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Dari Sudut Psikologi JJSM Judy Jude Stephen Mingkong (JJSM) Consultant / Psikologi Industri dan Organisasi
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Stepping inside the mind of the BULLYING PERSON reveals a complex interplay of psychological factors that perpetuate the...
23/08/2025

Stepping inside the mind of the BULLYING PERSON reveals a complex interplay of psychological factors that perpetuate the behavior.

๐Ÿ‘‰ Addictive Cycle:
Bullying triggers dopamine release, creating an addictive cycle where the "high" from exerting power reinforces the behavior. The brain becomes wired to seek that reward, making it difficult to stop, similar to breaking any addiction.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Hormonal Impulses:
During adolescence, hormonal fluctuations amplify impulsivity and aggression. Increased testosterone can lower the threshold for aggressive behavior, making it harder to control the urge to bully, even when they know it's wrong.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Withdrawal Avoidance:
When prevented from bullying, teenagers may experience withdrawal symptoms like irritability and anxiety. To alleviate these feelings, they revert to bullying, creating a negative reinforcement loop.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Gratification and Moral Disconnect:
Some teenagers derive genuine enjoyment from bullying, finding pleasure in the distress of others. This can stem from a lack of empathy or a distorted moral compass, enabling them to rationalize their behavior despite knowing it's wrong.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Identity and Social Status:
Bullying can become intertwined with a teenager's identity and social standing. Stopping may mean losing perceived power or status within their peer group, creating a strong incentive to continue.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Lack of Insight and Empathy:
Teenagers may struggle with self-awareness and understanding the impact of their actions on others. This lack of insight and empathy makes it difficult to fully grasp the harm they're causing, reducing their motivation to stop.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Peer Influence and Normalization:
If bullying is prevalent within their social circle, teenagers may perceive it as normal or acceptable behavior. Peer pressure and the desire to fit in can override their own moral compass.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Unresolved Personal Issues:
Bullying can be a manifestation of underlying issues such as low self-esteem, trauma, or family problems. Addressing these root causes is essential for breaking the cycle of bullying.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Cognitive Distortions:
Teenagers might use cognitive distortions to justify their behavior, such as minimizing the harm they cause or blaming the victim. This allows them to maintain a positive self-image while continuing to bully.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Emotional Regulation Difficulties: Bullying can be a maladaptive coping mechanism for managing difficult emotions. Teenagers may struggle to regulate their feelings of anger, frustration, or insecurity, leading them to lash out at others.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Lack of Accountability:
If bullying behavior goes unchecked or is not taken seriously by adults, teenagers may not face meaningful consequences for their actions. This lack of accountability can reinforce the behavior.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Power Dynamics:
Bullying often involves an imbalance of power, whether real or perceived. Teenagers may believe that bullying gives them an advantage or protects them from being victimized themselves.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Desensitization:
Repeated exposure to violence or aggression, whether in real life or through media, can desensitize teenagers to the harm caused by bullying. This can reduce their empathy and make it easier to engage in bullying behavior.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Fear of Vulnerability:
Teenagers may fear showing vulnerability or weakness, believing that it will make them a target for bullying. As a result, they may adopt a tough or aggressive persona to protect themselves.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Limited Problem-Solving Skills:
Teenagers may lack the skills to resolve conflicts or address their needs in a constructive way. Bullying can become their default response to challenging situations.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Social Learning:
Teenagers learn by observing the behavior of others, especially their peers and role models. If they see bullying being rewarded or tolerated, they may be more likely to engage in it themselves.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Need for Attention:
Some teenagers may engage in bullying behavior as a way to gain attention from their peers or from adults. Even negative attention can be preferable to feeling invisible or ignored.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Impulsivity:
Teenagers often act impulsively without fully considering the consequences of their actions. This can lead them to engage in bullying behavior without thinking it through.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Fear of Their Own Vulnerabilities:
Bullies often project their own insecurities and fears onto others. By targeting perceived weaknesses in others, they deflect attention from their own vulnerabilities.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Distorted Perception of Reality:
Bullies may have a skewed perception of reality, believing that their actions are justified or that their victims deserve the treatment they receive.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Emotional Numbness:
Some bullies may have become emotionally numb due to past trauma or difficult life experiences. This emotional detachment allows them to inflict harm without feeling empathy or remorse.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Need for Validation:
Bullies may seek validation from their peers through their bullying behavior. They may believe that by dominating others, they will gain acceptance and admiration.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Sense of Entitlement:
Bullies may have a sense of entitlement, believing that they are superior to others and therefore have the right to treat them however they please.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Suppressed Emotions:
Bullies may suppress their own emotions, such as sadness or anger, and instead express them through aggressive behavior. Bullying becomes a way to release pent-up feelings without directly addressing the underlying issues.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Lack of Self-Awareness:
Bullies may lack self-awareness, failing to recognize the impact of their behavior on others. They may be oblivious to the pain and suffering they cause.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Internalized Anger:
Bullies may have internalized anger from past experiences, such as abuse or neglect. Bullying becomes a way to release this anger and exert control over their environment.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Identity Formation:
For some teenagers, bullying becomes part of their identity. They may define themselves as tough, powerful, or intimidating, and use bullying to reinforce this image.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Desire for Control:
Bullies often have a strong desire for control, stemming from feelings of powerlessness in other areas of their lives. Bullying gives them a sense of control over their victims and their environment.

