01/03/2024
Life has a number of charging systems, for example, relationships, and drug and substance abuse. Let's consider these two. If we consider our lives to be phones, once in a while, we will need re-charge, so that our battery (life) does not die. Relationships as phone chargers, have the potential to either power, our lives, or cause the battery to lose charge. When one is in a healthy relationship, then the battery charge is almost always full of charge, and the phone (our life) is able to function optimally. When one is in a toxic relationship, the charger appears to be connected to the phone, yet the phone battery keeps losing charge. Interestingly, for one to continue to be in the toxic relationship (malfunctioning charger), there is possibly something that the charger is serving. For example, one has invested time in the relationship, it offers one a sense of self- esteem (dating, married, as opposed to single or divorced). It may also be that the person has joint investments - money, children, social circles, etc. This would make one continue having the malfunctioning charger. Unfortunately, using a malfunctioning charger could reduce the batt life.
Similarly, engaging in drug and substance abuse could serve a function. For example, cools off steam, social circles that are fun, or the only individuals one feels, can engage in, and one may see it as a functional charger. However, it could cost one physically, mentally, socially, and financially, thereby serving as a malfunctional charger.
It is important to consider the pros and cons of utilizing the malfunctional charger, and the fully functional charger, and make an informed decision about what to do.
It would be very helpful for one to engage with a psychotherapist in that journey as soon as would be possible.
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