12/08/2025
HOW TO LET GO OF SOMEONE YOU LOVED
Stop checking if they saw your story. Stop wondering if they miss you. If they did, you wouldn’t be questioning it. Mute their name, their posts, their presence. And if that feels like a little heartbreak, grieve that too. Grieve the version of you who held on too tightly.
Forgive yourself for staying when you knew you were being slowly broken. Delete the chats you keep rereading at night. Stop searching old messages for signs they cared. They knew what they were doing. They left. Let that be your closure.
Cry if you need to. Scream into your pillow. Let the pain rise to the surface. You’re not weak for hurting. You’re human. Don’t shame yourself for still caring. Don’t confuse missing them with needing them. Missing is part of letting go, it doesn’t mean you should go back.
Think about the nights you felt invisible. The times you had to ask for the bare minimum. The way you were always guessing where you stood. Stop stalking their new life. That version of love already broke you. Start choosing your own life, even if it feels empty at first.
Let yourself sit in the silence. Don’t rush to fill it. Let it teach you something. Talk to your friends, about all of it. Even the parts you think sound pathetic. You don’t need closure from them. Some people walk away without explanation, and that is the explanation.
Write until it stops hurting. Cry again if you have to. But don’t stop moving forward. Healing doesn’t always look graceful but it’s real. Let the pain visit, then let it go. And when you catch yourself looking for them in someone else, give yourself grace. That’s part of healing too.
Let yourself fall apart. But promise yourself that piece by piece, you’ll rebuild. Day by day. Because the truth is you were whole before them. And you’ll be whole again without them.
Stop trying to win them back.
Win yourself back.
That’s who’s worth fighting for.
