31/12/2025
They entered a comfort zone when they knew that you'll always be there for them. You trained them to sit back and wait for you to care for them. As for you, you're always okay. You don't need care. Affection. Attention. Concern. You're okay without all that.
People learned to relax because you were dependable. You replied without delay. You pardoned without limits. You arrived without excuses. Consistency made you invisible. Your presence became an assumption. Not a privilege.
Care faded. Effort stopped returning. What should have been gratitude turned into entitlement. Instead of honoring what you carried, they crowned themselves important.
Rather than rising to meet your devotion and building something mutual, they reclined and consumed your affection. They never restored your strength. You loved harder, believing increased warmth would awaken them. It didnβt. Familiarity. You were neglected.
Maybe you were the first safe place they had known, and safety confused them. They were trained by chaos, mistaking instability for passion and noise for connection.
Itβs painful that some lessons arrive only after loss. Painful too when what we called destiny proves to be a passing station.
Keep moving until you meet someone who understands your rarity, and guards you like treasure. βLet your love be genuineβ (Romans 12:9).
Ndegwa Steve GM β
Psychologist and Pastor