ACTS for Transformation

24/09/2025

Whether we're building a professional relationship on LinkedIn or creating a safe space in a therapy session, the foundation is the same: authentic, deliberate connection. This principle is the very soul of my upcoming book.
You can pre-order your copy of "Quiet Power: Leading with Impact" here: https://forms.gle/8NADGWNWNudrQ8ja7

This week's newsletter on "Digital Networking for the Deliberate Connector" sparked so many great conversations about using online tools with intention. It’s a topic that goes to the very heart of my work, and it’s precisely why I am so excited about the webinar I'm conducting for therapists from all over the world this Friday afternoon:
"The Art of Therapeutic Listening: Building Rapport and Trust".

In an age of telehealth and digital sessions, the ability to create profound trust and rapport through a screen isn't just a skill—it's an ethical necessity. True, deep listening is the core technology that makes therapy work, regardless of the platform. It is the quiet, sacred space where healing begins.

I cannot wait to share these insights with fellow practitioners, connecting my work as an ICF Mindset Coach and a Family Counsellor. It feels like a true culmination of my passions.

You can read the full article here: https://acts4transformation.com/digital-networking-for-deliberate-connector/

15/09/2025

The event is over. The real work—and the real magic—begins now.

A pocketful of business cards means nothing. A single, thoughtful follow-up means everything. The quiet work you do after a conversation is what transforms a fleeting moment into a lasting alliance. This is where introverts don't just compete; we excel.

In this week's "EI & Relationship Mastery" blog, we're exploring the art of the follow-up. The 7th article in my "The Introvert's Compass" series is here: "The 'Follow-Up Alchemist': Turning Brief Encounters into Lasting Professional Friendships."

I share a 5-ingredient formula for crafting the perfect, non-generic follow-up that adds value and builds genuine trust.
Read the full article and learn the formula here: https://acts4transformation.com/the-follow-up-alchemist-brief-encounters-into-lasting-friendships/

This concept of leveraging quiet strengths is the very heart of my upcoming book, "Quiet Power: Leading with Impact." If this series resonates with you, I invite you to be among the first to read the full story.
You can pre-order your copy now! Link is in the first comment.

If you believe the follow-up is the most important part of networking, please:
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Let's discuss what makes a real connection stick. 👇
For discussion: What’s the most memorable follow-up you’ve ever received, and why did it stand out to you?

Good morning. It’s Monday here in Kuala Lumpur and also a public holiday, a day for setting intentions. Let’s start with a familiar scene. The networking […]

08/09/2025

In a world drowning in noise, the person who truly listens possesses a superpower. 🦸‍♂️

Most networking is about talking. Proving your value. Making your point. But what if the fastest path to trust and influence isn't speaking at all?

In this week's "EI & Relationships Mastery" blog, we dive deep into this idea. The 6th article in my "The Introvert's Compass" series is here. It’s titled: "Listening Louder Than You Speak: How Introverts Build Trust Through Attentive Networking."

We explore how your natural ability to listen isn't a passive skill—it's your most active and powerful tool for cutting through the noise and building unshakable professional relationships.

Read the full article here: https://acts4transformation.com/listening-louder-than-speak-introverts-build-trust/

If you believe that understanding is the foundation of influence, please:
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Let's elevate the quality of our conversations. 👇
For our discussion: What's the difference between merely "hearing" someone and truly "listening" to them? Share a time you experienced the difference.

Good afternoon. I want you to pause for a moment and just listen. What do you hear? The hum of your computer, the distant sound of […]

01/09/2025

Let's start the week with a question: Where do you feel most like yourself? In a loud, crowded room trying to be heard, or in a quiet cafe having a real conversation?

For years, we've been told that networking success happens in the crowded room. But what if that's a myth? What if the most powerful alliances are built not through performance, but through relaxed, insightful conversation?

This is the focus of our 5th guide in the "The Introvert's Compass" series. In this week's blog, we explore "The Strategic Coffee Chat: Why One-on-One is an Introvert's Networking Goldmine."
I break down the entire process into a simple 3-act playbook for turning a simple coffee into a powerful, lasting connection.

Read the full playbook here: https://acts4transformation.com/the-strategic-coffee-chat-introverts-network-goldmine/

If you believe in the power of authentic connection, please:
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And now, a moment for a quiet, personal reflection. 👇
Self-Reflection Question: When you think about "networking," does your personal energy go up or down? What might that be telling you about the approach you're currently taking?

