Speaking D Truth In Marriage By David & Esther

13/10/2025

💬 Finance & Responsibility in Marriage: Is a Joint Account a Blessing or a Burden?

This is one topic every intending couple must take seriously before saying “I do.”
Money matters are not just about figures — they affect the peace, trust, and direction of every marriage.

Like Pastor Bolaji once said, “Courtship is the period of asking questions, not the period of having sex.”
Unfortunately, many couples ignore important conversations about finances before marriage.
Later, these unasked questions become the roots of serious marital crises.

💰 Finance is the fuel that keeps a home running daily.
Bills, rent, children, food, and plans — all revolve around money. That’s why financial conversations must be clear before marriage to avoid conflict in the future.
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💞 Now to the question: Is a joint account a blessing or a burden in marriage?

For some, a joint account is a blessing because they believe marriage makes them one flesh.
For others, it feels like a burden — a loss of privacy or a shared responsibility they’re not comfortable with.

But what does Scripture say?

> “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they two shall become one flesh.” — Genesis 2:24

Notice that the oneness comes after marriage. That means, in God’s design, there’s no longer “my money” or “your money” — but “our money.”
Marriage is built on shared responsibility, and finances are part of that shared duty.
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🌿 Advantages of Having a Joint Account

1️⃣ Accountability
A joint account promotes transparency and mutual accountability. Each partner becomes answerable to the other — it eliminates the “I didn’t know” syndrome in financial matters.

2️⃣ Openness, Not Secrecy
A joint account closes the door to financial secrets. Both partners can see what’s going on.
That popular line — “His money is our money, but my money is mine” — no longer fits in a marriage built on unity and trust.

3️⃣ Deepened Love and Commitment
When couples share their finances, it reflects deeper trust and unity. It shows they are building together, not leaving one person to carry all the financial weight.

4️⃣ Easier Planning and Cooperation
A joint account makes family planning and budgeting simpler.
Remember the scripture: “Can two walk together unless they agree?”
Joint finances help couples plan, agree, and execute family goals Smoothly
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🌺 Final Thoughts

A joint account should not be seen as a burden but as a blessing.
It promotes oneness, destroys secrecy, and encourages financial stability and shared responsibility.

This doesn’t mean couples can’t have personal accounts for individual goals — that’s perfectly fine.
But for the home’s financial peace and unity, a joint account can be a powerful tool.

It also gives the spouse who isn’t currently working a sense of belonging and partnership — reminding them that in this marriage, we are one team, not two individuals.

💬 Question for You:
Do you think having a joint account strengthens or complicates a marriage?
Share your thoughts in the comments 👇

10/10/2025

Commitment in marriage means staying faithful and steadfast, not perfect. Just as God remains faithful despite our flaws, couples should honor their vows and remain devoted even during difficult times — not allowing a partner’s shortcomings to justify their own.

09/10/2025

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09/10/2025

💬 Discussion Time — Let’s Be Honest

Many couples say, “We should tell each other everything.”
But in reality… some things are hard to share. 💭

What if what you reveal might hurt your partner?
What if your spouse goes through your phone and finds something innocent — but misunderstands it?
Or… what if keeping a little privacy is just about personal space, not secrets?

Some say total transparency builds trust.
Others say too much openness can cause unnecessary pain.

💔 Have you ever kept something from your partner — not out of deceit, but to protect their heart?
💬 Or do you believe true love hides nothing, no matter how hard it is to say?

👇 Let’s talk honestly:
Should couples tell each other EVERYTHING, or is privacy allowed in marriage?

Be real — your opinion might help someone struggling right now. ❤️

08/10/2025

Trust in Marriage

07/10/2025

06/10/2025

💔 3 Powerful Ways to Rebuild Trust After It’s Broken 💍

The Bible says, “If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do?” (Psalm 11:3)

This scripture can also be likened to marriage and relationships.
When the foundation of trust is broken, what can couples do to rebuild it?

Before we dive into the three ways to rebuild trust, let’s understand what trust really means in marriage.

🌿 The Power of Trust in Marriage

Trust is like the pillar of a building—it holds the structure firmly in place.
Without it, the entire building becomes weak and may eventually collapse.

