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A Counselling Psychologist | Mental Health Advocate | Emotional Support Practitioner, focusing on emotional regulation, trauma-informed support, and mindset transformation✨.

It’s almost the end of 2025, and I know it has looked different for all of us.Some won. Some lost. Some are still trying...
16/12/2025

It’s almost the end of 2025, and I know it has looked different for all of us.
Some won. Some lost. Some are still trying to understand what this year did to them.

Some didn’t get sick or admitted to hospital, others are still fighting for their health.

Some landed their dream jobs, others are picking up pieces of broken careers and unmet plans.

Life didn’t move fairly. It never does.
Still, I want to remind you: it shall be well.

Change doesn’t always take years, sometimes it takes one decision, one shift in mindset, one moment of willingness to try again.

Do not let time rush convince you it’s too late.
As long as you’re here, there is still room to rebuild.
And for anyone silently fighting mental health struggles, stress, depression, burnout, emotional exhaustion, please seek help. Strength is not suffering alone.

Keep showing up. Even when it feels pointless.
Healing, clarity, and direction can come in a second.

Have you ever noticed that helping someone else doesn’t take anything away from you?We often move through life as if sup...
13/12/2025

Have you ever noticed that helping someone else doesn’t take anything away from you?
We often move through life as if support is a limited resource, something we must guard, ration, or save for “when we have more.”
But the truth is simple:
Lighting someone else’s candle never dims your flame.

Encouraging others doesn’t weaken your strength.
Giving clarity doesn’t blur your own path.
Sharing hope doesn’t drain yours, it expands it.

When we uplift someone else, something beautiful happens:
their light grows, and somehow… so does ours.

In a world where many are fighting silent battles, the smallest act of kindness, guidance, or understanding can be the turning point someone desperately needed.

Have you ever felt like your fears or self-doubt were so loud that you stopped moving toward something you truly wanted?...
06/12/2025

Have you ever felt like your fears or self-doubt were so loud that you stopped moving toward something you truly wanted? 💁💫

You don’t have to silence every anxious thought or erase every insecurity before you move forward.

Think of your mind like a bus.
You’re the driver.
Your values give you direction.
Your fears, doubts, and painful memories?
They’re just passengers.

They might be loud.
They might be overwhelming.
But they can’t stop you from driving unless you hand over the wheel.

Healing isn’t about eliminating these passengers; it’s about learning to keep going with them in the back seat.

In psychology, we often say:“Your mind moves before your actions do.”And research supports this. When your internal narr...
04/12/2025

In psychology, we often say:
“Your mind moves before your actions do.”
And research supports this. When your internal narrative is filled with “I’ll fail,” “It’s too hard,” “I’m not ready,” your brain shifts into avoidance and threat mode. It begins protecting you from discomfort instead of allowing you to explore potential.

This is why people find it “impossible” to start a business, apply for a dream job, or commit to personal growth not because it truly is impossible, but because the mind has already decided the outcome.

A fixed mindset tells you that your abilities are limited.
A growth mindset reminds you that your abilities can be developed through consistency.

Your thoughts may not control everything, but they influence:

Your motivation

Your emotional resilience

Your willingness to take risks

Your ability to problem-solve

Your openness to new opportunities

Your mindset quietly shapes your results long before your actions do.

If you’re navigating self-doubt, overthinking, emotional blocks, or uncertainty in your personal or career journey, I offer support grounded in emotional awareness, psychological insight, and practical tools for change.

Many professionals carry unnecessary anxiety by worrying about how every action may be perceived by others. In reality, ...
02/12/2025

Many professionals carry unnecessary anxiety by worrying about how every action may be perceived by others. In reality, most people are far too focused on their own responsibilities to scrutinize ours.

This disconnect between perceived judgment and actual attention can create avoidable stress. When we shift our focus from external approval to genuine intention, our work becomes more authentic and effective.

Letting go of imagined scrutiny frees us to think clearly, perform better, and grow confidently. Your energy is better invested in progress not perfection or perception.

01/12/2025

I’ve learned something important:
A lot of us picked careers while confused, pressured, or simply trying to survive. And in Kenya, that can cost you years because not every career has demand, even with all the education in the world.

It’s okay to take time.
It’s okay to rethink your direction.
What matters is choosing a career that gives you a real chance at a better life.

29/11/2025

Signs You Might Be Self-Toxic (and don’t even notice it) 📌 🤔

Let’s be honest, sometimes the damage isn’t coming to you, it’s coming from you.

Self-toxicity is subtle, but it shows up in ways that quietly ruin your peace, your progress, and your relationships.

Here are the real signs:
📍1. You minimize your own needs
You call it “being strong,” but you’re actually abandoning yourself over and over.
📍2. You speak about yourself with disrespect
“I’m slow.” “I’m not capable.” “I can’t do better.”
Your nervous system believes the words you repeat.
📍3. You choose people who confirm your wounds
When you don’t think you deserve healthy love, you keep walking back into pain.
📍4. You punish yourself for mistakes
Instead of learning, you replay shame. And it keeps you stuck.
📍5. You sabotage good things because they feel unfamiliar
Healthy feels “boring” when you grew up on chaos.

Self-toxicity doesn’t mean you're broken, it means you’re unhealed. And healing is possible.

27/11/2025

Here are several ways you can start moving on after he hits you, especially when kids are at stake:

1. Talk to a professional.
A therapist or counselor can help you process the trauma and rebuild your emotional strength.

2. Create a safety plan.
Identify a safe place, trusted contacts, and steps to protect yourself and your children.

3. Document everything.
Keep notes, dates, photos, or messages. This can help legally and ensures you’re not silenced.

4. Build a support system.
Lean on someone you trust, family, a friend, or a support group. Isolation makes healing harder.

5. Start emotional detachment.
Journaling, grounding exercises, and therapy help you separate the person you loved from the harm they caused.

Here are a few real reasons:1. Unhealed trauma shapes your choices. You gravitate toward what feels familiar, not what’s...
26/11/2025

Here are a few real reasons:

1. Unhealed trauma shapes your choices. You gravitate toward what feels familiar, not what’s healthy.
2. Low self-worth lowers your standards. You accept what matches how you feel, not what you deserve.
3. Lack of boundaries invites the wrong people. When you don’t protect your space, anyone gets access.
4. Emotional hunger makes you rush. When you’re desperate to fill a void, you ignore red flags.

23/11/2025

💭 Do you know how many people fail simply because they shared their dream with the wrong person?

Subtitle: Doubt begins the moment someone talks you out of your own vision.

Main Text:
Your original plan was strong — until you let someone else’s opinion rewrite it.
Psychologically, 40% of the ideas that come during growth are tied to intuition, possibility, and timing.
But the moment you share them with the wrong person, fear replaces confidence.
Their “better idea” doesn’t guide you — it interrupts you.
And that interruption is enough to kill momentum.

Not every idea needs an audience.
Some ideas need silence, discipline, and privacy.

23/11/2025

📍If you truly understood how short and unpredictable life is, you’d stop mistreating people.
Pride wouldn’t make sense.
Worrying about a future you might not even reach wouldn’t make sense.

💁‍♀️Some people live like death is far from them and close to everyone else but that’s a comforting lie.
Life disappears in a blink.
One moment you’re here, the next you’re a memory.

🕊️So be kinder.
Be present.
Be intentional.
Nothing is guaranteed, not even the next minute.

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