๐Ÿ™ Understanding these psychological factors is crucial for developing effective interventions to help bullying people stop and create a more positive and supportive environment for everyone.



LUKA YANG TIDAK NAMPAK: Apa Yang Jadi Pada Orang Tua Lepas Kemalangan Jalan Raya?  Kemalangan jalan raya boleh buat oran...
06/08/2025

LUKA YANG TIDAK NAMPAK: Apa Yang Jadi Pada Orang Tua Lepas Kemalangan Jalan Raya?

Kemalangan jalan raya boleh buat orang tua susah hati. Mereka mungkin rasa sangat takut, mimpi buruk, dan tidak mahu ingat pasal kemalangan itu (PTSD). Ramai yang rasa risau, cepat marah, dan susah tidur. Ada juga yang sedih sangat, rasa putus asa, dan tidak mahu bergaul dengan orang (murung). Ingatan dan fikiran pun boleh jadi lemah. Akhir sekali, mereka mungkin jadi sunyi dan tidak mahu keluar rumah.

Kalau anda atau orang tua yang anda kenal rasa macam ni, jangan risau, boleh baik! (recovery is possible). Pergi jumpa doktor memang penting, tapi pada masa yang sama cuba buat benda-benda yang kena list down ni dan juga berdoa dan bergantung pada Tuhan pun boleh bagi kekuatan.

๐ŸŸค Tenangkan Diri: Bernafas dalam-dalam, tenangkan fikiran, dan regangkan badan sikit-sikit.
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๐ŸŸค Buat Jadual: Tidur, makan, dan buat kerja ikut masa yang tetap.
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๐ŸŸค Bergaul Dengan Orang: Luangkan masa dengan keluarga dan kawan-kawan.
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๐ŸŸค Senaman Ringan: Bersenam sikit-sikit boleh buat hati gembira dan kurang stress.
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๐ŸŸค Jauhkan Diri Daripada Perkara Yang Buat Ingat Kemalangan: Elakkan benda-benda yang mengingatkan pasal kemalangan.
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๐ŸŸค Dekatkan Diri Dengan Tuhan: Berdoa, atau baca buku agama boleh bagi ketenangan dan harapan.

Cepat-cepat dapatkan bantuan profesional seperti doktor, Psikologi, untuk bantuan kaunseling sekiranya ini mengganggu kehidupan seharian anda.


QUESTION: How does negative thinking impact various aspects of our lives, and what are its long-term dangers to mental a...
26/07/2025

QUESTION: How does negative thinking impact various aspects of our lives, and what are its long-term dangers to mental and physical health?

ANSWER: Repeated negative thoughts build a foundation of pessimism affecting every aspect of our lives. The constant barrage of negativity significantly impacts mental and physical health. Chronic pessimism is linked to increased stress, anxiety, depression, and a weakened immune system. It can trigger sleep disturbances, fatigue, and general malaise, creating a vicious cycle. In extreme cases, relentless stress and negativity can contribute to serious health problems, potentially leading to fatal consequences. Understanding the impact of negative thinking on our bodies is crucial to breaking free from this destructive pattern.


QUESTION:  What exactly is negative thinking, and is it something we're born with or something we learn? ANSWER: Negativ...
26/07/2025

QUESTION: What exactly is negative thinking, and is it something we're born with or something we learn?

ANSWER: Negative thinking isn't something we're born with; it's not an inherent flaw, a genetic predisposition, or something inherited from our parents. It's a dangerous habit, a learned behavior shaped by our experiences, environment, and the narratives we internalize. This habit, if left unchecked, has the potential to destroy us, not in a dramatic, singular event, but through a slow, insidious erosion of our well being, relationships, and potential. This erosion manifests in everyday moments: persistent worry undermining confidence, self-criticism overshadowing achievements, and negativity poisoning even the most positive interactions. Parents play a crucial role in shaping their children's thinking patterns; by fostering a positive and supportive environment, they can reduce the likelihood of negative thinking becoming an ingrained habit.


UNDERSTANDING TOXIC FRIENDSHIPS A toxic friend is someone who negatively impacts your wellbeing and happiness.  Think of...
13/07/2025

UNDERSTANDING TOXIC FRIENDSHIPS
A toxic friend is someone who negatively impacts your wellbeing and happiness. Think of it like this: they lure you into a pool of oil and sewage, unpleasant, damaging, and ultimately harmful. Identifying and avoiding toxic friendships is crucial for a happier life.

