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Health Planet - Psychotherapy, Owerri, Imo (2026)

23/12/2025

I just read a post asking single mothers what they have to say to men.

There were over 5,000 comments from single mothers, sharing their different stories and pains.

I really feel for them. After reading through the comments, I was left with so many questions.

Why are they going through this?
Is it their fault?
Where is the father of the child?

Because truly, it is not a woman’s fault to fall in love or to have s*x with the man she loves. Why, then, would he leave her to suffer the consequences alone?

The world is already wicked with the stigmatization of single motherhood. Many men refuse to marry a woman simply because she is a single mother.

Imagine a mother hiding her child just because she wants to get married.

Why are women going through this?

And you, the father, you just move on—to another woman—to find love and start a new, beautiful family.

Who then cares for your baby mama? What happens to her?

Please, let’s be responsible fathers and men. I know most of you won’t marry a single mother, and that pain alone is already enough for them. Women do not deserve this.

If you’re a single mother, jisieike. God will be your strength. And if you need someone to talk to, please DM.

15/12/2025

Attachment styles shape how we love, connect, and navigate closeness, often without us even realising it. These patterns quietly influence the partners we choose, the way we communicate, and even how safe we feel in relationships.

Anxious attachment may pull you into overthinking and seeking constant reassurance, while avoidant attachment might push you towards distance, independence, and emotional walls.

And if you are anxiously avoidant, you might find yourself craving closeness one moment and needing space the next, leaving you confused about your own needs. These styles are not personality flaws, they are emotional blueprints formed through early experiences and repeated patterns.

Attachment styles are not fixed or permanent. With awareness, reflection, and healing, you can gradually rewrite the script your past handed you.

You can learn to communicate in healthier ways, build safer connections, and choose relationships that nurture instead of trigger your insecurities.

Most importantly, you can develop a secure attachment with yourself, one built on self trust, compassion, and emotional safety. Because attachment is not only about who you bond with; it’s about how you show up for your own heart, day after day.

10/12/2025

People often assume addiction begins with a “bad decision,” but when you listen to someone’s story, you realise it’s never that simple. Addiction rarely grows out of weakness, it grows out of wounds. It begins in the quiet places where pain was never expressed, where emotions were dismissed, or where someone simply needed relief from a life that felt too heavy to carry alone.

For many, addiction starts as coping. It might trace back to childhood homes where love had conditions or where chaos made it impossible to feel safe. It may begin in adolescence, during years filled with loneliness, pressure, or a desperate desire to belong. For others, it emerges later in life, after a loss, a heartbreak, unrelenting stress, or a moment when everything felt unbearable and they needed just one thing to soften the edges.

The roots of addiction are often tied to unmet emotional needs, trauma, and the deep human longing for connection. When you have never felt soothed or supported, numbing becomes a survival tool. When painful memories linger unresolved, the mind looks for ways to quiet them. And when life becomes overwhelming, the brain naturally seeks shortcuts to relief. Nobody wakes up and chooses addiction, it slips in quietly, disguised as comfort, until comfort becomes a cage.

Addiction is not a story about broken people. It’s a story about people who were hurting, coping, surviving, and doing the best they could with what they had. Healing doesn’t come from shame or judgment; it grows from compassion, especially self-compassion. Healing begins when we stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What happened to me, and what do I need now?”

If you are on the path to recovery, or supporting someone who is, remember this: there is nothing weak about wanting to feel better. The roots of addiction may run deep, but so does the human capacity to rise, repair, and rebuild. You are more than your past, more than your pain, and more than your addiction. You are a human being with a story, and every story has the power to change.

If you are looking for therapy and want to work with me, then reach out to me at Healthplanetpsychotherapy.com

06/12/2025

importance of mental health

1. It improves your overall well-being

Good mental health helps you feel balanced, calm, and satisfied. It influences how you think, feel, and act every day.

2. It strengthens your relationships

When your mind is healthy, you communicate better, manage conflicts well, and build stronger connections with family, friends, and partners.

3. It boosts productivity and performance

Whether at work, school, or business, a healthy mind improves focus, creativity, decision-making, and motivation.

4. It helps you cope with stress and challenges

Strong mental health gives you resilience. You can handle tough moments, bounce back from setbacks, and stay hopeful.

5. It protects your physical health

Mental health affects sleep, appetite, energy, immunity, and even long-term diseases. When your mind is well, your body benefits too.

