Ladies in pain

10/09/2016

Ladies it's time to be whole again in relationships...

You are getting blamed for the issues in the relationship, 'you are too nagging,are you'? Yet as you are defending yourself, they are busy flirting and laughing at you on chat.

You are told you are beautiful but he only keeps talking about your nice body and nothing beyond that. Once he gets what he wants, he will never respond to your texts....

You keep going out of your way to buy a new dress for the night out, pay a cab, buy the drinks but you are not seeing a sign of appreciation let alone love.

You have been loving, keeping the home clean and peaceful, spicing things up in your love life but he keeps having many other women.

You have aborted severally, or caught a dangerous infection a couple of times but you were convinced that it was your fault.

You caught him cheating, moved on with your life because you couldn't take the lies anymore but he thinks you should stop being too much and go back to him.

Sometimes ladies it takes a bit more strength from within to put a stop to the bad cycle. A majority of ladies out there have been misused for many years thinking they are loved by people who have mastered how to play around with your emotions and keep pressing that button on and off when you threaten to make a change. It's time to realize the things that could change for the better.

08/09/2016

Clingy destructive BF

Let me just say it. There is folk out there who are programmed to mess lives and they only stop when mission is accomplished... .

You probably have been in a relationship with someone not right for you...either abusive emotionally or physically, unfaithful just fill in that thing you have been through ...and you managed to pull out but they always find a smooth way to pull you back in and do a worser thing that may leave you crushed or even dead.

is find strength within to truly move on if you love yourself one inch. Learn from your past, others experiences as you assess your situation and stop defending the person because they 'changed' for a minute. is they haven't. is he will still try to get you back after this round as you read this, maybe it's the 3rd, 4th, 5th ...time? The cycle doesn't stop does it?
Save yourself the pain.

With Love.

08/09/2016

Clingy destructive BF

Let me just say it. There is folk out there who are programmed to mess lives and they only stop when mission is accomplished... .

You probably have been in a relationship with someone not right for you...either abusive emotionally or physically, unfaithful just fill in that thing you have been through ...and you managed to pull out but they always find a smooth way to pull you back in and do a worser thing that may leave you crushed or even dead.

is find strength within to truly move on if you love yourself one inch. Learn from your past, others experiences as you assess your situation and stop defending the person because they 'changed' for a minute. is they haven't. is he will still try to get you back after this round as you read this, maybe it's the 3rd, 4th, 5th ...time? The cycle doesn't stop does it?

Choose a stand today and save yourself the pain.

With Love.

02/09/2016

We determine alot of things in our lives...heartache has its stages to healing and we can help the pain ease or worsen depending on what we want the outcome to be.
healing on this day. So that we can finally find peace.

25/11/2015

The worst thing thing about being stressed about something is keeping quiet about it because you are ashamed, feel you are strong enough to handle it or fear speaking about the matter. This will only oppress you for a longer period in this situation.

19/11/2015

From one of us....

14/11/2015

Compare your life to a book, you have written several chapters through the different things you have faced. You may have...lost all your money, lost your marriage, lost your children to the world, lost a loved one, lost some great priviledges, lost jobs, lost boyfriends, lost your heart and mind, lost who you are, and even lost time.
It is time to close these chapters because you have reffered on and revised them too long. The past was meant to give you strategies for your future and most of it was your path to destiny.
Start new chapters on how you are forging forward and becoming stronger. Don't stay stuck in the painful places...
Empty voices will try pull you backward but you are meant to only focus on the good voice from above that redirects you to his plan for you.

07/11/2015

I write this from a place of empathy because I met a lady today who shared she is fighting a terminal disease. My heart immediately melted out of feeling sorry for her because I know I have felt deep pain in my life but never the pain of imagining a sickness can consume me anytime. Her eyes showed fear and hope at the same time. She has fought this battle close to 2 years and going for a surgery soon to try help the situation but one thing I saw was her courage to face it.
There are people going to bed everyday not sure if they will see tomorrow by virtue of the fear you have to bear with daily. I know we are not guaranteed life but terminal sickness is a huge burden to carry, one that needs to be surrendered to the most high just like any other.

I encourage every person today that is not feeling well. Surrender this burden to the most high.

05/11/2015

I want to speak into your life today....

You almost closed the chapter of undoing your wrongs, they seem too deep.