๐Ÿ”ด Here's how to understand and explain toxic friendships:

๐Ÿ›ข๏ธCharacteristics of Toxic Friendships:

๐Ÿ‘‰ Constant Negativity: They frequently complain, criticize, or spread negativity.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Manipulation: They try to control your actions or emotions for their benefit.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ One-Sided Relationship: The friendship feels unbalanced; you give more than you receive.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Disrespect: They disregard your feelings, boundaries, and opinions.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Jealousy and Competition: They are envious of your successes and try to undermine you.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Drama and Conflict: They thrive on drama and create conflict in your life.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Unreliable: They consistently let you down or break promises.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Guilt Trips: They make you feel guilty for setting boundaries or pursuing your own interests.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Controlling Behavior: They try to dictate your choices and relationships.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Lack of Support: They don't offer emotional support or encouragement during challenging times.

๐ŸŸค Why Identifying Toxic Friends is Important:

๐Ÿ›ข๏ธToxic friendships can lead to:

๐Ÿ‘‰ Increased Stress and Anxiety: Constant negativity and drama take a toll on your mental health.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Low Self-Esteem: Their criticisms and manipulations can erode your confidence.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Depression: Feeling unsupported and drained can contribute to depression.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Missed Opportunities: Their negativity can hinder your personal and professional growth.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Damaged Relationships: Their behavior can strain your relationships with other people.

๐Ÿ”ต How to Avoid Toxic Friendships:

๐Ÿ‘‰ Recognize the Signs: Learn to identify the red flags mentioned above.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Set Boundaries: Clearly communicate your limits and expectations.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Limit Contact: Gradually reduce your interactions with the toxic friend.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Prioritize Your Well-being: Focus on your own mental and emotional health.
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๐Ÿ‘‰ Seek Support: Talk to trusted friends, family, or a therapist.

The analogy of a "pool of oil and sewage" is a powerful way to illustrate the damaging nature of toxic friendships. Remember, maintaining healthy relationships is essential for a fulfilling life. Prioritizing your wellbeing and distancing yourself from toxic influences is a vital step towards happiness.

๐Ÿง‘โ€๐Ÿ’ผ Protect your emotional health; don't gamble with your well-being by tolerating toxic relationships. (Dari Sudut Psikologi JJSM, 2025)

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY Selamat Hari Bapa!  Peranan seorang bapa amat penting dalam perkembangan emosi dan psikologi anak-ana...
15/06/2025

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY
Selamat Hari Bapa! Peranan seorang bapa amat penting dalam perkembangan emosi dan psikologi anak-anak. Marilah kita hargai pengorbanan dan kasih sayang mereka yang tidak terhingga.

06/05/2025

Don't Ignore Your Stress

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Published on Daily Express: Sat, May 03, 2025

Kota Kinabalu: The recent case of a 30-year-old specialist who committed su***de in Lahad Datu is an alarm bell that issues regarding depression and mental health cannot be taken lightly.

Holistic medicine should include the mental aspect that we cannot see physically, said Sabah Medical Association President Datuk Dr Christina Rundi.

โ€œWhen we want to find out on how many people in Sabah committed su***de in the past. There is no available data. Some families might not want to report on su***de,โ€ she said.

Dr Rundi drew attention to overworked doctors suffering from burnout which affect mental health. She and Gynaecologist and Obstetrician Dr Felice Huang were fellow houseman serving in Queen Elizabeth Hospital during the start of their medical career and recalled that they were very well looked after by their nurses. It may not be so today.

She recalled a recent case of a 16-year-old student who fell or leaped off a high-rise building and wished there was a counselling service that the student could have reached out to for help.

Dr Rundi is concerned over disturbing trends in the Adolescence Health survey 2022 โ€“ on those studying in Form 1 to Form 5 in Malaysia.

โ€œThere were 280 schools selected nationwide to participate in the survey and 16 were from Sabah with about 2,342 students selected to give feedback on their prevalent health risk behaviour from loneliness, inability to sleep due to worry, suicidal ideation, suicidal plan, suicidal attempt to depression.

โ€œ20 per cent reported suffering from loneliness, 15 per cent had sleep worry woes. 15 per cent had entertained su***de thoughts and 10 per cent had made a su***de attempt while 30 per cent suffered from depression.โ€

The statistics from Sabah showed a higher percentage than the national average figures. Depression is a common mental health problem among adolescents worldwide. It can manifest as symptoms such as sadness, guilt, low self-esteem, a lack of happiness and dissatisfaction with their surroundings.

Depression can also cause individual problems such as difficulty sleeping, loss of appetite, lack of energy, and easy despair, leading to suicidal ideation.

22/04/2025

Setiap hari adalah peluang untuk menjaga kesihatan mental anda. Jangan takut untuk meminta pertolongan jika diperlukan. Anda berharga dan layak untuk rasa bahagia dan sihat. Jaga diri anda. Dan selalu berdoa pada Tuhan untuk kekuatan hati. (JJSM, 2025)

16/04/2025

The fabrication of unfounded stories about colleagues usually reflects the insecurity of the creator, not the shortcomings of the target.

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