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Never Marry a Woman Who Thinks Duty Is OppressionLet’s flip the script.Modern women don’t mind love.They mind responsibi...
11/06/2025

Never Marry a Woman Who Thinks Duty Is Oppression

Let’s flip the script.

Modern women don’t mind love.

They mind responsibility.

They say they want a husband…

But act allergic to the weight that comes with being a wife.

Let’s break it down:

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1. She Wants Rights—But Hates Roles

She says she wants marriage.

But only if she can rewrite the terms.

No submission. No service. No sacrifice.

Just: – Her career – Her comfort – Her convenience

She wants you to pay the bills, protect the house, lead the vision…

But call her “wife”?

Suddenly she’s not your partner—she’s a prisoner.

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2. Duty Is a Trigger Word to the Modern Woman

Say: “A wife should cook.”

She’ll say: “What is this, 1950?”

Say: “A wife should support her husband’s mission.”

She’ll say: “I’m not losing myself for any man.”

Say: “Marriage is about sacrifice.”

She’ll say: “That sounds abusive.”

Everything that once built homes…

Now gets labeled toxic.

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3. Her Feminism Ends Where Her Comfort Begins

She quotes bell hooks on Instagram.

Reads self-help books about boundaries.

Talks about partnership and purpose…

But ask her to:

– Wake up early for the kids
– Submit to a decision she disagrees with
– Stretch her ego to save the marriage

She’ll say:

“This isn’t what I signed up for.”

Of course it isn’t.

Because modern women don’t sign up for responsibility.

They sign up for lifestyle perks.

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4. You Can’t Build a Home With a Woman Who Thinks She’s Doing You a Favor

She married you—but acts like she’s volunteering.

She gave vows—but still moves like she’s single.

She calls herself a wife…

But never shows up in the trenches.

And when you demand structure?

You’re “controlling.”

When you ask for peace?

You’re “emotionally abusive.”

Her entire identity is rooted in avoiding anything that feels like work.

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5. Love Without Duty Is Just Performance

She says she loves you.

But won’t clean, won’t compromise, won’t listen.

She says she’s loyal.

But only when it’s easy.

She thinks being present is enough.

But presence without contribution is just furniture.

You don’t need a woman who shows up.

You need one who shows up with purpose.

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Final Word: If She Thinks Duty Is Oppression—You’ll Spend Your Life Apologizing for Leadership

She’ll accuse your standards.

Resent your vision.

Sabotage your peace.

And when the marriage fails?

She’ll tell the world you “couldn’t handle a strong woman.”

But truth is:

You tried to build a kingdom…

With someone who didn’t want to hold a brick.

So here’s the rule:

Never marry a woman who thinks duty is slavery.

Because you’ll carry the whole mission alone—

While she posts about burnout from watching movies.

— © ELONAIRES | Magnus Media

Chinua AchebeA story about polygamy.When men are drinking traditional beer from a common pot, men who only have one wife...
17/05/2025

Chinua Achebe
A story about polygamy.

When men are drinking traditional beer from a common pot, men who only have one wife are not allowed to sit at the front row. Reason?

If a message arrived that his wife had passed on, in his consternation he is likely to kick the beer pot.

A polygamist would take time to figure out which one, hence not endangering the beer pot. 🤞🤞

ADVICE TO ALL MARRIED MEN...1. If you value your health and you want to live long and have a happy home, let your wife a...
16/03/2025

ADVICE TO ALL MARRIED MEN...

1. If you value your health and you want to live long and have a happy home, let your wife always win an argument. Trust me, it's the shortcut I know to peace of mind! Where there is no wood (fuel), the fire goes out!

2. Stop trying to figure out your wife or understand why she does what she does. It's a waste of precious time. Remember that you (Adam) were put to sleep while she (Eve) was being produced? How can you try to understand an equipment that wasn't assembled in your presence?

3. Marriage is about ACCEPTANCE, not tolerance. Make your marriage relationship-driven, not performance-driven. She was NOT created in your image. Stop projecting YOU into her. Show her the need for change through leadership, not coercion.

4. While a man is rational, the woman is emotional. One (the man) processes via his head, the other processes things through her heart (emotions). One thinks things through, the other feels her way through things. Facts drive you. Intuition drives her. What she can't FEEL, she doesn't SEE!

