Bhangoo Family and Child Guidance Clinic

17/04/2025

Whether you can remember the Japanese words or not, please read these six eye-opening Japanese concepts that will transform your life, if you try and incorporate them in your daily life.

• Ikigai:
Find what makes your life meaningful by doing what you love, what you're good at, and what the world needs.

• Kaizen:
Make small daily improvements.

• Hara Hachi Bu:
Eat until you're 80% full. It keeps you energized and prevents overeating.

• Shoshin:
Think like a beginner. Be open to learning and trying new things.

• Oubaitori:
Don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own path and timing in life.

• Wabi-Sabi:
Find beauty in imperfections and simplicity. Enjoy the present moment.

26/03/2025

Give love to get love.
Your children, grandchildren or relatives and friends may appreciate your gifts but more enjoyable is a loving person who gives love unconditionally, a person who genuinely cares. People can soon see through non-genuine compliments, fake flattery and pretended affection.
You can not order or demand love. You will just automatically get it if you are genuinely loving and caring.

21/03/2025

Live life to the fullest:

1. Live in the present moment. Avoid dwelling on the past or focusing too much on the future.
2. Live mindfully. Focus totally on what you are doing at a given moment.
3. Develop self-awareness. Know who you are, what your values and beliefs are. Be proud of who you are.
4. Learn to say No. You don't have to do anything just to please people. Just refuse to do anything that does not agree with your values or anything that you are not comfortable with.
5. Stay positive. Negative thinking creates unnecessary stress.
6. Expect nothing from others. Expectation is the root cause of relationships turning sour.
7. Be independent. Learn the basic skills of organisation, cleaning, cooking and self care.
8. Find time to have fun, to follow your passions, to connect with people you love.
9. Be respectful in your speech and behaviour. And do not allow anyone to disrespect you.
10.Let go of toxic thoughts, toxic people and toxic relationships. You deserve better.

27/12/2024

Compassion, the ability to understand what somebody is going through, their feelings, their pain, their problems. For this it is important to put yourself in that person's shoes.

Compassion has a profoundly positive impact on relationships, fostering deeper connections, understanding, and intimacy. Here are some ways compassion can transform relationships:

1. Builds Trust
Compassion creates a safe space for individuals to open up, share their feelings, and be vulnerable. This vulnerability builds trust, allowing relationships to flourish.

2. Encourages Empathy
Compassion helps individuals understand and share the feelings of others. This empathy strengthens bonds, allowing partners, friends, and family members to better navigate life's challenges together.

3. Fosters Healthy Communication
Compassionate communication involves active listening, validation, and understanding. This leads to more effective conflict resolution, reduced misunderstandings, and a stronger connection.

4. Promotes Forgiveness and Understanding
Compassion allows individuals to see things from another person's perspective, making it easier to forgive and understand each other's mistakes and imperfections.

5. Cultivates Emotional Intelligence
Compassionate relationships help individuals develop emotional intelligence, which enables them to recognize, understand, and manage their own emotions and those of others.

6. Supports Personal Growth
Compassionate relationships provide a supportive environment for individuals to grow, learn, and develop. This, in turn, strengthens the relationship and fosters a deeper connection.

7. Encourages Self-Care and Self-Compassion
When we experience compassion from others, we're more likely to practice self-compassion and prioritize our own well-being. This has a positive ripple effect on the relationship.

8. Creates a Sense of Belonging
Compassionate relationships give individuals a sense of belonging, which is essential for emotional well-being and happiness.

9. Helps Navigate Life's Challenges
Compassionate relationships provide a supportive network, helping individuals navigate life's challenges, such as illness, loss, or trauma.

10. Fosters Resilience
Compassionate relationships promote resilience, enabling individuals to better cope with adversity and bounce back from difficult experiences.

By incorporating compassion into our relationships, we can create stronger, more meaningful connections that bring joy, support, and fulfillment to our lives.

27/10/2024

Maturity or Growing up means learning to communicate your feeling and thoughts adequately, learning to apologise when you are wrong, being truthful and ethical and accepting responsibility.
It is learning to differentiate between right and wrong, and doing the right thing. It is letting people live. Growing up involves accepting accountability and not blaming others for all your problems.
It involves looking within, sorting out your problems, resolving issues without getting stuck, and letting go when there can be no resolution.

