The Botes Memory Method

18/09/2025

Come join our team on October 11th in Gainesville Florida at Trinity United Methodist. Register at Alzheimer’s Walk Gainesville and look for the Botes Memory Method team! 💜

17/09/2025

Don’t forget to RSVP to this event for Care Partners and Caregivers alike in Melbourne, Florida next Tuesday evening!

I am the gues speaker for The Botes Memory Method and we can’t wait to see you there!

03/09/2025

02/09/2025

Mark your calendars for this free event. Register now!

24/08/2025

A proud preferred dementia partner with one of the best Senior Living Communities in Florida! 🧠💜

22/08/2025

We are so humbled by our partnership with The Village at Gainesville!

We combine the best of both worlds for memory support by uniting the compassionate The Botes Memory Method with the person-centered Positive Approach to Care® (PAC) by Teepa Snow. This blend allows us to deliver exceptional, individualized support for residents living with Alzheimer’s, Lewy body dementia, and other memory-related conditions. 🧠💜

Learn more about our memory support approach: https://bit.ly/4kpRVBQ

19/08/2025

I was walking down the aisle of a grocery store when I heard a little girl say to her mother, “you know mom, if I don’t eat for three days, I will die.”

I wanted to walk over and let that little girl know that she was wrong. I want everyone who thinks this to know that is wrong. To be fair, maybe some people have died from not eating for a few days but from my experience at the bedside of people who are dying, it has helped me to understand that the body can go a very long time without food. The longest I have witnessed is 19 days. This woman was non-responsive, in a coma-like state, and from my perspective did not appear to be suffering physically.

I truly believe that the body does not need to have food and water at the end of life. I think food and water can often disrupt the dying process, causing physical discomfort and often suffering.

Most people equate food and water to love, especially when they have been providing this for many years. Family members and caregivers want to push food and water, hoping it will strengthen their person, and make them feel better. But I don’t think it does.

When we are aging, and dying, our throats tend to close and our ability to swallow is reduced, causing people to aspirate/choke, which increases their fear. Sometimes they can tell you verbally that they don’t want food, or they can let you know by shaking their head “no,” closing their mouth when they are being fed, pocketing it in their cheeks, or spitting it out. Listen to them, they are trying to tell you they do not want it. Our role is to honor and respect that.

When we are at the end of our life and dying, our bodies do not benefit from food and water the way a strong and healthy body does. It doesn’t need it, and it doesn’t want it. They will not die faster because they are not eating, and they will not die from starvation or dehydration. They are already dying from the diagnosis and disease process. Not forcing food and water at this time is actually incredibly kind and compassionate.

You are not hurting them, you are giving their body the peace and comfort it needs to go through the dying process however that will look for them uniquely, which can sometimes be many days. Trust that the body knows what to do, and sometimes it lets go quickly and other times longer, but you aren’t hurting them, please trust me on that.

What someone needs when they are dying is physical comfort, to be kept clean, and to be provided with dignity and respect. All human beings deserve this.

xo
Gabby

You can find this blog here:
https://www.thehospiceheart.net/post/food-and-water-at-the-end-of-life

13/08/2025

Last night I taped the most unexpected podcast!

It took us 3 weeks to coordinate a time and all our communication was through social media.

(I love to meet new liked minded people,so I frequently say yes to opportunities without really knowing the person I will encounter)

This young interviewer were poised, prepared and so well articulated.

She had all her homework done about me and was an absolute delight to speak with. I’m so glad I said yes because I received far more from our time together than I think she did.

It turns out she is only 17 yrs old and in her senior year and an aspiring Neuro-scientist.

She volunteers in a hospital and developed a passion for dementia care!

Since she is a minor I am not going to share a picture or her name but if you have a chance support her podcast “ Cognitive Connections”.

This was such an inspiring encounter to me and gives me hope for the future of dementia care !

12/08/2025

Do you have questions about estate planning?
Do you want to understand terms like POA, DPOA and healthcare surrogacy?
Are you unsure when and how to get this process started?
This discussion with Katie Flores, Elder Law Attorney is for you!

05/08/2025

Have you wondered about the application of the Memory Bouquet levels and how it can enhance the journey of the person living with dementia?

Here is a short video explaining the different Bouquet levels and how it can assist in increasing quality of life.
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28/07/2025

So excited about this opportunity to serve our patients together!

Only One GUIDE Program in FL Uses the Botes Method!

What makes Mobile Medical unique? The Botes Memory Method—an evidence-based approach to dementia care that:
· Reduces agitation with sensory engagement.
· Stages cognitive decline for tailored care.
· Keeps dignity & joy at the forefront.

Mobile Medical’s GUIDE program has exclusive rights to offer this revolutionary method in Florida. The Botes Memory Method