19/05/2025
FROM TOXIC TO IDEAL, WHICH TYPE OF HUSBAND ARE YOU?
1. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐨𝐬𝐬/𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐇𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝:
”𝑯𝒆 𝒓𝒖𝒍𝒆𝒔, 𝒔𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒃𝒆𝒚𝒔. 𝑵𝒐 𝒗𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆. 𝑵𝒐 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆."
This husband sees himself as a commander, not a companion. He may use religion or culture to justify control and expect absolute obedience—sometimes even punishing disagreement. His wife feels like a subordinate rather than a partner.
𝑾𝒊𝒇𝒆'𝒔 𝑻𝒚𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍 𝑹𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏: Suppression, depression, or silent rebellion.
𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒆: Breaks trust and harms emotional wellbeing of the wife.
𝑨𝒅𝒗𝒊𝒄𝒆: Set respectful boundaries. Seek wise counsel, especially from religious leaders who promote balance and mercy in marriage.
2. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐨𝐦 (𝐕𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐨𝐫) 𝐇𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝:
“𝑴𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒑𝒂𝒑𝒆𝒓, 𝒎𝒊𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚."
He’s hardly ever home—physically, emotionally, or both. Work, friends, devices, or distance consume him. He may provide financially but neglects communication, romance, and emotional bonding.
𝑾𝒊𝒇𝒆'𝒔 𝑻𝒚𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍 𝑹𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏: Loneliness, overfunctioning, or turning elsewhere for attention.
𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒆: Creates emotional distance and weakens the marriage foundation.
𝑨𝒅𝒗𝒊𝒄𝒆: Initiate open conversations. Suggest time routines. Consider counseling if his absence is damaging the bond.
3. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐇𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝:
“𝑺𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝒃𝒖𝒓𝒅𝒆𝒏, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 ."
He believes in fairness and gives his wife a voice. He contributes at home and values her ideas—but only when it suits him. Partnership exists but is not yet deeply rooted in empathy or spiritual responsibility.
𝑾𝒊𝒇𝒆'𝒔 𝑻𝒚𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍 𝑹𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏: Grateful but occasionally frustrated.
𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒆: May cause inconsistency and feelings of insecurity.
𝑨𝒅𝒗𝒊𝒄𝒆: Appreciate progress, while kindly encouraging deeper connection and spiritual alignment.
4. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐇𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝:
“𝑪𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑷𝒓𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆, 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒍𝒚 𝒔𝒐."
He is nurturing, responsible, and affectionate. But he may sometimes treat his wife more like a daughter—limiting her growth or input, even if unintentionally.
𝑾𝒊𝒇𝒆'𝒔 𝑻𝒚𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍 𝑹𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏: Safe, yet not fully seen or heard.
𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒆: Limits wife’s independence and full partnership.
𝑨𝒅𝒗𝒊𝒄𝒆: Acknowledge his goodness, then gently request mutual growth and mature communication.
5. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝:
“𝑨 𝑱𝒖𝒔𝒕, 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒆𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒆𝒓."
He follows the example of the Prophet (peace be upon him). He listens. He leads. He learns. He respects and uplifts his wife, fears Allah in his treatment of her, and constantly seeks self-improvement.
𝑾𝒊𝒇𝒆'𝒔 𝑻𝒚𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍 𝑹𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏: Flourishing emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.
𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒆: None—this is the healthy ideal.
𝑨𝒅𝒗𝒊𝒄𝒆: Support and appreciate him. Grow together in faith and purpose.
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