5. When s*x becomes a weapon, a duty or an entitlement, it loses its very essence,
LOVE-MAKING. It simply becomes another chore like dish-washing which nobody looks forward to doing! Play with her. Flirt with her. Serenade her. Hug. Cuddle. Hold hands. Surprise her. Blow gently into her ears while she is cooking or while you are watching a movie together. Be spontaneous. Being a king-kong overlord in "ze oza room" and puffing and panting like a worn-out locomotive while she wonders what just happened can only lead to frustration. Remember, it is never about the size of the weapon but the fury of the attack! (Decode that!)

6. Go out often. Make regular, unscheduled date nights. Take a bath together. Make room for movie nights together either at home or at the cinema.

7. Remember that ONLY THE TWO OF YOU started the journey together and when the children have jumped the nest, only the two of you will remain. So, keep the bond ALL THE WAY and never drop the ball

8. Impregnate her with VISION. Allow her to dream too. Every woman loves a man working towards a future in which she can feature. Remember, woman simply means "womb man". She always wants something to incubate and nourish. You give her a seed, she incubates it and turns it to a baby for you

9. She is your wife, a companion and confidant, not a washing machine, cook or slave. You can't wear her out with chores all day and expect to 'ride' a functional "bicycle" all night! Impossible! Partners help partners by giving a helping hand where needed, even without being told.

10. Love is not 50/50. It is 100%.

11. Be PRESENT. Don't be at home married to your computer, football game or your phone for that matter. Listen when she wants to talk. Even when you don't know what to contribute to the discourse, you will soon discover that all she wanted was for you to listen. Your opinion may not even count!

Stay Blessed

Your serious girlfriend is one call away from leaving you.The woman you love is one opportunity away from cheating on yo...
14/03/2025

Your serious girlfriend is one call away from leaving you.

The woman you love is one opportunity away from cheating on you.

The woman you are so much investing on is one hypergamy away from dumping you.

If you know how fast women move on, you will never be f00lish when loving a woman and call it love.

The woman you think will never leave you don't even care about what you think about, all she cares is to satisfy her selfishness.

All I am just saying is that you should be smart and try to outsource your happiness totally independent of your woman.

Never trust a woman COMPLETELY, you will be ruined to ashes.

Be wise.

This is who we are
14/03/2025

This is who we are

The Weight of a Father’s Love“Dad, we ran out of gas.”“Dad, we need more soap.”“Dad, the pantry is empty.”“Dad, school f...
13/03/2025

The Weight of a Father’s Love

“Dad, we ran out of gas.”
“Dad, we need more soap.”
“Dad, the pantry is empty.”
“Dad, school fees are due.”
“Dad, I need my allowance.”
“Dad, I have a doctor’s appointment.”
“Dad, can you take us to the movies?”
“Dad, we have no internet.”
“Dad, here’s the electric bill.”
“Dad, here’s the water bill.”

Day after day, a father carries the weight of his family, working tirelessly, sacrificing silently, and always putting his loved ones first. Never say your father didn’t do enough or wasn’t there. You may not see the struggles he hides, but every step he takes is for you.

Love and respect your father. His strength is your foundation.

Blessings to all the hardworking dads out there.

Dear Son!!Masculinity pillar of discipline!Note this!A man without discipline is just a boy with excuses. Discipline Cod...
13/03/2025

Dear Son!!

Masculinity pillar of discipline!

Note this!

A man without discipline is just a boy with excuses.

Discipline Code:

1. Your emotions don’t run you. Your mission does.

2. Weak men seek comfort. Strong men seek progress.

3. Control yourself, or be controlled by the world.

"Discipline isn’t a skill, it’s a weapon. Master it,

or

stay weak."

Dear Children. This is where and how some of your fathers work to take care of mom and yourselves. From 8am right down t...
12/03/2025

Dear Children.

This is where and how some of your fathers work to take care of mom and yourselves. From 8am right down to 5pm. Every single day. When he comes home he is so tired he just bathes, eats and goes to bed. When you grow up you are convinced Dad had no time for you and you love mom more than Dad. You even tell him he didn't care 😭

Think again.

