Project Parenting

15/07/2023

Is overprotectiveness also a way of covering up the lack of a secure pattern of care giving within the family?

08/07/2023

Seeking attention and approval from a parental relationship or a romantic relationship stems from your attachment needs. When those needs are consistently attended in a healthy manner, you inherently begin your journey towards a healthier attachment pattern.

03/07/2023

Our belief system and our identities are deeply ingrained in the dialogues that we use and the behaviours that we model.

Scarcity is felt not only in financial terms but also in acceptance of our living standards, in acceptance of our personality, in our body image, in our self esteem and our self image.

29/06/2023

What happens when you want something very badly but you are not able to find it?
It shows up within ourselves in the form of helplessness that we experience in our bodies, the emotional distress, active defense mechanisms, rigid belief systems and so on.
But topping it all is the suffering that we pass on to our descendants in the form generational curse and trauma.

Thus, it becomes very important to deal with our sufferings and to end the cycle of unhealthy family dynamics 🍂

.in

21/06/2023

Addressing from where your numbing feelings are coming from is important to reparent yourself

30/05/2023

This is one of the greatest gifts a child will ever receive!

08/05/2023

It is important to be self aware while parenting or even reparenting yourself so that you are able to meet your emotional needs in a healthy way.

06/05/2023

04/02/2022

20/06/2021

Happy Fathers Day to all the fathers for being the wonder that they are.

14/06/2021

Parenting is beyond what you think it is. Doing one thing or the other as every parent does or in your own particular way doesn't define being a parent.

Parenting is subjective.
Parenting is personal.
Parenting is sensitive.
Parent it your child's way.

10/05/2021

Our wishes are beautiful and sweet. But they are nowhere near to what our mothers mean to us.
So, take some efforts in your relationship with your mothers.

09/05/2021

"Mother" is the most important word in my life. When I was 3, my dad and mom got divorced. It was a very tough time for my mother. A single mother with two kids in an orthodox Indian society. But she never lost hope and she raised us so well that today we stand strong for ourselves. She decided to make us so empowered that we could create a difference in the society. My mother is not well qualified but she is the most intelligent person I have ever seen in my life. She has always motivated me and my sister to get educated and to stand on our own feet. She plays all the roles so beautifully, of a mother, a father and most importantly, of a good friend.
She does all the household chores so that we can focus on our studies, on making our career and future better. She never made us feel that we don't have a father. My mother has always given me the best lessons of life, how to adjust according to situations and how to be the change in our society. She has always inspired me to help others and has imbibed in me the virtue of being kind. It is because of her that I am as confident as I am today. She believes in me and I would never be able to explain what that belief means to me. I love her for everything that she is. And to be honest, I don't feel bad that I don't have a father, because when you have a supermom, you don't need anyone else!

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09/05/2021

Please don't judge me, Amma", I said, looking at my marks.
"I won't", she said.
And this is how my relationship with my mother grew stronger. I was surrounded by friends who topped the class and she was friends with their parents. But never has she once compared me to them. She still says, "Education is all about learning and not about scores."
I used to take these small little things about my mother for granted but now I realize how privileged I am and how grateful I should be. Her faith in me has made me whoever I am today.
When I had lost all the confidence, it was her who believed in me. And now when I see the pride in her eyes, I know that I have followed the right path.
The best part is she would never force me to be positive or let me suppress my feelings. She’d let me shed a few tears but then help me emerge even stronger. When we argue, we cannot be upset with each other for more than 10 minutes, and I think that is beautiful. She has her own set of values and she has passed them to me beautifully. Whenever we fail to match our arguements, we try to understand each other's perspective and come to a common conclusion.
She acknowledges her mistakes and tries to bring changes in herself for good. For her, relationships are the most important thing in life, and she tries her best in maintaining a good relationship with the people she love. So for all the people who asks me why do I value relationships, I got that from her.
My mother and I worked through ours as well. When I was small, I never shared anything with her, it was only her who watered our relationship. I saw our bond grow when even I contributed to it, and started to share and talk with her. It is then that I realized that a relationship works well only if both people put efforts. And that decision of mine has given me something that I'd cherish forever. From the kitchen gossips to the shopping gossips, we have it all!
She always says that she'll miss me when I go somewhere else, and I always laugh this sentence off. But today I confess, "I'll miss you more Amma".

