Coach Dr. Maryann Mac'Ojiayo

04/07/2025

Falling in 'mud' may be an accident but remaining stagnant in the mud is another conversation in itself.
The choice to move or remain stuck depends on where you channel your energy.
You deserve better than stagnation. Rise up.

Let go... let grow and let glow!!!😃👌

02/07/2025

09/09/2023

A TRUE LOVER vs A BENEFICIARY!!!!!!
*You could be in a relationship or marriage and really feeling 'important' than the probable singles or apparent couples around you.

*But wait a minute....🤔
👉Did you know that your relationship could be appearing stable because of your ability to provide?
👉Do you know the real characteristics of a true lover vs a beneficiary????
👉Have you ever gone broke and told your apparent partner that you are unable to do something because of financial insufficiency?
👉Did they appear amused by your report?
👉Did they call you or text you with vigour and excitement like they normally do?
👉And did any support come through from them?

*Listen through;
1. A beneficiary will hang around you and act so friendly for as long as as you are 'WALLETICALLY' tall.
2. A beneficiary will place unending demands without shame.
3. A beneficiary goes moody or even silent on you....until probably you've picked yourself up financially.
4. A beneficiary is always on the receiving end. Please start by checking your Mpesa or bank statements and see how much you've received from your apparent partner as compared to how much you've been giving out. The sheet will never balance.
5. A beneficiary is a user and never gets embarrassed. Anytime you see them calling in, the conversation won't end without borrowing.
6. A beneficiary can always get your replacement at the snap of a finger, whether married or in a relationship. Such, do well with extra-marital affairs. 🫢

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1. A true and genuine lover, sticks around whether your Wallet is 'tall' or has drastically gone 'dwarf'.
2. A true lover also works around being supportive at their capacity. Irrespective of their financial status.
3. A true lover will never get moody or go distant because you are broke. Their level of excitement remains up there.
4. A true lover has more things to discuss or chat with you, beyond finances.
5. A true lover sticks on, sees and knows your value beyond the Wallet.

Please note; This is not a gender based opinion.
*Both men and women are guilty or innocent based on the circumstances at hand.
*Take your time and know that BENEFICIARIES will slam the door in your face and walk away as though you are a nobody, at the time you least expect. And they will jump to the next available 'Customer' as if nothing has happened.
*Be encouraged though. You are still somebody. Play your cards well and be wise.

Thank you very much. 😃

07/09/2023

MAJOR SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE.🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

1. YOU DON'T HAVE CONTROL OVER YOUR DAY-TO-DAY DECISIONS.
*Where you go, how you dress, how you speak and who you speak to must be decided by your partner.🚩
*And if you decide to 'surprise' yourself by making an independent decision in anything that revolves around you, there must be a fight.

2. WHEN YOU TRY TO SET BOUNDARIES, THEY ARE IGNORED.
*For example you tell your partner that there's a policy at your workplace of; "No receiving personal calls or texts during work hours". But your partner will still call and text numerous times. And will still create drama later wondering why you didn't pick calls or took long to respond to the apparent received texts. 🚩

3. THERE MAY BE SECRETS TO UNMASK.
*If your partner is a smooth talker who will say so much at every question asked or explanation needed, be a keen listener.👂
👉 Listen to UNDERSTAND not to RESPOND.
*If the partner is the toxic type, the explanations and excuses just don't add up.
* You may have discovered hidden bank accounts, shopping receipts indicating baby items, photos in the wallet, cash transactions to people you either know, or some you don't, suggestive sensual messages, suggestive comments on the social media corridors, e t.c.
*When you attempt to seek clarity, your partner gaslights you or distracts you from the main topic of discussion.
*And if you insist on the very topic, your partner goes wild on you. 🚩

4. YOUR INDIVIDUALITY IS DISEMPOWERED AND THERE'S AN ATTEMPT TO ISOLATE YOU FROM OTHERS.
*This may apply more to the married. Though you may be legally intertwined, marriage is not enmeshment. Rather, it is two identities with unique ambitions, talents, temperaments and histories who have committed to maneuvering through life alongside each other.
*Whether you have little in common or nearly everything in common, being married doesn't mean you cease to be your own person.
*Each individual should exercise their right to friendships, hobbies and passions.
👉So if your spouse tries to siphon your individuality and isolate you from society, it might indicate serious trouble ahead.
👉Under the disguise of 'I love you so much that I want to be with you all the time and have you all to myself' is a method of abuse.
👉A method of abuse that asks you to give up your personal dreams and connections to any part of your life that exists outside of your relationship. It shrinks your support network and destabilizes you. 🚩

5. YOU FEEL INSECURE
*It is normal for a couple to disagree from one matter to another, because you are two imperfect human beings trying to navigate an imperfect world.
*Even in the midst of a hitted argument, there's usually an inner knowing that tempers will cool and forgiveness will shine over you. (That's in the case of a healthy setting)
*But in a toxic marriage, that sense of safety can't be accessed. 🚩