03/12/2025

We talk a lot about women’s pain…

But who’s checking on the boys?

Yes, many women have been hurt by men.
And many boys have been hurt by women.
So who sees the little boys carrying wounds they’re too scared to name?

We live in a culture where men are told to
“man up,” stay calm, stay quiet.
So boys learn early: hold it in.
Act fine. Don’t talk.

That’s why we almost never hear their stories.

Here’s the truth.

Pain doesn’t pick sides.

The problem isn’t men vs women.
It’s broken people. Broken homes.
Broken hearts far from the design God intended.

Pain is human.
And silence is killing both sides.

If we tell girls to speak up but tell boys to toughen up, we’re not creating equality.
We’re creating silence.

Humanity needs a reset → male and female.
A return to truth. To healing. To God.
All of us.

We heal together or we don’t heal at all.

Agree?
♻️Share if you do.

PS. Do boys deserve the same safe space to speak up as girls? Yes or no?

01/12/2025

4 Main things to know about mental health

1. Mental health is just as important as physical health

Mental health affects how you think, feel, and act every day. It influences your relationships, your ability to handle stress, your performance at work or school, and even your physical health. Just like you take care of your body, your mind needs regular care too—rest, connection, support, and healthy habits.

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2. Anyone can struggle with mental health at any time

Mental health challenges don’t choose age, gender, status, or personality. Even strong, successful, or happy-looking people can struggle silently. Stress, trauma, life changes, pressures, and even genetics can affect mental well-being. There is no weakness in struggling—only humanity.

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3. Talking about how you feel is a strength, not a weakness

Opening up helps reduce isolation, clears your mind, and lets others understand or support you. Sharing your struggles doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re brave enough to face what’s inside. When people talk freely about mental health, stigma drops, understanding grows, and healing becomes easier.

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4. Seeking help is normal—and it works

Therapy, counseling, support groups, and healthy lifestyle changes can make a huge difference. You don’t need to be in a crisis to talk to someone. Getting help early is like going to a doctor before an illness becomes serious. Support = strength, not failure.

28/11/2025

There’s a reason many people hesitate to start counselling,
not because they don’t need help...

But because of the myths surrounding it.

We hear these misconceptions every day,
And they often delay support for months.

So here are some of the most common myths we see and the facts that actually matter:

𝐌𝐲𝐭𝐡 𝟏: Counselling is just talking about my childhood.

𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭:
Counselling focuses on your current stress, emotions, patterns, and goals.

Exploring the past is only done when it helps you understand what’s happening today.

𝐌𝐲𝐭𝐡 𝟐: Therapists will tell me what to do.

𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭:
Counselling is not advice-giving.

It helps you understand your thoughts, behaviours, and emotions, so you make better decisions for your own life.

𝐌𝐲𝐭𝐡 𝟑: If my issue isn’t ‘serious,’ I shouldn’t take therapy.

𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭:
Most people come to therapy for everyday struggles, stress, overthinking, relationship issues, burnout, and emotional overload.

You don’t need a crisis to benefit from support.

𝐌𝐲𝐭𝐡 𝟒: Therapy means something is wrong with me.

𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭:
Therapy simply means you want to understand yourself better.

It’s emotional maintenance just like physical health check-ups.

𝐌𝐲𝐭𝐡 𝟓: Talking won’t change anything.

𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭:
Therapy isn’t “just talking.”

It’s structured work that helps regulate your emotions, break patterns, improve coping, and create long-term changes in how you respond to life.

A good therapist doesn’t force you into topics you’re uncomfortable with.

They tailor the process to your pace, your personality, and your goals.

If these myths have ever made you second-guess reaching out,

Would you like to speak with our team and understand what counselling would look like for you?

27/11/2025

Many ladies rush into marriage without checking the most important thing, the man’s kindness. Beauty fades, money can shake, but a man’s heart will show every day. It’s better to remain single and peaceful than to become a frustrated wife living in silent pain. Marriage is not a rescue plan; it is a commitment that requires wisdom, patience, and a partner who truly cares.

Men too must understand that love is more than romance. If you say you love a woman, help her grow. Teach her what you know, support her dreams, and encourage her to stand strong on her own feet. A woman you invest in becomes a partner, not a burden.

True love is building each other, not draining each other. When both hearts are growing, the relationship becomes a blessing. Choose wisely, build intentionally, and make sure kindness leads the way.

