10/11/2019
Why you should not be afraid of fights in your marriage/relationship
It is important to fight with your partner. Keep in mind fighting is purely verbal as getting physical is NEVER an option. When you fail to speak your mind, you betray yourself and suppress your feelings. Suppressed feelings are the worst as they explode when you least expect.
When you are afraid to speak your mind, you develop resentment and bitterness towards your spouse/partner. The key to a better relationship is to not spare the other person's feelings and be free to express yourself.
Don't be afraid to express yourself even if it offends your partner. Why? If you don't express yourself, you will soon have no marriage/relationship to fight about. So, everybody should be able to take the truth from their partner, even if it makes them feel offended.
Some partners are emotionally manipulative, although many don't know it. They make you feel like you are a terrible person for expressing your disappointment in them. They will make you feel like you do not understand or don't love them enough. They wonder: "Why would you accuse me of hurting you?" This might make you feel like you have no right to express your feelings about what is happening in your marriage/relationship. Don't keep quiet.
Now, if your partner is heavily offended, don't shy away from showing that you care about them. Remember, you express yourself because feelings are to be expressed as a way of self-care, respect, and love. If your partner did you wrong, don't be afraid of saying so. If they did something you hate, don't be afraid of mentioning it either.
As you do all this, be keen to be respectful and caring. Your partner is not your enemy.