A LETTER TO ALL MY BROTHERS HUSTLINGThere’s a pain only men understand, the pain of trying everything, hustling, sacrifi...
12/03/2025

A LETTER TO ALL MY BROTHERS HUSTLING

There’s a pain only men understand, the pain of trying everything, hustling, sacrificing, grinding, yet nothing seems to work. You wake up every morning with hope, but by night, frustration sets in. No one sees what you’re going through or how you’re holding it together. As a man, you’re expected to figure it out, no matter how hard it gets.

You look around, some of your mates are doing well, but for you, life feels like slow motion. Bills are piling up, your family is counting on you, and deep down, you’re exhausted. The worst part? You can’t even complain. The moment a man speaks about his struggles, people call it excuses or laziness.

Many men are fighting silent battles. They smile in public but drown in frustration at night. Some even contemplate giving up, but bro, that’s not an option.

The truth is, life isn’t fair to men who don’t succeed. If you fail, you become invisible, no one cares.

But that’s exactly why you can’t quit. If you give up, you betray all the days you’ve already fought through. Keep pushing, your time will come, and your struggles will one day turn into your victory.

THE PAIN OF STRUGGLING IS HARD, BUT THE PAIN OF GIVING UP IS WORSE.

KEEP THE HUSTLE ALIVE

"According to Psychologists, there are four types of Intelligence: 1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)2) Emotional Quotient (E...
06/03/2025

"According to Psychologists, there are four types of Intelligence:

1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)

1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your level of comprehension. You need IQ to solve maths, memorize things, and recall lessons.

2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others, keep to time, be responsible, be honest, respect boundaries, be humble, genuine and considerate.

3. Social Quotient (SQ): this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.

People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go further in life than those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize on improving IQ levels while EQ and SQ are played down.

A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.

Your EQ represents your Character, while your SQ represents your Charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs, especially your EQ and SQ.

Now there is a 4th one, a new paradigm:

4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life, and come out of it without losing your mind.

When faced with troubles, AQ determines who will give up, who will abandon their family, and who will consider su***de.

Parents please expose your children to other areas of life than just Academics. They should adore manual labour (never use work as a form of punishment), Sports and Arts.

Develop their IQ, as well as their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of their parents.

Finally, do not prepare the road for your children. Prepare your children for the road."

ELON MUSK wife left him.JEFF BEZOS wife left him.BILL GATE wife left him.Now I want you to remind me, does money truly k...
05/03/2025

ELON MUSK wife left him.

JEFF BEZOS wife left him.

BILL GATE wife left him.

Now I want you to remind me, does money truly keep women or buy a woman's love and loyalty??

Those guys up there are the richest men on earth who couldn't keep a woman, buy her love and loyalty with trillions of dollars, now tell me what chance do you have to buy a woman love, loyalty and keep her for yourself?

This should tell you, it takes more than money to keep a woman to yourself and what it takes is nothing but to stop trying to think you can do anything to buy a woman loyalty, keep her and make her love you.

Stop trying too hard to keep her, stop forcing her to not let go, stop doing everything within your power all in an attempt to cage her all for yourself.

YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME, ENERGY AND RESOURCES which would have been more useful to you if you had channel it to something important.

Women don't need your money to love you, they don't need your trying so hard to stay loyal and submissive to you, they don't need all those romantic rubbish for them to choose you, all they need is for their FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS to be with you.

When this things happen to them, they become helplessly in love with you as long as it still last.

The truth is this thing comes naturally, it's not something you try to force, buy or manipulate, you let them fall for you sheepishly and this only happen when you have a strong Charisma and attitude as a man.

We will talk more on this but for now, think ruminate on this.

Let this give you wisdom.

Stay Putinized.

Samadwala (He was not sick). A poem written and recited by M***a Ngwira The Poet is now out and available on Youtube: ht...
30/01/2024

Samadwala (He was not sick). A poem written and recited by M***a Ngwira The Poet is now out and available on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYeAtXCW-gY . Please watch. For those who can not understand Chichewa follow the subtitles.

Samadwala, a poem in Chichewa language by M***a Ngwira, is a poignant poem exploring the challenges of mental health, particularly anxiety. The verses depict...

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