10/09/2025
āHow are you?ā isn't just a greeting. Itās a responsibility. Can you be the reason someone doesnāt feel invisible?
š Namibia has the highest su***de rate in Africa. And yes, even here, in our peaceful coastal town, people are hurting. Here weāre surrounded by beautyāocean mist, desert silence, and the kind of small-town warmth where everyone waves, even if they donāt know your name. But behind the calm, Iāve seen something deeply unsettling.
In my practice, Iāve encountered a staggering number of parasu***desāpeople who didnāt want to die, but didnāt know how to keep living. Itās not just numbers. Itās faces. Itās stories. Itās pain that went unnoticed until it screamed. As a doctor, Iāve seen how pain doesnāt always show up on X-rays. Sometimes, it hides behind a smile, a joke, or a āIām fine.ā And while I do love a good laugh (itās cheaper than therapy), I also know when humor isnāt enough.
Weāve turned āhow are you?ā into a polite noise. A verbal shrug. A social reflex. Iām a doctor. I ask āhow are you?ā hundreds of times a week. But hereās the truth: most people answer before Iāve even finished the question. But it needs to be more than a greeting. It needs to be a lifeline. Because behind āfineā might be someone whoās barely holding on.
So go ahead. Ask someone. And if they say āfine,ā ask again: āNo, reallyāhow are you really doing?ā That second ask can crack the surface.
š Donāt rush to offer solutions. Just be there. Let them speak. Let silence breathe.
š¢ Donāt minimize their pain. Avoid phrases like: āOthers have it worse.ā āJust think positive.ā Instead, say: āI canāt imagine how hard this is, but Iām here.ā
š¬ Stay connected. Send a message. Make a call. Drop by. Isolation fuels despairāyour presence can interrupt that spiral. Even a simple āthinking of youā text can mean the world. Healing is a process, not a moment.
š§© Help them find someone they can trust. Whether itās a social worker, a psychologist, or a wellness coachābe the bridge. Offer to go with them to a counseling session. Help them make the call. These people trained to listen, to guide, to help find the way back. Sometimes, the hardest part is the first stepāand you can walk it with them. Many donāt go because they think itās weakness, because theyāre afraid of what others will say, because they canāt find the strength to take that first step. Let me be clear: asking for help is not weakness. Itās courage. Itās the bravest thing you can do.
š§ You donāt need a medical degree to save a life. You just need to care enough to askāand mean it because someone you love might be silently asking for help. Sometimes, the difference between despair and recovery is You.
Letās make āhow are you?ā a question that opens doorsānot just ends conversations.
Hereās to health and good vibes ā more to come!
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