10/07/2021
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People are getting married for different reasons s*x, children, money, status, beauty, pressure, age etc. These things are not wrong by themselves, it's just a matter of priority.
According to design, the primary purpose of marriage is companionship. To have someone to share your life and moments with before any other thing. Adam was alone so God had to make a companion for him.
How many people are getting married for this very reason? Just a few. Some are getting married because they want children and when children are not forthcoming, in most cases, that's the end of the marriage.
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Do you know that the reasons why people are getting married are responsible for the failure of a lot of marriages?
Let me show you the impact your reason for getting married will have on your marriage...
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How you approach your marriage will be on the basis of why you get married. It can't be otherwise. The Bible says, "For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he."(Prov. 23:7 KJV)
If you get married because of children, s*x, money etc., these things will be a great deal and a front burner in your marriage and when you are not getting it, problem will ensue.
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How you treat your spouse will also be on the basis of why you marry. How your spouse will treat you in marriage will be on the basis of why he or she gets married to you. You better ask for their reason for wanting to get married to you.
A lot of women got married because of money and when money finished, love finished, marriage finished and even the man finished too.
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How long your marriage will last is on the basis of why you get married. Why people get married is one of the reasons why some marriages are succeeding while some are failing. Motive makes the difference.
The Bible says, "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life." (Prov. 13:12 NIV) When someone gets married because of children and the children are delayed or didn't come, it brings discouragement and disappointment.
As you know, a lot of people quit when they are discouraged or disappointed. The continuation of such marriage will come under threat. A lot of women have been disgracefully sent packing because they have no children. So how long your marriage lasts, to a large extent, is at the mercy of why you get married.
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How well your marriage will fair, to a reasonable extent, is a function of your reason for getting married.
Whether your marriage will be a godly one, romantic, healthy, happy and successful or bitter, frustrating, annoying, draining and killing is the handiwork of your reason for getting married, to an extent.
The atmosphere, the eura, and the serenity of your marriage are all the function of why you get married. You can't separate the two.
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Your experience in marriage is a function of your reason for getting married. Your reason for getting married will largely determine whether you enjoy or endure marriage.
You can't even begin to imagine what a lot of women and men are experiencing in the hands of their partners because of one reason or another, emotional and verbal abuse, rejection, abandonment, harsh treatment, insults, disrespect, physical violence etc.
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You don't need a wife because your clothes are dirty. What happens to your hands? What about drycleaners? What about washing machines? A wife is not a washing machine.
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You don't need a wife because you cannot cook. You can learn how to cook. The best chef in the world is a man! Did you hear that? How about eating out or ordering for your meal? A wife is more than a cook.
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You don't need a wife to give you a son so that your lineage can continue. It is your impact that determines whether you're forgotten or remembered. Did our Lord Jesus have a son? What about Paul? Even Peter that married and had children, have you heard the name of any of his sons? A wife is not a baby factory.
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You don't need a wife because you want to have s*x as you want. After s*x and multiple or***ms, what next? A wife is not a s*x machine. A wife is more.
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You don't need a husband because you want to escape from poverty. A husband is not a poverty alleviation and eradication scheme.
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You don't need a husband because you want a man that will take over the responsibilities of your family, send your siblings to school, start up your brothers in business. A husband is not a philanthropist.
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You don't need a husband because you want a man that will take care of you. You are an adult who should be able to take care of herself. Are you saying that if the man isn't there you won't be able to take care of yourself? If the money is not there, will you enjoy the company of the man? Will he not be irritating to you?
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If the reason you're getting married is to have a wife that will be washing your dirty clothes, cook meals for you, give you s*x and children, you're actually looking for a house help and baby mama not a wife. A wife is more than just washing your clothes and cooking for you.
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If the reason you are getting married is to have a husband that will eradicate and alleviate you from poverty, send your siblings to school and take over your family responsibilities, Aunty na philanthropist you are looking for.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying your wife or husband shouldn't do any of these for you, but if these are your primary objectives for getting a wife or a husband, you are totally wrong.
๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง...
Don't get married for the wrong reasons. You can't marry for the wrong reasons and expect your marriage to turn out right. The foundation is faulty.
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Thanks for reading.
I'm committed to helping you to marry right, to treat your relationship and marriage issues and to build a happy home. You want us to talk, send me a message on WhatsApp 09032155522!
ยฉ Samuel Okolie