Viktor The Mental Health Coach

30/08/2025

27/08/2025

25/08/2025

Breaking Free from Fear!
Understanding and Overcoming Social Anxiety

21/08/2025

Unresolved Grief

17/08/2025

Gambling

Gambling may look harmless at first—just a little bet with friends, a spin on the slots, or a quick sports stake. But for many, it grows into a powerful addiction that silently drains lives.

People who struggle with gambling often:
• Keep promising themselves they’ll stop, but never do.
• Deny it’s a problem, even when family and friends are hurting.
• Believe that “one more bet” will fix everything.
• Lose money, time, jobs, relationships—and still keep playing.
• Feel restless, anxious, or even sick when they try to quit.
• Hide their habits with lies, excuses, or borrowing.
The truth? Gambling doesn’t only rob wallets—it robs peace of mind, trust, and hope.

But recovery is possible. It begins with:
• Admitting the problem and breaking denial.
• Learning healthier ways to deal with stress and pain instead of chasing bets.
• Finding support systems—family, therapy, or groups like Gamblers Anonymous.
• Building new habits and friendships away from gambling.
• Rebuilding finances and self-worth one step at a time.

From the big cities to the most remote villages, gambling is everywhere—on our phones and even advertised like normal entertainment. But behind every jackpot poster is someone losing rent money, a broken family, or a young person’s future slipping away.

Gambling promises quick wins, but delivers slow destruction.

True winning is walking away and choosing freedom.

13/08/2025

Anger…
Let’s talk about anger—real, everyday anger

We’ve all felt it!

That heat rising in your chest…
That tightening in your jaw…
That voice in your head saying, 'Hii leo nitamshow! Hanijui!'

Sometimes it explodes—
Doors slam, fists fly, insults cut deep.
Other times, it hides—
Silent treatment, cold stares, slow revenge.

Then we excuse it—
'Ni life,'
'Stress ya job,'
'Nilikuwa nimelewa.'

But the truth?
Uncontrolled anger can break homes, end friendships, cost you your job… even land you in jail.

It’s triggered by many things—
A reckless matatu driver,
A careless comment from a friend,
Someone jumping the queue at Quickmart,
Or that family member who never respects you.

But here’s the thing—
Anger is not the enemy.
It’s a messenger.
It’s telling you something is wrong.
The problem is how you respond.

So, what’s the goal?
The goal isn’t to avoid anger completely — because anger is a natural part of being human.

The real goal is to master it.
To feel it without letting it control you.
To pause before you pounce.
To think before you speak.
To turn its heat into light.

How?
• Know your triggers—the people, places, and thoughts that set you off.
• Calm your body—deep breaths, step away, walk it out.
• Shift your thoughts—replace 'They must respect me or else…' with 'I choose to stay in control.'
• Speak up—honestly, but respectfully.
• Let go—for your peace, not theirs.
• Seek support—people who hold you accountable.

Because when you control your anger—
You gain respect.
You keep relationships healthy.
You protect your mental health.
You save yourself from regret.

Anger can be your weapon,
Or your downfall.
It can build,
Or it can destroy.
The choice… is yours."

13/08/2025

The Hidden Scars of an Alcoholic Home

When you grow up in a home where alcohol is a constant guest, it’s not just bottles that get broken — it’s trust, safety, and sometimes (unfortunately)… you.
Many Adult Children of Alcoholic parents carry invisible wounds that follow them into adulthood.

Let us see if this sounds familiar:
• You find it hard to trust people — even those who haven’t given you a reason not to.
• You’re always taking care of others, but when it’s time to take care of yourself, you don’t even know where to start.
• You say “yes” even when you want to say “no” — because you fear losing people.
• You feel worthless deep inside, but you hide it behind being “the strong one.”
• You cling to unhealthy relationships because the thought of being alone terrifies you.

This isn’t weakness. It’s survival.

Growing up in a home where alcohol ruled meant living with unpredictability, broken promises and unspoken pain.
Many of us learned three silent rules as children:
Don’t talk. Don’t trust. Don’t feel.
We learned to keep family secrets, to hide our true selves, and to carry pain quietly.

But here’s the truth — those rules that kept you “safe” as a child may be trapping you as an adult.
They affect your relationships, your confidence and even the way you see God.

Healing begins with awareness.
It means learning to:
• Speak your truth, even if your voice shakes.
• Choose friends and partners who treat you with respect.
• Value yourself enough to put your needs on the list — not just at the bottom.
• Build a spiritual anchor that reminds you you’re not alone.
And healing is possible.

Recovery groups and faith-based support spaces can become the healthy family you never had.
Therapy can help you unlearn the fear of abandonment and rebuild your self-worth.

Your past may have shaped you, but it doesn’t have to define you.
You are not just “someone from an alcoholic home” — you are a survivor, and with the right support, you can thrive.

Because the scars from childhood can either be chains… or they can be proof of how strong you truly are.

03/08/2025

You’re not what broke you. You’re what rose from it.

30/07/2025

According to Beck’s cognitive triad of depression, depression stems from one’s automatic negative thoughts about self, negative interpretations about the world and negative predictions about the future.

23/06/2025

Mental exhaustion doesn’t just drain your energy—it can quietly hijack your ability to stay calm, kind, and cooperative, research finds.

See more highlights from recent peer-reviewed studies: https://at.apa.org/fi3