. There are plenty of options.
Use your fingers if they have given enthusiastic consent. Slowly insert a finger into their va**na and wait for their response to see if it feels OK (or ask!). Move it in and out slowly to start with, curling your finger up towards their stomach to hit the G-**ot. Massage it gently, and if they like it and agree, you can go harder and faster.
All the while remember to *never* neglect the c**toris.
Step 7: Switch it up
Keep switching it up (unless they're clearly really enjoying it and don't want you to stop). The c**toris is very sensitive and if you play with it too hard for too long, it might be too stimulating and cause discomfort or pain. Experiment with pressure and dot some light kisses on that c**toris.
But remember: "If your partner tells you they are close to or**sm, it's important to keep going with the same pressure and rhythm," advises Uren.
Step 8: Try the Kivin method
The Kivin method, previously touched on above, is an oral s*x technique often touted as a cu*******us 'trick' that apparently helps people with v***as reach or**sm in just three minutes.
We know, it sounds dubious as hell—and it's not really a good idea to start timing your partner's or**sms or implementing any 'one size fits all' rules when it comes to s*x. Everyone is really different, so there's no way the Kivin method can work for everyone. But, as long as you know that, you can just have fun trying it.
So how does the Kivin method work? Basically, you come at it from the side. Yep, instead of positioning yourself between your partner’s legs, get beside them. Raise their c**t and steady it by popping your index finger and thumb on either side of it. Then, instead of licking up and down, go from side to side across the c**t or c**toral hood (depending on how sensitive they are and what they like—keep asking what works for them).
Step 9: *If* they or**sm
If they or**sm (because not everyone will, and that's OK!), be sure to keep doing what you're doing when they're getting close. You can tell they're about to come because they'll either tell you explicitly or you'll be able to guess from their body signals: their breathing might quicken and they might grab your hair. But whatever you do, don't stop what you're doing until they've ridden that wave.
Don't be disheartened if they don't or**sm—it's not the end goal of s*x and doesn't determine whether someone felt pleasure or enjoyed a s*xual experience.
"Some people also enjoy pressure or gentle stimulation during or after their climax while others are too sensitive. Try to be attentive to your partner's body language—do they move into you or away from you?" add Uren.
"Don’t put any pressure or expectation on your partner to have an or**sm, as this can create performance anxiety for both of you. Plus, oral s*x can be very pleasurable, even without having an or**sm. Instead, focus on pleasure and connection."
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