29/06/2025
You’ve seen a tissue box before. Of course you have.
On desks. In hotel lobbies. At the corner of a restaurant’s washroom sink. Tucked into your bag for them emergencies.
It’s always there, quietly doing its job. Ready for a spill, a sneeze, a smudge of something we don’t want to leave behind.
Useful. But forgettable.
Except… in therapy.
In a therapist’s room, the tissue box doesn’t just do its job. It holds a place. It waits.
Not to clean up, but to make room.
It sits close, never too far. On the side table, the low stool, the armrest. Sometimes it’s passed to you without a word, other times it just sits, letting you decide. But either way, it’s not neutral.
In therapy, that little box carries quiet permission.
It says: This space can hold your feelings.
And that might feel strange at first. Especially because you’ve spent most of your life wiping tears before anyone sees. Especially because you’ve grown used to saying “sorry” before reaching for softness.
So when the tears come maybe a few minutes in, maybe a few sessions in they might surprise you. You might reach for the tissue like it’s damage control. Something to make the feelings go away.
But that box, in this room, is not here to tidy up your sadness.
It’s here to hold it. Without trying to fix it.
Therapy is one of the only places where a tissue doesn’t mean “pull yourself together.”
It means: All feelings are welcome here. No permission needed.
When your therapist hands it to you, it’s not a cue to hide the mess. It’s a quiet kind of care. The kind that doesn’t ask you to explain.
Sometimes, the biggest shifts don’t come from what advice is given. They come in these small moments. A hand reaching out. A pause. A silence that holds.
So next time you reach for that tissue in therapy not to erase, but just to be with what’s there remember: this box is different.
It’s not here to clean up the mess.
It’s here to say, feel freely my friend.
Let it all out ✨