Ndegwa Steve GM

Ndegwa Steve GM Therapist | Pastor | Gospel Musician | MC | Conference Speaker

I'm Dr. Laurentia Ndegwa, any questions? 😛
28/03/2026

I'm Dr. Laurentia Ndegwa, any questions? 😛

A woman may forget many things in marriage, but she will never forget how you treated her when she was carrying your chi...
18/02/2026

A woman may forget many things in marriage, but she will never forget how you treated her when she was carrying your child

We've had 3 pregnancies so far. And I can define pregnancy as an emotional, physical, and spiritual transition for your wife.

First, be gentle. Her body is changing in ways she cannot control. Hormones are shifting. Some days she may feel strong, other days overwhelmed. Don’t take mood changes personally. Offer patience, not pressure.

Second, be present. Pregnancy can be lonely even inside marriage. Attend clinic visits when you can. Ask how she’s feeling. Listen without trying to fix everything. Sometimes she just needs a safe shoulder.

Third, speak life into her. Many women struggle with body image during pregnancy. Compliment her. Reassure her. Let her know she is still beautiful, still desired, still loved.

Fourth, carry more responsibility. She is already carrying a child. Reduce her burdens where possible. Help with chores. Handle stressful decisions. Protect her peace.

Fifth, protect intimacy with wisdom. Understand that her needs may change. Be patient. Be respectful. Love is not measured by physical access but by emotional safety.

Sixth, defend her emotionally. Pregnancy makes a woman vulnerable. Shield her from unnecessary stress, criticism, or family pressure. Become her covering, not another source of tension.

Seventh, prepare together. Talk about the baby. Pray together. Dream together. Let her feel that she is not walking into motherhood alone.

Lastly, remember this: she is not just giving you a child. She is giving her body, her sleep, her comfort, and sometimes her fears to build your family. Honour that sacrifice.

Ndegwa Steve GM Ⓝ
Psychologist and Pastor

18/02/2026

Early bird, good morning 🌞

17/02/2026

What are you thinking right now?

Dating or marrying someone who has trust issues is like driving a car that has weak tires.You may be moving, but every b...
16/02/2026

Dating or marrying someone who has trust issues is like driving a car that has weak tires.

You may be moving, but every bump feels dangerous. Love cannot relax because suspicion is always close. Instead of enjoying the journey, you are constantly bracing for the next emotional puncture.

You may find yourself constantly suspected. Even harmless things get misinterpreted. A delayed reply looks like betrayal. A normal friendship feels like competition. You are judged not by what you’ve done, but by what someone else did to them before you.

At some point, you may start living under emotional surveillance. Phones are checked. Questions feel like interrogations. You begin explaining simple things over and over. And you're not guilty. Your partner is afraid of being hurt again.

You will likely get tired of proving your innocence. Love slowly turns into a courtroom where you are always defending yourself. Instead of growing intimacy, you spend your energy trying to clear accusations you never deserved.

Small misunderstandings can easily become major conflicts. Unhealed wounds magnify everything. A simple mistake. A forgotten call. minor disagreement may trigger emotional reactions that feel bigger than the situation itself.

You may slowly lose your freedom without realizing it. To avoid drama, you start adjusting your life. You talk less, share less, go out less, and shrink yourself just to maintain peace. One day you wake up and realize you no longer feel like yourself.

Some people with deep trust wounds unknowingly sabotage the relationship. They expect abandonment so strongly that they push you away first. They test love until it breaks, then use the outcome to confirm their fears.

You may also find yourself becoming a therapist instead of a partner. Instead of building dreams together, most of your energy goes into managing insecurities and calming emotional storms. The relationship becomes draining rather than life-giving.

People with trust issues are not bad people. Many are deeply wounded people. But wounds that are not healed eventually bleed into relationships. And sometimes, they bleed onto the wrong person.

Love alone cannot heal deep trust wounds. Healing requires self-awareness and responsibility. And, intentional inner work. If someone is not willing to heal, you may end up carrying a burden that was never yours to carry.

Before you commit deeply, ask yourself whether you are building a healthy relationship or trying to rescue someone from their past. Love should feel like peace, not a lifelong probation.

Ndegwa Steve GM Ⓝ
Psychologist and Pastor

THE RUSSIAN GUY SCANDAL AND A LESSON FOR OUR GENERATION I have been following the trending story of the foreign man accu...
15/02/2026

THE RUSSIAN GUY SCANDAL AND A LESSON FOR OUR GENERATION

I have been following the trending story of the foreign man accused of secretly recording women and turning private encounters into content.

Sad.

But beyond the outrage, this is not just a scandal.
It is a mirror.

A mirror showing us the kind of world we are slowly becoming.

We are living in a generation where: Privacy is cheap,
Intimacy is content,
And shame is disappearing.

Some people no longer see human beings as souls.
They see opportunities.
Views.
Subscribers.
Money.

And sadly, many are willing to sacrifice dignity on the altar of attention.

Let me speak as a pastor and as a psychologist.

When the fear of God leaves a society,
even intelligence becomes dangerous.

Because without God: Conscience goes silent,
Boundaries collapse,
And evil becomes creative.

But there is also a lesson for us.

Not everyone who smiles at you means well.
Not everyone who looks sophisticated is safe.
And not every opportunity is a blessing.

Discernment is no longer optional.
It is survival.

You must guard: Your dignity,
Your privacy,
Your body,
Your name.

Because once something enters the internet,
you may delete it,
but you may never erase it.

To the young people reading this: Not every attention is love.
Not every connection is destiny.
Not every stranger deserves access to your life.

And to believers: We must return to a culture of honor.

Honor for the body.
Honor for relationships.
Honor for ourselves as temples of the Holy Spirit.

Let us also show compassion to those who may have been affected.
Digital wounds are real wounds.

But let this be a wake-up call.

In a shameless world,
choose dignity.
In a careless generation,
choose wisdom.
In a loud culture,
choose discernment.

Protect your life.
Protect your future.
Protect your soul.

Ndegwa Steve GM Ⓝ
Psychologist and Pastor

Simple question: how have you been? Be sincere.
23/01/2026

Simple question: how have you been? Be sincere.

Lakicia's throw back; the first fruit of my loins; much love 💘😘
22/01/2026

Lakicia's throw back; the first fruit of my loins; much love 💘😘

Hii ni true love. Laurentia and Lavishia, daughters of Ndegwa and Naomi
21/01/2026

Hii ni true love. Laurentia and Lavishia, daughters of Ndegwa and Naomi

Wewe unaona wasichana wangapi wa Ndegwa kwa hii picture? 🤗😀🥰
21/01/2026

Wewe unaona wasichana wangapi wa Ndegwa kwa hii picture? 🤗😀🥰

My outfit today. Weka yako hapa tukuone tukupende 😂😂😂. Let's gooooo ❤️❤️....
18/01/2026

My outfit today. Weka yako hapa tukuone tukupende 😂😂😂. Let's gooooo ❤️❤️....

Mimi huwa na smile k**a ya daddie 😆;
17/01/2026

Mimi huwa na smile k**a ya daddie 😆;

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