-You took away your innocence at the age of 14 because he said he loved you.
-You dated him because he gave you nice stuff and had a sleek ride but you didn't -know he was married with a family.
-You got pregnant before you finished highschool and this just made your dreams shutter into pieces.
-He has dated you for 11 years and had you abort 6 times by force yet he can't commit to you.
-You got into the wrong relationships and now you have 3 babies with different baby daddy's.
-You gave your best with all the men you dated yet they all used you and dumped you.
..it is not too late, you can walk out of your guilt and shame, this was never your wish but just bad circumstances.
I encourage you today not to carry this burdens, let them go and see them as great lessons for your future. Begin to love yourself again and look at your self as worthy.
You are beautiful and important in this life because you have a purpose to fulfill.
Take courage today.

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05/11/2015

I always felt I had the 'perfect marriage'.
He took care of me like a queen always gave me the best, I felt it was nothing short of a 'perfect marriage'.
We took first place in all family meetings as the example of 'perfect marriage'.
My friends could not stop talking of my so loving and caring partner, how good we looked together and how we have a 'perfect marriage'.
My little girls keep staring at us and how we cannot get our hands off each other, even they felt we have a 'perfect marriage'.
Today I wonder what it was all about because now I can barely understand this relationship...he seems so distant, he doesn't understand me anymore, he has a girl he is constantly talking to, he even makes comments of how unattractive I look, he can't stand some of the things I do like going to church, he suddenly doesn't want to touch me anymore...but in all this I can't let anyone know my marriage has been in trouble for 10 years because for the first 5 years, my had been ' '.

Story from one of us in Lip.

04/11/2015

Share your story today with us...it will encourage someone else.

01/11/2015

27/10/2015

26/10/2015

You have wondered too long why your life has been all about bad circumstances.
You came from a struggling family and going to school was simply a miracle. You were molested from the age of 5 by your uncle who told you never to speak of it or he shall kill you. They call you fat and ugly in school and thought your intelligence was the only good thing you possess. This even made your brains a curse because everyone around you just hated your opinions and presence. Your confidence did not rub off well to your colleagues and they told you to reduce your hyper aggression. You have had several boyfriends in the quest of love but they all were out to misuse and leave you. Your lecturer has severally used you sexually in the name of getting a perfect grade. You are the most hardworking at work but the odds are after you because your boss can't explain why he doesn't like you and your workmates don't like that you just get everything right in your work. The hope to get married has almost become a myth because you are quickly approaching fourty and this doesn't make sense anymore. Money has never been your friend because the moment you recieve it is the same time you lose it.
You have waited to be pregnant for too long, lost too many pregnancies, lost 3 babies after a tough labour and a husband who has cheated on you so much and now he wants to leave you because of the other woman .

If you are one of these women and in your heart you still have hope to see the goodness of life. You are right because the greater the trouble, the greater the destiny. You have suffered too much and you feel like you have taken bullets for others to serve as an example in ugly life circumstances.
I encourage you to take the strength to overcome and never give up because the end of your troubles has come and it's time to believe in this through prayer and you will possess your hearts desires.

25/10/2015

Why did he do this to me?

The dirty marks that he left on you when he r***d you. The scars are too deep you just can't let go. But they hold you back...you feel like you can never forgive the monster that put you here, you feel in danger everytime you think about it, you blame your parents, God and caregivers who were not there to protect you, you can't stand to imagine that your little girls can ever go through this.You feel like you hate your husband more everytime he tries to touch you.The images of how he beat you and forced you can't leave your mind. You have not lived life all this years. This pain is too much to carry. It's too much to handle. Nobody knows how much your heart and mind is tortured. Nobody knows the cross you carry. You feel too ugly to look into the mirror- these are the scars he left on you. Scars you don't know how remove...
But you want to let it go.
You want to start feeling something in your heart.
You want to be a loving mother and wife. You want to be a beautiful person inside and out.
You want to have normal thoughts that are productive and useful.
You want to look inside the mirror and see your true self this one time.
You want to dry the tears that roll down each time you try to focus.
You want to look and feel normal like the lady next to you.
You want to live life.
It is time to start over, get real help and deal with the pain. You are not alone in this place, we care and feel your pain.

24/10/2015

If anyone has ever made you feel inadequate because you cried about your pain, let me encourage you today that crying is not wrong neither is speaking out. Find someone you trust who can tolerate you as you cry and speak out. You cannot hide sorrow because it will come out through other things like inappropriate words, anger, outbursts and weirdness. You heal faster through expressing yourself in the right way and to the right people.