This is the same with marriage.
Trust is the pillar that holds the union together.
While love is essential for a thriving relationship, trust is the foundation that gives love strength and stability.

No marriage can stand the test of time without trust.
In fact, love performs best where trust exists.

When there is trust, there is peace.
And peace, as the Bible says, is when “brethren dwell together in unity.”
Therefore, we can rightly say:

👉 Trust = Peace in Marriage.

💡 Now, when trust is broken, how can it be restored?

Here are three powerful, biblical, and practical steps that can help rebuild it:

1️⃣ Confession — The First Step to Restoration

The Bible says, “Confess your faults one to another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” (James 5:16)

When trust is broken, the first step toward healing is honest confession.
The guilty partner must take responsibility and open up truthfully—no half-truths, no excuses.

But note this: confession must first be made to God before your spouse.
Especially in cases like infidelity or serious betrayal, the offender needs divine help to face the healing process.

Make things right with God first.
Then approach your spouse with humility and repentance.
This opens the door for healing and renewal to begin.

2️⃣ No More Secrets — Embrace Total Openness

Once trust is broken, transparency becomes essential.
The offender must be willing to live openly, with nothing hidden—because secrecy is what broke the bond in the first place.

From daily communication to accountability, openness rebuilds credibility.
If your partner is away, show evidence of your honesty through video calls, messages, or shared activities.

Communication should now be frequent and clear.
Remember, trust doesn’t grow in the dark—it flourishes in the light of truth.

3️⃣ Patience — Allow Time for Healing

Healing takes time, not speed.
The wounded heart doesn’t mend overnight.

If you’re the one who broke trust, be patient. Don’t rush your partner to “just move on.”
Give them space to heal, and while you wait, keep showing consistency, humility, and love.

The Bible says, “Obedience is better than sacrifice.”
This means your consistent, humble actions will speak louder than your apologies.

Remember this:
An injury happens in an instant, but healing is a process.
So walk that process with grace, prayer, and understanding.

As you do, keep praying for your spouse’s healing—and for the strength to become a better version of yourself.

❤️ Final Thought

Rebuilding trust is not easy, but it is possible—with God, honesty, openness, and patience.
Broken trust doesn’t have to end a marriage; it can mark the beginning of a new and stronger foundation if both partners are willing to rebuild together.

May God restore every broken home and renew every heart that seeks healing. 🙏

03/10/2025

💔 When Secrets Steal Trust in Marriage

Once upon a time, Michael and Grace were known as the perfect couple. They laughed together, prayed together, and even inspired others with their bond. To the outside world, theirs was a marriage without cracks.

But inside their home, a secret was quietly digging a hole.
Grace discovered one day that Michael had been hiding financial troubles from her. At first, it seemed small — a loan here, a hidden bill there — but it grew into something much larger.

When she found out, it wasn’t just about the money.
It was about the trust.

She asked herself, “If he could hide this from me, what else could he hide?”
Michael tried to explain that he didn’t want to worry her, that he thought he was protecting their peace. But the damage was done. The laughter grew faint, the conversations became shallow, and the closeness they once shared was replaced with suspicion.

👉 This is the truth many couples fail to understand: secrets create walls in marriage. No matter how small, every hidden truth chips away at trust until the foundation shakes.

Grace and Michael’s story is not about money alone — it’s about every secret kept in the name of “protection.”
It could be messages you delete, struggles you hide, or mistakes you cover up.

💡 The cure? Transparency.
Trust is rebuilt, not with grand promises, but with consistent honesty, no matter how hard the truth is to share.

Remember:
✨ Marriage is not a place for secrets.
✨ What you hide today may destroy what you’ve built for years.
✨ Openness is the seed that grows into unshakable trust.
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🔥 Engagement Prompt for Your Page:
What do you think hurts more in marriage — the secret itself, or the betrayal of trust that comes with it?

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02/10/2025

Speaking the Truth in Marriage: Love in Marriage/Relationships

When we talk about love in the context of marriage or relationships, we must understand that it is not the kind of “love” the world loosely defines. Even a pr******te may say “I love you,” but that is not the love that sustains a covenant relationship.