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09/05/2021

I remember when my mother had come to drop me at my hostel, she stood so strong and supportive throughout as she dint even shed a tear. So that I don’t break down. It touched my heart when years later I came to know that she had been crying all her way back home. I realised of the strength and power of handling circumstances that motherhood has.
She is the most polite and humble person that I know of. (Not with me though)😂
She made me become self reliant and always inculcated in me the ways and values of living my life on my own and to the fullest. That includes the skills from scratch, that is from that of cooking, cleaning to making a living.
Everything feels so fine when I connect well with her on shopping (whether clothes, accessories or household stuff), movies, cooking and our travelling plans.
Its only sometimes in her worries about me, that we fail to find an agreement to my travel or career plans. But I know she tries to understand my perspective on it and we will get through it.
Mom, Anything and Everything about you is special and I know you know I cannot really put down into words how much you mean to me.

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09/05/2021

My mother and I, We have to sit and chat every night before our day ends. This has been a ritual since I was a child. It used to be the time for me to ask my mom all the questions that I have in my head as she would listen and answer them all patiently. She never discarded any of my weird, bizarre or premature questions. So, even when I as an eight year old would ask a question unconcerned to me, she will let me know about it in the best way possible but will not shun me off. Which now when I think is the reason I feel so secure around her. Eventually as I grew, our topics shifted. Now its more about checking up on each other before we sleep and share about our day and things that might be bothering us.
And through our conversations this way, we look forward to share and learn from each other. We talk, argue and laugh a lot.
Our thoughts don’t match at times, and then we agree to disagree and she tells me very straight forwardly that our times are different and we cannot think the same way about certain things and that is ok. “Do what you feel is right from where you see things.”
She has never made me feel misunderstood and that’s so much motherly of her. I as a daughter have however hurt and misunderstood her so many times that I cannot even apologise enough. Because under her reign, we don’t accept apologies but only changed behaviours.🙊
Through my growing years, my Queen held the faith in me, never asked me to shut up, watched me make mistakes and learn from them as she stood by me. This may also have been because I would never listen to anybody. Haha.
All mothers that I know of are the strongest and wish for their children the best.
Mine, made me the strongest and the wealthiest. She gave me the life and wants me to live it. Very explicitly, all she expects from me is to be happy.

I tell her, if and when I will be a mother, I want to be exactly what she is and have been to me. And she would tell me, “Don’t Worry, You will be better than me.”
Having said all of this, With my mother’s level of organisational and functional skills, being her daughter doesn’t come easy. You leave a spoon in the sink unwashed, and its over. She surely made me a nerd too.

09/05/2021

I remember my mother used to teach me Marathi during school and through my exams, she would be up all night to listen to my answers and help me revise. I have never received such an unconditional support from anyone else. I know I wont.
My mother is my home. How much ever temporarily distant I be with her, just spending some quality time with her makes me feel secure and grounded again. She makes me feel alive and loved all over again. Our relationship hasn’t been a smooth ride and we still are working through it. But when I sit back and think, I realise that it is only through her that I have learnt and become who I am today. She has in very subtle ways taught me to love unconditionally and hold on well to our values and morals through thick and thins of life. Having seen her live her way through all the uncontrollable circumstances of life, she gives me the inner strength to make my way through things as well while letting go everything that doesn’t matter to us.
From where I see it, My mom is an admirable woman in every way. The way she loves and cares for all of us selflessly is something I can never match with. As a woman, she is so creative and super smart and the way she lets it out through every opportunity on any given day is just the right way to live life. Its unimaginable how she manages to be so empathetic while going through so much herself.
It feels heavenly when we connect on our conversations on philosophies of life and when we sit together to do some creative artworks amidst our occupied life. I don’t match with her cooking skills and we argue a lot when we do it together or when it comes to learning from her. But still its only with her that I want to learn how to cook.
Hey Mom, I love you from the bottom of my heart. And no matter how our rapport shifts to be, I know, you and I, we will always be there loving each other with all our heart and soul.

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