26/10/2024

A lot of unhappiness in life stems from unreasonable expectations, comparisons, competition, the need to be better than others.
Life becomes so much simpler and happier if we expect ourselves and our life as it is.

“In the end, so much of the conflict we feel in our hearts is because we’ve split ourselves off from the very life we are living. We partition ourselves from the things we are at odds with, treating them as unbelonging even as we live them. We vaguely imagine some other place, some better job, some other lover—but the irony is that so much of what makes us unhappy is our own rejection of the life we have made. Eventually, we must take our life into our arms and call it our own. We must look at it squarely, with all its unbecoming qualities, and find a way to love it anyway. Only from that complete embrace can a life begin to grow into what it is meant to become.”
Excerpt from “Belonging: Remembering Ourselves by Toko-pa Turner

13/10/2024

Just read this post by Abhikesh and am posting without any editing.

Kids aren’t your husband or life partner; they’ll have their own life and eventually their own partner. As parents, it’s easy to feel as though we are the center of their world, but that’s only true for a small window of time. Our role is to nurture them, guide them, and equip them to face the world, but never to hold them back from spreading their wings.

As they grow, we must remember that the foundation we lay for them is meant to give them strength, not chains. They will form their own dreams, passions, and relationships that will shape the course of their lives. And while we are there to support and love them unconditionally, they are not ours to possess or control. It's important to let them experience life on their terms, even if it means stepping back when we'd prefer to hold on tighter.

One of the hardest lessons in parenting is learning to let go. It’s an act of trust and faith — faith in the upbringing we’ve given them and trust in their ability to navigate their journey. Our children aren’t meant to fill the voids in our lives or compensate for unmet expectations we may have. They are unique souls on their own path, and our job is to walk alongside them for as long as they need us, not to walk in front of them or carry them.

We also must realize that, in a way, children reflect what we show them in our relationships. If we pour everything into them at the expense of nurturing our partnership with our spouse, they may grow up with a distorted view of what love and commitment look like. By maintaining a loving and supportive relationship with our life partner, we demonstrate the value of partnership and the balance between familial bonds and romantic ones.

The relationship we have with our children will evolve over time, shifting from one of dependency to one of mutual respect and admiration. They will move forward, forging their own paths, and one day, they may become the parents in the same role we are in now. The cycle continues, and it's essential to accept that this natural progression is part of life's beauty.

It's vital to prepare ourselves emotionally for that day when their primary attachment will no longer be us, but someone else. It doesn’t mean we lose them; it just means their circle of love expands, and we need to make space for others in their lives. Being able to celebrate their growth, their partnerships, and their future families is a testament to the love and trust we’ve nurtured over the years.

As parents, we may find ourselves adjusting to an emptier house or less frequent calls, but that doesn’t diminish our role in their lives. The bond between parent and child is timeless, and no amount of physical or emotional distance can break that. What we must aim for is a relationship built on mutual respect, where they feel empowered to come to us when they need guidance, not out of obligation or guilt, but out of love and trust.

In our role as life partners, it’s essential to maintain the connection with our spouse. When the children leave, we are left with the person we chose to build a life with, and that relationship deserves as much care and attention as any other. It's crucial not to lose sight of this bond during the busy years of parenting, for it's the love between partners that will carry us through all phases of life, even when the children are no longer in our care.

Parenthood is a journey of giving — we give our love, time, and effort to raise the next generation, but we must also take care of ourselves and our own relationship. As the kids grow and go, we need to remain grounded in our connection with our spouse, ensuring that this relationship stands strong as the central pillar of our family.

The greatest gift we can give our children is the example of a healthy, loving relationship between their parents.

This allows them to form their own strong bonds in life, knowing that love, independence, and mutual respect can coexist.

Our kids aren’t our life partners, but through our example, they learn what it means to build meaningful, lasting relationships of their own.

- Abhikesh

12/10/2024

25/12/2023

Parents have their own journeys and their own struggle. Don't expect them to be perfect and be grateful what they cando/have done for you. Be grateful!

20/12/2023

Does your child have anxiety?

It is very important to know the signs of anxiety in your children’s actions and what ‘I’m Anxious’ could possibly mean. Check our website learn more.

18/12/2023

10/12/2023

Rather than trying to control your children, teach your children self control.