The love we are speaking about here is not based on fleeting feelings but is spirit-led and rooted in choice.

Love is perhaps the most misunderstood word across the globe. People reduce it to emotions, attraction, or even personal gain. But in its true essence, love is the binding force that holds a relationship firm when both partners understand it and live by it.

The Bible reveals this clearly in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son…” Notice the key words: “gave” and “only.”
In the biblical context of marriage, love is not about taking or receiving, but about giving—and giving your very best, your “only,” not your second-best.

Unfortunately, many come into marriage primarily to receive: love, attention, care, provision, or validation. But that is not the love that binds couples together. True love is giving sacrificially, just as God did.

The question then is: What should we give in marriage?

Before we can give our “best,” we must first possess it. You cannot pour out what you don’t have. That’s why spiritual maturity and character development are important before marriage—and equally important within marriage.

The Bible describes love beautifully in 1 Corinthians 13:

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not rejoice in injustice but rejoices whenever truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

Looking at this, we are called to ask ourselves: Am I giving this kind of love? Or am I withholding it? Because the truth is, before you can give the best, you must become the best.

This is where many couples miss it. They step into marriage without understanding the true concept of love, and when the storms of life arise—as they always do—they give up, thinking love has failed. But the Bible is clear: “Love never fails.”

Other factors may help sustain a marriage—communication, understanding, trust, finances, intimacy—but the foundation, the unshakable core, must be love. When couples choose to love as God commands, their marriage not only survives the storms but thrives. Such marriages become testimonies, remembered long after the couple is gone.

Here is the beauty of love: it fuels purpose in marriage. It is the driving force that compels a husband and wife to bend, to sacrifice, and to support one another’s dreams. Love seeks the good of the other; it is never selfish.

Any home built outside the foundation of true love may look promising for a time, but it will eventually fade. This does not mean that feelings, attraction, or romance are unimportant—they matter. But they cannot serve as the anchor. Only love, rooted in Christ, can.

So as you reflect on your marriage or relationship, ask yourself: Am I giving my best? Am I building on the foundation of true love?

Because when you do, your marriage will not just last—it will flourish, it will inspire, and it will reflect the very heart of God.

God bless you.

01/10/2025

INFATUATION AND LOVE IN MARRIAGE: A Need for Understanding

This is an interesting and important topic that many couples entering a marriage or relationship may not fully comprehend before committing. My goal is to highlight the distinctions between infatuation and love to help both prospective couples navigate the journey toward marriage and to assist those already in marriage in understanding the essence of their bond with their spouse.

INFATUATION

Infatuation can be likened to a roaring fire fueled by various elements: intense, captivating, and exhilarating. However, like any fire, it can lose its vigor as the fuel diminishes, eventually extinguishing when the source of the flames is no longer present. This analogy applies perfectly to infatuation in relationships leading to marriage.

Infatuation is that overwhelming feeling of excitement that seems incredibly real but is often fleeting. It is marked by strong attractions, whether it's the physical appearance—such as beauty, height, or charm—or material possessions like wealth that may captivate one's interest. Men might infatuate over a woman’s physical attributes, while women might be attracted to a man's physique, status, or charm.

While infatuation itself isn't inherently negative, it should not be the foundation upon which a relationship is built. As the Bible suggests, reliance on fleeting desires can lead to spiritual decay. Infatuation can create a façade of love that is unsustainable.

When couples marry for superficial reasons or unchecked infatuation, they risk falling out of love or facing infidelity as reality sets in. Beauty and material attributes fade with time; life circumstances bring inevitable changes. When the reasons for the initial attraction diminish and there are no deeper connections to maintain the relationship, the risks of infidelity or divorce increase, which is particularly common among those who focus solely on outward appearances.

The Bible highlights a different kind of beauty: “A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” This suggests that true beauty lies beyond the surface.

If you find yourself on a path rooted in infatuation, it's not too late to reevaluate and cultivate genuine love. Remember, emotions are transient, and what lasts is built on deeper connections and mutual respect.

Stay tuned as I delve into the topic of love in marriage tomorrow, by God's grace.

God bless you!

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