STEP Behavior & Family Consulting

25/03/2026

Morning, semua!

Post dari STEP focus kepada skill untuk menunggu atau waiting skill and why it is an important skill to teach.

Mungkin kita pernah berfikir yang "aah, tunggu dorang besar dulu, faham juga tu" atau "dia masi kecil ba, dia belum tau" but actually waiting skill needs to be taught early on.

We share some ways to teach our children how to wait. Because it is not just a matter of teaching the skill, but also working on other developmental skill at the same time.

We hope this is insightful!

Have a good Wednesday :)

The art of waiting. The importance of it is often overlooked. Years of working with families, I noticed a pattern, and throughout the years, I picked up this specific phrase being uttered more often than not. "My child cannot wait."Now, a lot of us parents may have thought that the ability to wait c...

18/03/2026

Hi everyone,

Instagram saw this first, so I thought I'd take a moment to also introduce the person behind STEP here on Facebook.

Although I've been in this field for a number of years, starting this journey here back in Sabah feels like a new and meaningful chapter for me. It is a process I'm slowly growing into and I'm truly grateful to begin it here.

I'm looking forward to connecting with and supporting families around KK as I go.

Thank you for being here 💗

16/03/2026

Hello, parents!

Our two services are available, reach out for further information.

We are located at Donggongon Square, and our services are appointment-based only.

Friends and family, if you know any parents that could benefit from these, would be great if you can share along!

Happy Monday 😊

06/03/2026

Play is a crucial part of a child's growth as it builds a lot skills that the child needs to thrive in real-life situation.

If you are worried about your child's play skills, we are here to understand, guide you, and offer the support you need.

WhatsApp us for more information!

04/03/2026

Common Worries Parents Have / Kebimbangan Ibu Bapa (Read more)...

Some parents come for consultation because they notice things like:
• Child not responding when their name is called
• Having very limited words for their age
• Prefers to play alone most of the time
• Showing big reactions during small changes
• Having difficulty following simple instructions

Some of these behaviours are part of development. But some children might need extra support.

What do you do in situations where you feel like you don't do where to go?
What do you in situations where the waiting time to meet professionals / paediatrics takes too long?

Seek support. Look for resources online; there are plenty of strategies and guidance to help you kickstart some teaching at home. Go for screening / developmental check-up when you can.

These help parents understand what might be happening and what next steps can help.

Remember, the earlier you intervene, the earlier you provide the support that your child needs.
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Ibu bapa datang untuk sesi konsultansi kerana mereka perasaan perkara seperti:
• Anak tidak respon bila nama dipanggil
• Mempunyai perkataan yang sangat sedikit untuk umur dia
• Lebih s**a main sendiri
• Mudah menangis atau marah bila rutin berubah (atau perubahan kecil)
• Susah ikut arahan yang mudah/senang

Kadang-kadang ini memang sebahagian daripada perkembangan, tetapi sesetengah kanak-kanak mungkin memerlukan sokongan tambahan.

Apa yang anda lakukan dalam situasi di mana anda rasa tidak tahu ke mana hendak pergi?
Apa yang anda lakukan dalam situasi di mana masa menunggu untuk berjumpa dengan profesional / pakar pediatrik terlalu lama?

Cari sokongan. Cari sumber dalam talian; terdapat banyak strategi dan panduan untuk membantu anda memulakan pengajaran di rumah. Lakukan pemeriksaan saringan / perkembangan apabila anda boleh.

Ini membantu ibu bapa memahami apa yang mungkin berlaku dan langkah seterusnya yang boleh membantu.

Ingat, semakin awal anda mencari jawapan untuk membantu, semakin awal anda dapat memberikan sokongan yang diperlukan oleh anak anda.

02/03/2026

Hello everyone,
STEP Behavior & Family Consulting are offering these two services. We offer consultation, and also screening.

For further information and details, reach us through our WhatsApp at 014-6457136.

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Hello semua.
STEP Behavior & Family Consulting sekarang offer dua servis ini. Konsultansi dan juga saringan.

Untuk maklumat lanjut, boleh hubungi kami melalui WhatsApp 014-6457136.

09/02/2026

“Don’t run!”
“Don’t shout!”
“No hitting!”

But…what should they do instead?

Teaching replacement behaviors helps children succeed; not just complying or following what is asked of them.

“Don’t run” ➡️ “Walk beside me”
“Don’t shout” ➡️ “Say it nicely”
“No hitting” ➡️ “Ask for help / use your words”

Children are learning and the best way is to tell & show them what to do. When they need extra support to teach and do, you model and offer assistance.