6. YOUR PARTNER IS HYPER CRITICAL
*This is a partner who never sees anything good out of you. To them, you ain't worth any compliment round the clock.
* Let's say you had guests coming over, and you picked Chapati as the main starch food. You spent hours moving in the kitchen making sure the chapatis are done to your best capacity.
*Guests arrive, you set the table and you start serving, your partner shrugs and mentions that your Chapatis have no shape or are burnt. 🚩
*Criticizes your body shape, your dressing, your profession, e.t.c.
👉 Constant criticism towards a partner; makes the partner have two choices with time.
1. They can either believe you and it can begin to destroy their confidence.
2. They will eventually stop caring about what you have to say.
👉When there is persistent criticism, it sets a negative tone, builds resentment, and destroys connection. 🚩

7. YOUR LIGHT IS DIMMING.
*In a healthy marriage, the brighter version of each of you continuously emerges the longer you are together.
*Your spouse amplifies your self confidence and strength, cheering you on.
👉But a toxic marriage kills your confidence, spirit and zest for life.
*Conversations with your spouse never reinforce your self belief or invite inspiration to the table.
*If your partner doesn't encourage you to grow in any area, while relentlessly shrinking your enthusiasm, you may be one-half of an unhealthy commitment. 🚩

8. THE RELATIONSHIP IS HIGHLY ARGUMENTATIVE, CHAOTIC OR VOLATILE.
*If you argue over anything and everything and you never seem to reach a peaceful mode, there's a big problem.
*You mostly feel like you are walking on eggshells, never knowing when something you do or say might spike anger from your partner.
👉The real danger in tolerating volatility in a relationship is that, over time, you start to think that the adrenaline rush you get from the push and pull is normal, but it isn't. It's actually quite damaging to your mental stability and your sense of healthy relationships in general. 🚩

02/09/2023

So it's true the world is watching. 👀

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01/09/2023

ANGER MANAGEMENT IS AN ASSET!!!
If you have a vision to attain a bright future ahead of you, UNCONTROLLED ANGER is the biggest roadblock ahead of you.

*Anger will make you loose focus on the most important aspects that need your full attention as an individual.
*Anger will make you release some hurtful words to people you interact with. And you probably will never have a privilege to make it right or even rectify the impression initially made.

👉Let me narrow my interest to anger management in Relationships or Marriage settings.
*For as long as the significant figure in your life was born and raised in a totally different environment, culture and lifestyle, please be informed that there are times when you will disagree on some arising matters. Please note that DISAGREEMENT is not equivalent to VIOLENCE. There's a distinct difference.

*There are people who will always get violent in a bid to express their anger. And i guess as you are reading this, you are already fixing the male partners' image, as the violators am referring to. To some extent, yes.
*However, am currently holding some data showing that a rising fraction of women are causing physical harm to men. They will slap, bite, push, hit or even throw items, in a bid to ensure the person encounters physical pain.
*Surprisingly enough, even after doing that, they still feel unhappy and desire to cause more harm. An angry person never settles. And anger remains a catalyst to distraction.✍️

*Dear Dada reading this, and you feel justified to beat your man, please allow me to bring it to your attention that such moves water down the crown of your beauty and intelligence, as a lady.👌
*There's more you can do with your energy than planning and executing violence. It doesn't matter what he may have done.
*Try solving the issue CALMLY. Be deliberate about remaining calm. If after trying out several peaceful means on conflict resolution have failed to bear fruit, please respect the much or little value left in you; hurriedly and honorably walk out of that relationship or marriage. Noting that there are partners who find happiness in your sadness. Surprisingly.

*Prolonged Anger weakens you.
*A toxic environment worsens the anger.
*A toxic partner justifies your anger, if you wish.

***Parting ways and minding your business ever after, will make you a more resourceful person to those who believe and align to your potential.🔥

And Dear Ndugu who could be a victim in the hands of an angry Dada, please feel encouraged. Not all angry people act so, because you are the cause of their anger. NO!!!
*Some violators made a mistake to get into present relationships and marriages, before HEALING fully from the past heartbreaks and disappointments.
*You could be paying a price on behalf of the former. So, you have a huge responsibility to read through the lines and make sober decisions that could favor your life.
*If the anger can be managed and put on check, try your luck.

Thank you very much.

04/08/2023

Outdoor does me well. 😃😃😃

22/07/2023

15/07/2023

The way to a man's heart is the stomach?????

13/07/2023

MONEY & STATUS doesn't change people!!!!

👉The wicked type only need that to give them confidence to express their true colors.
👉Never blame yourself if you happen to date or marry such.
👉Forgive yourself and work on yourself daily, to be the best version of your intended self.
👉Life is fair enough to offer a chance for readjustment.