Clinical psychologist

18/02/2023

Sometimes,we tend to break our own hearts intentionally or unintentionally. We intentionally break our hearts by expecting too much from people,thinking that they see us the way we see them.
Here are tips on how we can stop breaking our hearts intentionally.
1) Refrain from checking up on people who no longer hold space in your life.
2) Avoid thinking about the results and proceed with an opened mind instead. Anticipating something from others may put you at risk of disappointment.
3) Reduce all expectations. Learn how to let things occur naturally.
4) Stop depending on others to lead you towards happiness. You can't count on another person to make you happy.
5) Respect a person for who they are,rather than who you hope they will change into.

17/02/2023

INTIMACY
When we hear Intimacy,what we often think about is s*x. While s*x or physical intimacy can be an important part of a relationship,it's not all of it.
Intimacy is the way in which we feel close,heard,and seen in our relationship,not just romantic ones. Intimacy includes emotional,intellectual,social,spiritual,behavioural and so on. Intimacy is vulnerability and openness. Intimacy is experiencing closeness,deep friendship with another while being accepted and loved for who we authentically are.
Intimacy is being open,truthful,sincere,honest with a person or people. Intimacy means being safe with another. It is the feeling that you are safe with people or a person no matter what comes up. When you realize you can tell someone your truth,when you show them yourself,your ability,your capability,your strength,your weaknesses,your tears,your smile,your downfall and your RISE.
Intimacy is when you stand in front of them Bare ( in aspect of your emotions,your feelings,your mental health,your unhealthy and healthy phases of life) and their response is "You're safe with me". That is Intimacy. Intimacy is not all about s*x.
Before you start building a relationship and having s*x,First Build Intimacy. It will make lots of things easier for you. I call it " Self-Intimacy" also known as what the ancient Greeks called "Philantia".
Be Mentally Aware💛❤

03/10/2022

How can you Manage Depression:
1) Allow yourself to breakdown and cry.
Let those tears flow darling,it doesn't signify weakness,but courage.

2) Identify your fears and those things that weigh you down.

3)Embrace your fears with your full chest. There is a saying that says,"Fight Your Battles".

4)Go to God or Allah in prayer.

5) Take a deep breath and allow yourself to grow 💛

03/10/2022

The rate of su***de and depression these days is fast rising. Look my people,Happiness is a choice... It is not a lifestyle. Because you can't be happy always. So is Depression a choice.
Everyone has been depressed in one way or the other. They say that "one can not teach what they don't practice". "That you shouldn't allow someone that haven't been in your shoes,tell you how to tie your laces".
My Lovelies,I have been there. I have been depressed countless times. I had wallowed on the path of depression for 3 years, But I conquered. I allowed myself to breakdown in tears. Those tears are heavy burden of your heart that you let go. Let those tears pour down from your eyes sweetie,it is NOT a sign of WEAKNESS. It's a sign that you are down Now but will RISE AGAIN.
Most of us are depressed because we allow people to control our emotions,our moods,and our lifestyle.
Like I've been saying in my posts,that YOU should learn how to be in POSSESSION of your emotions. DO NOT allow people to sway you nor your emotions, cajole you,make you give up on your dreams and hard work. Be in charge of Your Lifestyle. Choose your life for yourself. Live your Life for you.

19/07/2022

TRAUMA 2

Can you cure a Psychological Trauma?
Those traumatic experiences in or lives are unchangeable and they may affect us in the future. Although e cannot undo the past, but we can heal from them, and know that healing is still possible.

How Trauma is stored in the body.
Ever since people's responses to overwhelming experiences have been systematically explored, researchers have noted that a trauma is stored in Somatic Memory and expressed as changes in the biological stress response.

What does childhood trauma look like in an adult?
Childhood trauma also results in feeling disconnected, and being unable to relate to others. Studies have shown that adults that experience childhood teams are now likely to struggle controlling emotions and had heightened anxiety, depression and anger.

