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DINMA FRANK ADUBA, LAGOS, Ikeja (2025)

19/01/2025

SUNDAY SERMON

“In those days there was no king in Israel: every man did that which was right in his own eyes.”
‭‭Judges‬ ‭21‬:‭25‬ ‭KJV‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/1/jdg.21.25.KJV

This Bible verse resonated a question in me today. As a parent, how is your home? Does anyone do as they like? Do you do as you like because no one has the right to tell you what to do? What do you think and believe your family will be known for when you are not there?
Does the rules in your home govern everyone or is it for other members and not for the law maker? These are valid questions you should ask your self.

In this fast paced and social media world, it’s possible for parents to forget that they are the law makers and also the first to model the law. I know a family where Daddy insists everyone goes to church and he stays at home because he is resting . He need to rest so that he can continue hustling the next week. You dare not give any excuse why you’ll not go to church. In this scenario don’t you think that you are modeling that going to church is not for the provider.

As you hustle to feed your family and provide for them, never hesitate to model the right values and traditions to them. You are the pace setter and role model to them in every manner so do not trade it for anything.

Ensure your family has a value and keep to it as well.

Have a beautiful Sunday

15/01/2025

The statement, “Marriage is not boring; you are,” is a thought-provoking reminder that the spark in a marriage often depends on the effort and creativity of the individuals involved. It challenges the idea that marriage inherently leads to monotony and instead points to personal responsibility in keeping the relationship exciting, fulfilling, and meaningful. Here’s an elaboration with examples:

➡️ Invest in Personal Growth

Problem: Sometimes, it’s not the marriage that’s boring, but one’s personal growth has stagnated.
Solution: Pursue hobbies, learn new skills, or set personal goals. For example, if you’ve always wanted to learn salsa dancing, suggest taking classes with your spouse.
Result: A more fulfilled individual contributes more energy and creativity to the relationship.
➡️ Be Playful Together

Problem: Over time, some couples take life too seriously, losing the playful side of their relationship.
Solution: Engage in activities that let you laugh and have fun together. Try indoor games, pillow fights, or even silly karaoke sessions.
Result: Playfulness reignites the joy of being together.
➡️ Keep the Romance Alive

Problem: Couples may let the romantic gestures fade after the honeymoon phase.
Solution: Write love notes, hold hands in public, or plan a candlelit dinner at home. For instance, start a tradition of leaving each other cute messages on the bathroom mirror.
Result: Consistent acts of romance strengthen intimacy.
➡️ Appreciate Each Other

Problem: Taking each other for granted can make the relationship feel unexciting.
Solution: Express gratitude for the little things your partner does. Compliment their appearance, acknowledge their efforts, or simply say, “Thank you for being you.”
Result: Gratitude fosters warmth and reduces feelings of neglect.

Final Thought:

Marriage is a dynamic relationship that reflects the effort put into it. If it feels boring, it’s often a signal to reevaluate and reinvest in your partnership. By being intentional, creative, and open, couples can transform even the most mundane routines into opportunities for connection and joy.

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13/01/2025

BE INTENTIONAL

We, humans have different personalities even when we are from same parents. I have 5 siblings and I am telling you that we have different personalities and strengths. One of the things we have in common is the values we gained from our parents. We are all married now and also have different family values for our different families.

If this happens to children from same home and womb, what do you think about two people from different homes, values, tribes, religion etc. This is the reason to ensure you study your spouse. It is not a one size fit all. Same approach will never work for everyone. I will share a few tips and ways to do so here.

➡️ Pay attention to how your partner responds to happiness, challenges and stress. Their daily routines will reveal a lot to you.

➡️ Love language is important here. Don’t show your love to them the way you feel it should be shown. Find out what makes them feel loved. Act of service, physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time and words of affirmation are all ways to show love but find out the one that works for your spouse and apply. Do not choose for them.
➡️Marriage has a lot of compromise, patience and tolerance. Adapting to your spouse’s communication style will help a lot. Some people are subtle while others are direct in communication. Find ways to match to their preferred style of communication as this fosters clarity and mutual understanding.
➡️ It takes time to understand someone so practice patience. Also try putting yourself in their shoes at times and it helps you view things from their perspective. Empathy is highly needed here.