Good morning. It’s a bright Monday here in Kuala Lumpur, a good day to think about new beginnings and better strategies. Let’s start with a visualisation. […]

28/08/2025

This week, I wrote in my newsletter about using a "Story Key"—a gentle, curious question to unlock deeper conversations. The theory is that asking "What's the story behind that?" can bypass small talk and build real rapport.

Yesterday afternoon, I got to put it into practice in the most incredible way.

I had the privilege of sitting down for coffee with the one and only Uncle Kentang (Chee Heng Kuan). To say I was nervous is an understatement. Here is a man whose name is synonymous with compassion and social action in Malaysia. What do you even say to a living legend?

Remembering my own advice, I took a breath and used the key. After the initial introductions, I simply asked about the story behind his relentless drive to help others.

What followed was one of the most fascinating and moving conversations I've had in a long time. We didn't just talk; we dove deep into the heart of the issues facing our nation. We discussed the heartbreaking rates of unreported suicides, the quiet struggles of those living in poverty, and the incredible power of a community that shows up for one another.

He is every bit the hero you imagine, and his story is one of profound empathy in action.

It was a powerful reminder that behind every public figure, every impressive title, and every person you meet, there is a human being with a story waiting to be heard. All you have to do is have the courage and curiosity to ask.

Thank you, Uncle Kentang, for your time, your wisdom, and your incredible heart for Malaysia. You are a true inspiration.
To read the article: https://acts4transformation.com/tell-me-your-story.../

25/08/2025

"So, what do you do?" 😩 Let's be honest, small talk can be a minefield, especially for those of us who crave deeper connection. It's often the most draining part of networking.

But what if you had a master key to bypass the superficial and unlock real, engaging conversations?

In my work as a Storytelling & Transformative Trainer, I've found that this key is a simple, genuine invitation: "Tell me your story."

This is the superpower we explore in the 4th article of my 10-week "The Introvert's Compass" series for my "EI & Relationship Mastery" blog. It’s titled: "'𝐓𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐌𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲': 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭'𝐬 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐑𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭."
We dive into how this simple shift from asking for data to asking for a narrative can transform networking from a chore into a delightful discovery.

Read the blog and find your key here: Click on the article link
https://acts4transformation.com/tell-me-your-story-introverts-superpower-in-building-rapport/

If you believe in the power of stories to connect us, please:
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Let's start a better conversation. 👇
Discussion Question: What's a question you've asked (or been asked) that instantly elevated a conversation beyond small talk?

Good morning. It’s Monday here in Kuala Lumpur, a fresh start to the week. Let’s begin by talking about something that is anything but fresh: small […]

24/08/2025

Reading about Guo, the 21-year-old TAR UMT student, hit me hard.

His aunt said he was an introvert who was "hard on himself" and "spent his birthday alone."

This isn't just a tragic headline. It’s a silent epidemic I see in my own practice.

The pattern is heartbreakingly familiar:
→ The crushing weight of self-imposed perfection.
→ The belief that you should only share good news, never the struggle.
→ The deep loneliness of feeling like no one understands.

But I need you to hear this: Your story can be different.

I've had the privilege of watching clients break free from this exact cycle. They shifted their mindset to understand that their worth isn't measured by their grades or achievements. They found their voice.

You are not a burden for having struggles. You are human.

It is okay to not be okay.

If this resonates with you, please know you’re not alone. Drop a ❤️ to show support for others who might be feeling this way.
PS: News article @ https://weirdkaya.com/21yo-tar-umt-student-sends-final-text-to-mum-before-death/

19/08/2025

A wise angler never just throws their line in the water. They first stand at the edge, patiently observing—reading the currents and looking for signs of life. A frantic amateur, on the other hand, casts wildly, hoping for luck.
Which one are you at a networking event?

For many introverts, our greatest superpower is our natural ability to observe. Yet, we're often told to ignore it and just "jump in." It's time to reframe that thinking. Observation isn't passivity; it's a powerful strategy.

This is the heart of my 3rd article in the 10-week "The Introvert's Compass" series for my "EI & Relationship Mastery" blog. It’s titled: "𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐎𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐀𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡: 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐒𝐩𝐨𝐭 𝐆𝐞𝐧𝐮𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬."
In this piece, we dive into a practical field guide for "reading the room," identifying the most approachable people, and making your first move with confidence and intention.

Read the blog here and learn to be the wise angler: Click on the article below.

