Relationship digest

01/06/2025

01/06/2025

Real men remain loyal—not because they’re forced to, but because they want to. A real man chooses his woman every single day, even when temptation knocks and the world tries to pull him in a hundred directions. His heart is already spoken for. He doesn’t seek attention from others because he’s too busy pouring into the one he loves—making her feel seen, desired, and deeply appreciated.

He studies her love language, listens to her silence, and shows up even when words fall short. Faithfulness isn’t just about staying physically loyal—it’s about emotional presence, mental commitment, and making her feel like the only woman in the world. It’s candlelit dinners after long days, soft kisses between serious talks, and holding hands through life’s storms. True love is growing, glowing, and glowing up together. That kind of connection? That’s sexy. That’s rare. That’s real.

31/05/2025

I almost walked out of my marriage. I was tired, broken, overwhelmed, and honestly ready to quit. People saw the smiles, the matching outfits, and the Instagram jokes, but they didn’t see the late night arguments, the silence, or the tears I cried when no one was watching.

There was a time I felt so distant from the man I once called my best friend. The love felt lost, and I thought it was the end. But guess what? We fought for our love, we prayed together, we went for therapy, we opened up about our pains, our traumas, and we chose to heal, not alone, but together. It wasn’t easy. It wasn’t a fairytale. But we made it. Today, we’re better. We’re stronger, we’re sweeter. We even renewed our vows, not because we had to, but because we wanted to start again, fresh, committed, and intentional.

True love isn’t always perfect. It doesn’t always come easy. But when both hearts are willing to fight for it, it becomes beautiful again. I’m glad we stayed. I’m glad we chose each other again. Because in the end, true love is always worth fighting for.

- Real Warri Pikin

16/05/2025

"I got married in 2020. Was I happy? Yes, of course, very happy. We all know how single mothers are viewed in society. I must confess that I was very scared & worried that I might not find someone who would accept me & my baby.

When my baby's father abandoned me at two months pregnant, I was an orphan but living with my aunt's direct younger sister to my mother. Life was hard, but one thing was certain: abortion was a no-no. I made up my mind to keep my baby, even if it meant I had to beg for food. Luckily enough, my aunt was very supportive, both emotionally & financially, from her small salary as a nursery school teacher. She kept the promise she made to my mom on her dying bed, six hours after she gave birth to me, promising to raise me as her own, & she has always done just that.

Well, I gave birth & resumed my education when my child was 2 as advised by my aunt Fast-forward i became a registered nurse with a very good & satisfying salary, & I love my job very much. When I met my husband, it was love at first sight. We dated for about 4 months, & he proposed, even though my aunt tried to kick against it, according to her, it was too soon, but love & excitement wouldn't allow me to listen. My baby was 6 yrs old

Just 6 months after our wedding, my job suddenly became a problem. My husband was on my neck every single day, asking me to quit my job. At first, I thought he was joking or just worried about me being exhausted from work & taking care of our home & my child. But his persistence grew stronger each day. "I'm your husband now; I should be providing for you," he'd say. "I & our future kids need you at home full-time," he'd claim.

My aunt, who had initially opposed our marriage due to its swift pace, warned me & would often say, "He wants to control you." In fact, I felt trapped between loving my job, loving my husband, & loving my family's concerns. One day, he gave me an ultimatum: "Choose: your career or our marriage." My heart raced, but I never said a word; I just kept going to my job as if nothing was wrong. But suddenly, he changed & started keeping late nights & sleeping out; I just got frustrated. This went on for like 3 months until I finally gave in after he started cheating on me with different girls. The frustration was too much to bear.

One thing for sure was that, aside from the fear that I might not find another man who would love me & accept my daughter as his in the future, I also loved my husband with everything in me. So, as expected, I quit my job just to keep my husband & marriage. But quitting my job was the worst decision I ever made. My husband's attitude became even worse - he barely came home, & when he did, he would yell at me for being idle. He started starving me of food & affection, leaving me weak & hopeless. Most times, he slept out for days, leaving nothing behind & also not minding how my child & I were coping.

I was a shadow of my former self, a registered nurse turned prisoner in her own home. My daughter was my only comfort, but even she was kept away from me. My aunt took her to stay with her. The only time that i felt comfort was when i usually sneak out to see my child, my husband has stoped me from going out without his permission nor go to my aunt's place. Those moments i sneaked out to see my daughter were my only joy. However, I got to my limits; I was done & tired. I finally found the strength to escape the very toxic marriage. I filed for divorce & started rebuilding my life.

Months later, I met David - my soulmate, my best friend, my everything. He loved me for who I was, & all. He admired my career as a nurse & encouraged me to go back to work. We got married, had 2 more beautiful kids, & relocated to Canada for better opportunities. Today, I look at my happy family & thank God for delivering me from darkness into love & light. I also appreciate my aunt for being a true family & a mother. I'm greatful. Nancy my first child is with my aunt back home, she wouldn't allow me take her, those two are so fond of each other.. but she'll be joining us by next yr.

Well, To all the ladies out there, my story teaches one lesson: never quit your job for a man. If he truly loves you, he'll love all of you, career & children included, & want you to be happy & fulfilled"
Culled from Realmz

13/05/2025

Why is it wise to be keep our plans to ourselves?

Success is a gradual process, and circumstances can change even before we reach our goals.

While sharing our plans and telling everyone what we are working towards can be exciting, keeping some things to ourselves can often be more beneficial. When we prematurely announce our plans or success, we tend to create extra pressure on ourselves. This shifts our focus from our goals to the expectations of those we’ve told. If plans change or delays occur, we may worry about embarrassment and awkwardness.

Concentrate on your goals and quietly follow your plan, involving only those who are necessary to support you. You don't need to announce your plans, no matter how big or achievable they may seem. When you do achieve success, everyone will know about it anyway.

Dr. Bhawna Gautam

11/05/2025

Celebrating my 9th year on Facebook. Thank you for your continuing support. I could never have made it without you. 🙏🤗🎉