20/12/2025
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What feels familiar isn’t always what’s healthy.
A client once spoke about being in a relationship that felt calm and steady. There were no mind games, no chasing, no emotional highs and lows.
Yet they felt restless, unsure, like something was missing.
As I explored further, it became clear that love had earlier felt chaotic. Affection was inconsistent. Closeness had to be earned. Intensity was mistaken for depth.
So when love showed up as predictable and emotionally safe, their nervous system didn’t recognise it as “real” yet.
Nothing was wrong with the relationship. Nothing was wrong with the client.
They were learning that healthy love can feel calm 🤍.