Building a deeper connection to build a stronger and healthier relationship requires application of these techniques and more.

For your one on one session, send a DM or send a mail to divinejessyc@yahoo.com

12/01/2025

SUNDAY SERMON

We all come across people daily. We all have people come across us daily. What impact and influence have you done with the spirit of God in you. You have to get to that point where you’ll not say who you are in Christ before the people around you know. They see you, have transaction or have a discussion with you and they can tell who you are. This is called Influence.

How Many people are you going to influence and what influence are you offering. There are fruits of expectation as we go on.

“Test yourselves to make sure you are solid in the faith. Don’t drift along taking everything for granted. Give yourselves regular checkups. You need firsthand evidence, not mere hearsay, that Jesus Christ is in you. Test it out. If you fail the test, do something about it. I hope the test won’t show that we have failed. But if it comes to that, we’d rather the test showed our failure than yours. We’re rooting for the truth to win out in you. We couldn’t possibly do otherwise. We don’t just put up with our limitations; we celebrate them, and then go on to celebrate every strength, every triumph of the truth in you. We pray hard that it will all come together in your lives.”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬-‭9‬ ‭MSG‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/97/2co.13.5-9.MSG

This is the time to make the difference if you’re not doing enough. If you fail the test, improve and take the test again. Be sincere in this test as just between you and God. The focus is not to be nice and do eye service but on genuine positive influence. This requires you to make everyday count. Influence any human that passes through you. This needs consistency.
There are fruits of expectation as we go on in life

There is a reward for this and it’s perfect and complete.

Ensure you can beat your chest and declare the below.

“I have fought the good (worthy, honorable, and noble) fight, I have finished the race, I have kept (firmly held) the faith.”
‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭4‬:‭7‬ ‭AMPC‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/8/2ti.4.7.AMPC

Happy Sunday

10/01/2025

* Pride and Ego will not rule in my home.
* My marriage will succeed.
* I will only focus on the great things about my spouse.

Feel free to add yours.

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❤️

09/01/2025

PETTINESS IN MARRIAGE

Pettiness is at times cute in marriage but should not be turned into manipulation. Also be very much aware when your spouse is using it to get your attention.

On the other hand, pay attention to the spouse God has put in your life. Never allow disagreements and pressure in the fast pacing world deter you from seeing the positive side of your spouse. Don’t just be grateful in your heart, show appreciation to them. Make every moment a memoir to keep. Show this appreciation with kind words, supportive actions, quality time spent together and physical touch itself.

I implore you to open your mouth and express gratitude to your spouse. Never take them for granted. Focus on the good deeds and the good things about him/her instead of the ones you find annoying and frustrating. Remember you are not perfect as well.

For your one on one session, send a DM or send a mail to divinejessyc@yahoo.com

08/01/2025

VULNERABILITY IN MARRIAGE

I received a mail from someone asking that I send him a number to call as he needed to speak with me urgently. I sent a link for him to complete our form as that is the procedure.

We finally had our first conversation over the phone before we agreed for a one on session. Their story is the story of most people out here and I’ll share but make it short.

Kunle and Ada have been married for over 10 years. This couple hardly have misunderstanding but it was obvious they are fighting something that cannot be seen by anyone or even themselves.

Kunle is a tech guy and Ada is a medical doctor. These two had 7 years of courtship. They were university sweethearts. This shows they have been together as friends and lovers for so long.

The problem I diagnosed was there was no open and sincere communication. Ada is someone who has been taught and modeled to not be vulnerable. She was so defensive and the marriage had the huge gap. Kunle on the other hand didn’t want to be seen as a weakling so made his job his safe place.

I want to encourage every one here to always examine himself/herself as to know they are intentional about creating a safe place that encourages vulnerability by
➡️ Making your home a judgement free zone. Stop the criticism and ridicule so that your spouse will freely communicate his/her thoughts, fears and desires.
➡️ Learn to listen without interruption. Also listen so as to offer solution. Show empathy and validate their feelings of your spouse as this makes him/ her feel heard and understood.

There’s a lot more so for your one on one session, send a DM or send a mail to divinejessyc@yahoo.com

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