Here to help,
MJ

06/02/2026

"Eee, biasalah tu kalau budak-budak. Nanti pandai juga dia tu."
"Belum lagi dia becakap? Okay tu, anak saya pun start becakap bila dia 4 tahun."
"Selalu dia betabiat macam tu, tapi nanti dia besar kurang-kurang sikit kali."

Now, ini mungkin kita pernah dengar, atau experience sebagai parents. And kadang-kadang, semua advice yang kita terima adalah untuk buat kita kurang risau tentang anak-anak kita. And that's okay! Sebab navigating this journey untuk membesarkan anak-anak bukan senang.

Tapi, perkembangan anak-anak sangat penting. Umur 2 hingga 5 tahun la antara 'golden years' anak-anak. Waktu inilah dorang belajar skills untuk kehidupan seharian dan foundation untuk kemahiran di masa akan datang.

"Saya risau juga, tapi laki/bini saya bilang tunggu dulu. Okay juga tu nanti."

Does this sound familiar?

While giving our children time to grow and develop is important and safer, it is equally important untuk kita sedar bila anak kita perlukan extra support, lebih-lebih lagi bila dorang belum lagi achieve dorang punya developmental milestone. Masa yang sudah lepas tidak akan kembali.

I have met parents who are very hands-on with their children during therapy, tapi sometimes during monthly meeting, sentences like "I wish that we started therapy early", or "we could've gone for diagnosis early" masih lagi keluar. Walaupun awareness untuk start datang lambat sikit but I know these parents are trying their best to understand and to know how to support their child.

This is about understanding keperluan anak-anak sebelum dorang punya challenges becomes bigger.

Bila kita identify challenges anak-anak kita awal:
- anak kita terima support bila dorang di umur yang dorang ready untuk belajar/serap skills
- small difficulties yang dorang akan hadapi will not become frustration yang berulang-ulang
- parents boleh adjust expectations dan strategies awal
- parents akan rasa lebih confident bila mengatur keperluan anak-anak

Dan yang penting sekali, anak kita akan lebih successful dalam kehidupan harian. Lagi awal kita fahami keperluan anak-anak kita, lagi awal kita boleh ajar dorang kemahiran yang dorang perlukan.

Untuk ibu bapa di luar sana yang sedang facing similiar thoughts and challenges, trusting your instinct is not overreacting.

Both parents play a role in making sure yang anak-anak boleh berjaya dalam kehidupan seharian. Lagi-lagi untuk anak-anak kita yang mungkin ada tingkah laku mencabar, tidak dapat communicate their needs, atau tidak tahu untuk interact/respond kepada orang sekeliling.

Early detection is not about labeling atau comparing our children. It is about understanding. It is about learning how to support.

If you're unsure, it's okay to ask.
If you're worried, it's okay to explore.
And if you're not ready yet, learning is still a step forward. 💗

03/02/2026

Often times, as parents, we can’t help but fall into the comparison game. This thought comes up so often, more than we’d like it to.

But as parents, we always need to remember that progress looks different for every child. Development is not a race. Our child learns at their own pace, and comparison doesn’t always show the full picture.

Let’s be more compassionate to our children who are trying their best everyday, and also to ourselves as parents who are navigating this journey.

Here to support,
MJ

23/01/2026

Punishment controls behavior; teaching builds it.
Behaviour changes when skills are taught not when we apply fear to it.

Supportive strategies leads to long-term progress, so when we found ourselves repeatedly resorting to punishment, it’s worth pausing to reflect, how else can I support this challenging behaviour in a more effective way?

21/01/2026

Hi semua!

Thank you for supporting STEP by liking, sharing, & following our page 💗

Kami share tips and strategies di Instagram juga, so follow us for more .
For longer form of writing, can check out our blog - stepbehaviorconsul.wixsite.com/stepbfconsulting

Untuk parents dan special needs educators, kadang-kadang hari kita mencabar lagi-lagi bila kita tidak tau apa punca anak-anak kita tiba-tiba menjerit, menangis, tarik rambut, atau buang barang. So the first step is untuk memahami apa yang anak-anak kita cuba sampaikan.

Semoga tips dan strategies yang kami share di masa akan datang akan bantu parents dan educators dari perspektif yang baru, tapi yang paling penting untuk semua tahu, the journey with special needs children is lifelong, so setiap hari kita belajar benda baru and kita beri support yang mereka perlukan dan support yang kita perlukan. So don't forget to take care of yourself too!

Harap ini membantu 😊
Happy Wednesday all!

19/01/2026

Hi there!

Welcome to STEP Behavior & Family Consulting.

We're excited to share that we will be based in Kota Kinabalu, offering support for children, parents, and educators.

More details to follow so make sure you give us a follow to be updated!