If this approach resonates, please:
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Let's build a smarter way to connect. 👇
Discussion Question: 𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒔𝒖𝒃𝒕𝒍𝒆 𝒄𝒖𝒆 𝒐𝒓 𝒔𝒊𝒈𝒏𝒂𝒍 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒓𝒐𝒐𝒎 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒂𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒈𝒆𝒏𝒖𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏?
https://acts4transformation.com/the-art-of-observant-approach-genuine-connections/

Picture a wise, seasoned angler standing at the edge of a vast lake at dawn. The water is a mirror of the nascent, pearly sky. The […]

13/08/2025

Quiet Power Nugget #2:
In a world that celebrates noise, remember this: your quietness is not a weakness. It is a source of profound strength.

It's the space where deep thinking happens, where empathy thrives, and where true conviction takes root. Embrace your quiet nature—it's your superpower.

Pre-order the book, if it resonates.

12/08/2025

Ever come home from a "networking" event with a pocketful of business cards that feel more like confetti than connections? You're not alone. The game of collecting contacts often leaves us feeling empty and unseen.

What if we stopped playing the quantity game and started mastering the art of quality? What if the goal wasn't a thicker rolodex, but a stronger, more trusted "council of allies"?

This is the strategic shift we explore in the second article of my new 10-week series, "The Introvert's Compass." It’s titled: "𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐂𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐑𝐨𝐨𝐦𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐌𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: 𝐀𝐧 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭'𝐬 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐐𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐐𝐮𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲."
In this week's "EI & Relationship Mastery" blog, we dive into a practical, 4-step toolkit for introverts to leverage their natural strengths, escape the small-talk trap, and build fewer, but far more powerful, professional relationships.

Read the guide here: Click on the article link below.
If you believe in the power of deep connection over superficial contact, please:
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Let's build better connections together. 👇
Discussion Question: What is your favourite open-ended question to ask someone to move a conversation beyond typical small talk?
https://acts4transformation.com/from-crowded-rooms-to-meaningful-conversation-2/

Good morning. As the Kuala Lumpur traffic begins its familiar morning hum outside my window, I want you to think about the last “networking event” you […]

04/08/2025

Does the phrase "networking event" fill you with a unique kind of dread? You're not alone.

For too long, we've been sold a myth: that to build a powerful network, you have to be a "Magnetic Extrovert"—loud, charismatic, and always the center of attention. But what if that model is not only exhausting but also deeply ineffective for building real, lasting professional relationships?

Today, I'm thrilled to launch a brand new 10-week series in my "EI & Relationship Mastery" blog, designed to dismantle this myth and give you a new playbook. Welcome to "The Introvert's Compass: A Guide to Authentic Networking," a practical series running in conjunction with my upcoming book, "𝐐𝐮𝐢𝐞𝐭 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫: 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭."
(Pre-order: https://forms.gle/i55dMgNJqZ3JuD1L6 )

Our journey begins with the first article, just published: "𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐲𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐠𝐧𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐄𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭: 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐎𝐰𝐧 𝐍𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐍𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡."

We'll explore how to stop playing their game and start navigating by your own authentic strengths—like deep listening, empathy, and strategic thinking.
Read the first article and start your journey here: Click on article link below.

If this resonates with you, please:
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Let's redefine what it means to connect. 👇
Discussion Question: What is the biggest myth or misconception about networking that you would love to see disappear?
https://acts4transformation.com/the-myth-of-magnetic-extrovert-finding-networking-true-north/

The email lands in your inbox, a beacon of cheerful fonts and exclamation points. “You’re Invited! Annual Industry Mixer & Networking Event!” And your stomach drops. […]

28/07/2025

What's more powerful: a dazzling firework display that gets all the applause, or the quiet strike of a single match that can light a whole room of candles, one by one?

This is the essence of my 10th and FINAL article in our "The Unseen Architects" series for my blog. It’s titled: "The Quiet Spark: Igniting Potential Without the Fanfare." We explore how the ultimate act of quiet leadership is not to be the star of the show, but to see and ignite the potential in others.

Thank you for joining me on this incredible 10-week journey. But now that we've celebrated these quiet strengths, a new question arises: How do we navigate a world that still values loud connection?

That's why I'm thrilled to announce that starting next week, we embark on a new 10-week series: "The Introvert's Compass: A Guide to Authentic Networking." We're shifting from the "why" of quiet power to the "how" of navigating the world with it.
Read the conclusion of our series and get a preview of what's next: Click on the link below.

If you believe in creating leaders, not just leading, please:
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To close this chapter, I'd love to hear from you. 👇
Discussion Question: Which of the "Unseen Architect" archetypes from the past 10 weeks (Gardener, Whisperer, Lighthouse, Weaver, etc.) resonated with you the most, and why?

Imagine the grand finale of a celebration. The sky erupts in a riot of colour and sound—a spectacular fireworks display. Explosions of crimson, sapphire, and gold […]