23/03/2026
I’m a 3rd time mom and postpartum doula - here’s my entire sleep plan for baby #3.
My husband has been researching infant sleep and asked if I did all the professional tips with my other kids. Drowsy but awake, wake windows, sleep schedules.
I said yeah, I tried. None of it worked.
He said something that stuck with me: “The more I research baby stuff, the more anxious I get because it’s all so conflicting.”
EXACTLY.
That’s why I never became a sleep coach even though I’m a postpartum doula. I think a lot of sleep coaches have kids who just slept naturally. My kids didn’t.
Baby sleep is so polarized. One side says sleep training is essential. The other says co-sleeping is essential.
And I think the sleep training coaches had babies who slept naturally. The co-sleeping coaches had babies who didn’t, but had the availability to co-sleep. Not everyone has that.
If you’re going back to work at 6 weeks, maybe sleep training works for you. Or maybe co-sleeping does. It depends on YOUR baby and YOUR family.
My kids are 7 and 9 now. They share a room at the same temperature. One sleeps with 4 layers and a weighted blanket. The other sleeps in underwear and throws off her blanket. They’ve always had completely different sleep needs.
And wake windows? If you’re a first-time parent, maybe you can honor those. But once you have another kid? School pickup, toddler tantrums, life - wake windows are out the window.
So here’s my sleep plan for baby #3: be responsive to my baby AND my family’s needs. Not what the books say. Not what worked for someone else.
Stop following conflicting advice that makes you anxious.
Just watch your baby, consider your family’s needs, and respond to what works for YOU.
That’s the whole thing.
What sleep advice stressed you out that ended up not mattering? 👇
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