Talks with Yet

30/09/2024

The truth about dealing with anxiety, panic attacks and triggers is , not a lot of people understand what it’s like.

Then there’s the percentage that have seen what it’s like and they decide it’s way too much to be around, and that is absolutely okay.

But YOU, owe it to yourself to create a safe place for yourself as you heal. You know yourself better than anyone does, so you owe yourself to ensure that the spaces around you are safe!!!

And safety isn’t just about finding the right people, it’s also what you internalize and what you surround yourself with.

Be deliberate about finding your SAFE SPACE in people, things and places.

04/12/2023

I’ve often had to pull myself out of the rubbles of my past. It’s like a constant reminder of who I was.

And as you go on this healing journey, you would be met with the constant pull from the person you’re unbecoming!!!!!

You need to constantly remind yourself you’re shedding skin!!!! It will be painful !!! But it would be worth it.

As you heal!!!! I hope you’re reminded that it’s a long journey ahead of you and there would be days when the skeletons from the closed closet peep out, it doesn’t mean healing isn’t happening.

So be kind with yourself!!!!
Love, Yatlim.

18/10/2023

Grief is like a possessive being...
People don't really know how to deal with you,

They say they know just how you feel,they let you be:

They hold you too tightly ,they brush your chin with feather kisses :

They say meaningless words, they say it's God,they mutter God's will, you hear seamingless meaning...

And so we shut down. We gasp for air some nights we're able to sleep, or we stay awake picking at memories that are too closely knitted to our hearts.

We play back all the memories just so that time could stand still, but no beloved, it's all memories, replaying them in the present wont make them into a moment.

And so grief is like a possessive being, once it's got it's cold hands on you there is no letting go....

To you finding it hard to come to terms with the loss of a loved one, it will be well eventually. Maybe not today or the next few months or years, but eventually.... It will be well. God will comfort your hearts.

Love, Yatlim.

28/09/2023

I honestly hope and wish we would get the point where we can freely share our struggles without the fear of stigmatization.

As we become more aware of Mental health issues on this side of life, there’s more work to be done especially with creating safe spaces where people can heal from the trauma they’re experiencing .

But in the midst of it all, taking care of our mental health is an ongoing journey of self discovery and self/ compassion.

Let’s be kind to ourselves and grant permission to feel , to heal, and to grow.

So if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, down and feeling like you’re all alone, I want you to know that you are not alone.

I hope that we continue to raise awareness and raise the bar of compassion and inclusiveness.
Love, Yatlim.

26/09/2023

MENTAL HEALTH IS NOT ALWAYS WRITTEN ON THE FOREHEAD ,SO BE KIND ALWAYS!!!

Mental health issues are not always visible, and often times people carry it so well that we’re unable to see beyond the fake smiles and empty eyes.

As we continue to speak up about Su***de Prevention Awareness!!! I want you to remember to be kind always.

If you’re struggling , I want you to know that I am super proud of you for :
Getting out of bed
Pulling the curtains open
And trying your possible best to fight through your inner battles.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND I SEE YOU!!!

Reach out to someone you love and trust and share how you’re feeling. If you need air , please take a walk: if the phone beeps are making you anxious, then put it off for a while, the world can wait.

I guess I’m just trying to tell you that somedays would feel awful, but there would be many more beautiful days filled with laughter and joy in your heart it would feel like it’s about to burst out.

So please, hang in there. Please reach out to someone and ask for help!!! You can’t carry it all by yourself.

I love you and I’m just a Dm away.
Love, Yatlim.

21/09/2023

Often times, when we start to get better, we are met with a two faced happy-sad feeling.

Happy because we are finally healing from all the hurt and letting go of all the baggage we've carried around all these years.

Sad because the healing also brings clarity. It shows us all the moments we've missed, where we could have done better if we knew better, how the people that should have cared for us were the ones that hurt us the most.

But most importantly is the feeling of regret ,that we could have done better by our younger selves.

Healing is such a gruesome journey to take on. We would grieve the life we've lost, and regret the one we've created blinded by pain and trauma.

But ultimately, HEALING is the gift of Second chances. And I hope you give yourself as many second chances as you need.
Love, Yatlim.

20/09/2023

May the new month be more fruitful, more daring, more blissful, more lovely.

May the next 30days be filled with laughter and love.
May you experience growth all round.
May the mercy and grace of God rest upon you and all those that surround you.

Welcome to the month of Blooming.
Love, Yatlim.

12/12/2022

As an immature Christian,in the past, when I felt downcast, I would fill up my void with other vices.

It didn't matter what ,as long as it gave me some semblance of happiness for the moment ,then I was up for it. I would have gone round in circles messing things up before coming to the feet of the father, that's if I eventually do...

As a growing Christian now, the only refillable vice I know is God. And I do not say this to sound as though I am holier than thou, it’s just that, in this emerging years, the only person that can fill up the void is Christ.

This beautiful song by Jonathan Reynolds’s is my go to somehow….”may your struggles lead you near the cross, may your battles end the way they should, may your whole life prove that God is good”

There’s nothing else that can give you the peace that your soul needs. There’s no vibe like the presence of the Holy Spirit.

In your high and happy moments, in your low and weary moments, Christ is the absolute anchor of your life. So surrender to him and watch your life blossom.

This doesn’t mean that trials and tribulations wouldn’t befall you, it just means that you have an anchor in the storm. Only him can fill up the nooks and crannies of your aching heart.

Love and light…

12/12/2022