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Therapist.Hiteshree Intersectional Feminist and Q***r Affirmative Therapist providing Holistic Psychotherapy online.

14/02/2023

A therapist's guide to dealing with Valentine's Day Blues 💙

28/07/2022

Bollywood Characters go for Therapy 🎬

Okay, so I am not even going to touch on the sexism in the movie. I think that is pretty well talked about. But I do think that the dysfunctional behavioural patterns of the characters in the movie need to be discussed.

First of all, you don't have to be a psychologist to understand that physical abuse is not productive. Gender doesn't make a difference. Physical abuse is not healthy for any relationship of any kind.

Second, the main characters of this movie also have a hard time with communication.
I keep emphasizing this with my clients as well, you have to tell people around you about your feelings. You can't expect a strange coincidence or a miracle to help solve the problems in your relationships. You have to take charge and communicate. ANYTHING THAT IS DISTRESSING FOR YOU, WARRANTS A CONVERSATION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Always remember that! But another problem in this movie is that when people do communicate, they are often very abusive. Or there is a lot of blaming and counterproductive language use in general. Please refrain from that. IT DOESN'T TAKE A LOT TO BE POLITE TO PEOPLE THAT YOU LOVE.

Lastly, and I can't stress this enough, ADDICTION CAN'T BE CURED IN A DAY. In fact, addiction cannot be cured at all. It is a treatable disease, meaning you can manage it with the help of psychiatric medication and psychotherapy. But you always have to be on the lookout for a relapse. You have to be careful that the emotions and behaviour that triggered your addiction don't recur. You have to make sure that you don't fall back to the same patterns of substance use.
Movies make it seem too easy. Dealing with addiction is not that simple. It takes a lot of effort on the part of the person and their family and friends. A strong determination to change your life won't stop your addiction.

I would highly urge you that don't try to hold such movie characters as your behavioural idols. Don't glamorize their dysfunctional behaviour to the point where you would feel okay behaving similarly. Unlike in Bollywood movies, real life doesn't end with all trauma magically resolved and all problems magically vanishing.

11/07/2022

Animals are extremely pure and genuine in their protrayal of all emotions that they feel. We should really learn a thing or two from them.

Our tendencies to bottle up our emotions and not express what we are feeling in a straightforward manner hurt us in so many ways.

Imagine how easy and comfortable our relationships could be if just demanded love and affection when we need it instead of waiting around for it. Imagine how much pain we could save ourselves from if just ask for the time and efforts of those that we love.

Humans have somehow learnt to be very cautious in their display of love. They are also very careful in asking for it. For some reasons, we feel that ASKING FOR LOVE IS A SIGN OF WEAKNESS. We feel that we are showing our dependence on someone if we tell them that we need more of their time or love.

This a highly misguided belief. If we express our need for love to someone and they consider us to be "weak", we should probably re-evaluate our relationship with them instead of doubting our self-worth.

Anyone who genuinely loves and respects you, is going to respond positively when you ask for their love. They might not be available immediately, but they'll eventually make time for you. If they are constantly preoccupied with themselves or IF THEY CONSTANTLY PERCEIVE YOUR NEED FOR THEIR AFFECTION AS A BURDEN, IT IS PROBABLY A MAJOR RED FLAG ⛳ .

In such relationships, don't place the blame on yourself for having asked for affection in the first place.
YOU ARE JUST AS DESERVING OF LOVE AS ANYONE ELSE.
ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT!

08/07/2022

Have you ever wondered why you may be feeling unsatisfied in your relationships or why sometimes your expectations aren't met no matter what you do? Here's a possible take on why that could be happening.

I have met so many people who are immensely kind and compassionate towards every person they encounter. The only person ...
07/07/2022

I have met so many people who are immensely kind and compassionate towards every person they encounter. The only person they are unkind to is their own self. They would be very accepting of the flaws of everyone around them. But they won't forgive their own flaws.

Sometimes, they also blame themselves for the mistakes of others with narratives like "It is my fault because I did not stop them", or "I just got what I deserve".

You don't have to condemn yourself for everything that you feel is wrong with you. Start being just as kind to yourself as you would be to a good friend. Start loving and nurturing yourself. Only then will you be able to heal!

Therapy helps you grow as a person in every which way. Happiness is too simple an ask!
07/07/2022

Therapy helps you grow as a person in every which way. Happiness is too simple an ask!

I am extremely pleased to announce that I have started my online private practice as a psychotherapist. Contact me for d...
07/07/2022

I am extremely pleased to announce that I have started my online private practice as a psychotherapist. Contact me for details.

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