What is the best therapy for Trauma?
Cognitive- behavioural therapy (CBT).
CBT involves discussing the trauma and your symptoms and helping you implement better thought and behavioral patterns.

Know when you're being Traumatized and seek for help.💛

19/07/2022

TRAUMA 1

Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, stained relationships, and even physical symptoms like headache and nausea.
We have 8 Types of Trauma and 3 MAIN Types of Trauma.
8 types of trauma:
--Bullying
--Community violence
--Complex Trauma
--Disasters
--Early childhood Trauma
--Intimate partner violence
--Medical Trauma
--Physical Abuse

3 MAIN Types of Trauma
--Acute Trauma. This results from a single incident
--Chronic Trauma. This is repeated and prolonged such as domestic violence or abuse
--Complex Trauma. This is exposure to varied multiple traumatic events, often an invasive inter personal nature.
What are the 4 types of trauma responses.
Trauma responses is the way we cope with traumatic experiences. We cope with traumatic experiences in many ways and each one of us selects the way that fits best with our needs. The four types of mechanisms we use to cope with traumatic experiences are:
-- Fight
--Flight
--Freeze
--Fawn.
How long does it take to Mentally recover from Trauma?
People affected by trauma tend to feel unsafe in their bodies and in their relationships with others. Regaining a sense of safety may take days to weeks with acutely traumatized individuals or months to years with individuals who have experienced ongoing/chronic abuse.
5 Stages of Trauma
--Denial._This can't be happening
--Anger._Why did this have to happen?
--Bargaining._I promise i'll never ask for another thing if only you will.
-- Depression._A gloom that comes from having to adjust to so much so quickly.
--Acceptance

18/07/2022

11 Things You Should Never Ignore!!

1)Thought of self-harm
2)Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy
3)Persistent low mood
4)Thoughts of not been enough
5) Having double mind about life
6)Consistent poor concentration
7)Suddenly becoming introverted when you are not born an introvert.
8)Sleep esteem issues
9)Sleep disorder
10)Extreme feeling of hopelessness
11)Caring less about yourself.

Contact a Mental Health Specialist💛

13/07/2022

What psychology says about a normal person?
1) If a person laughs too much, even at stupid things, he is lonely deep inside.
2) If a person speaks less, but speaks fast, he keeps secrets.
3) If a person sleeps a lot, he is sad.
4) If someone can't cry, he is weak.
5)If eats in an abnormal manner,he is tense.
6)If someone cries on little things, he is innocent and soft-hearted.
7)If someone becomes angry over silly or petty(small) things, it means he needs love.

Let's keep watch and take care of our Mental Health.

27/06/2022

16/05/2022

What is placebo? A placebo is anything that seems to be a "real" medical treatment... But isn't. It could be s pill, a shot, or some other type of fake treatment. What a placebo have in common is that they do not contain an active substance meant to affect health.

How are placebo used? Researchers use placebos during studies to help them understand what reenact effect a new drug or some other treatment might have on a particular condition.
For instance, some people in a study might be given a be drug to lower cholesterol, others would get a placebo. None of the people in the study will know if they got the real treatment or the placebo. Researchers then compare the effects of the drug and the placebo on the people in the study. That way, they can determine the effectiveness of the new drug and check the side effects.

What is the placebo effect? Sometimes a person can have a response to a placebo. The response can be positive or negative. For instance the persons symptoms may improve, or the person may have what appears to be side effects from the treatment. The responses at known as "placebo effect".
There are some conditions in which a placebo can produce results even when people know they are taking a placebo. Studies shows that placebos can have an effect on condition such as:
*Depression
*pain
*sleep disorders
*irritable bowl syndrome
*menopause.

In one study involving asthma, people using a placebo inhaler did no better on breathing tests than sitting and doing nothing. But when researchers asked for peoples perception of how they felt, the placebo effect was reported as being effective as medicine in providing relief.
How does the placebo effect work? Research on the placebo effect has focused on the relationship of Mind and Body.