11/12/2025
Childhood trauma isn’t just “big, dramatic events.”
It’s any experience that overwhelms a child’s ability to cope anything that makes them feel unsafe, unseen, unheard, or unprotected.
These are called Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and include:
– emotional or physical abU$e
– neglect (emotional or basic needs)
– growing up around vo!lnce
– a parent with addiction or untreated mental illness
– constant conflict at home
– community or disaster-related stress
Trauma in childhood rewires the developing brain, affects emotional regulation, and increases the risk of future mental and physical health issues.
But the brain is plastic ,healing is absolutely possible with safety, support, and therapy.
💔 Common Parenting Mistakes That Become Emotional Trauma
These don’t always look “big,” but they hurt deeply:
❌ Invalidating feelings:
“Tum toh overreact kar rahe ho.”
“Bade ho jao.”
“Rona band karo.”
❌ Using fear instead of guidance:
Shouting, threats, hitting, silent treatment.
❌ Unavailable parenting:
Being physically present but emotionally absent.
❌ Parentifying the child:
Making them the mediator, caregiver, or emotional support system.
❌ Comparisons & criticism:
“Dekho woh kitna smart hai.”
“You’re never enough.”
❌ Suppressing autonomy:
Not letting children express opinions, make choices, or set boundaries.
❌ Inconsistent affection:
Love as a reward… withdrawal as punishment.
These patterns don’t create “strong kids.”
They create adults who struggle to trust, rest, feel safe, or believe they’re worthy.
Safety rewires the brain.
Support rebuilds self-worth.
Therapy helps you reclaim your story.
Share this for parents and specially parents to be to break the cycles. 💛