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26/11/2025

PTSD isn’t “just stress.” It’s your mind replaying a moment your body already survived. Trauma doesn’t always leave when the event ends, sometimes it lingers in the background, showing up through familiar sounds, smells, or moments that suddenly make your body feel like it’s back in danger. Many people don’t realise that PTSD is less about the past event and more about how the nervous system keeps responding as if the threat is still happening right now.

Take Sara, for example. She was in a car accident two years ago. Physically she recovered, went back to work, and appeared “fine.” But inside, her world had changed. Whenever she heard the screech of tyres, even far away, her chest tightened. She avoided driving altogether. At night, her sleep was interrupted by nightmares, and during the day she sometimes zoned out mid-conversation because her brain slipped back into that frightening moment without warning. She once said, “It’s strange… nothing bad is happening now, but my body doesn’t believe me.” That’s PTSD, when a past moment hijacks your present experience.

Managing PTSD starts with understanding what’s happening inside you. Naming it helps reduce shame, because these reactions aren’t signs of weakness, they are survival mechanisms stuck on replay. Grounding techniques can bring you back to the present: noticing your surroundings, touching something cold, or focusing on your breath can help your mind return to now instead of then. Taking small steps to face avoided situations can also gently retrain your nervous system. For someone like Sara, that meant first sitting in a parked car, then short drives with a trusted friend before she felt ready to drive on her own again.

Body based practices also play an important role. Trauma lives in the nervous system, so soothing the body through deep breathing, stretching, shaking out tension, or relaxation exercises can help regulate that persistent fight or flight response. And, of course, support matters. Trauma focused therapy, EMDR, or simply having someone safe to talk to can make the healing journey easier. PTSD recovery isn’t about forgetting what happened, it’s about reminding your body that you’re safe ag

24/11/2025

Understanding Trauma Bonding in Relationships — and Why People Stay

In my work, I often meet individuals who struggle with leaving harmful relationships, even when the patterns are clear to those on the outside.
This experience is not a sign of weakness — it’s a psychological response called trauma bonding.

What is Trauma Bonding?
It’s a strong emotional attachment that forms through a repeated cycle of:

Affection or calm

Emotional or physical harm

Promises, apologies, and temporary change

The inconsistency creates intermittent reinforcement, conditioning the brain to hold onto hope and relief instead of reality.

How It Works:
🔹 The brain bonds to the unpredictable “highs” after emotional pain
🔹 Self-worth gradually erodes
🔹 Isolation and emotional dependence grow
🔹 Leaving becomes extremely difficult despite the harm

Key Signs of Trauma Bonding:

Excusing or rationalising abusive behaviour

Loyalty to someone who repeatedly hurts them

Feeling responsible for the other person’s moods

Struggling to walk away

Emotional confusion and self-blame

What Can Help:
✔ Education on the trauma cycle
✔ Supportive networks
✔ Safe boundaries
✔ Professional guidance or counseling
✔ Rebuilding identity and self-worth

A gentle takeaway:
A trauma bond doesn’t mean someone is weak.
It means they were emotionally conditioned to survive.
Healing begins with awareness, safety, and compassionate support.

Let’s continue creating safe spaces for conversations around trauma, healing, and mental well-being.

22/11/2025

REBUILDING IDENTITY AFTER LOSS

Loss changes you not just your circumstances but your sense of self.
When something or someone you loved is gone, it’s not only their absence you grieve, it’s the version of you that existed when they were still here.

You find yourself asking quietly, “Who am I now?”
Without them. Without that dream. Without that role that once defined me.

This question is not a sign of weakness, it’s the beginning of rebirth.

Grief doesn’t erase who you are; it reveals who you’re becoming.
It asks you to strip away the titles, roles and routines that once defined you and meet yourself again — raw, real and ready to rebuild.

Rebuilding after loss isn’t about “moving on.”
It’s about learning to move with your grief, until it softens into wisdom.

It’s about remembering:
✓ You are more than what you lost.
✓ Your worth doesn’t end with what ended.
✓ You can honor what was and still create what’s next.
✓ You are allowed to rediscover joy without guilt.

Healing is not forgetting. It’s integration.
It’s allowing both love and loss to coexist to let pain carve deeper compassion and to let endings give birth to new beginnings.

You rebuild by feeling deeply, by being curious about who you are becoming and by trusting that even in your brokenness, you are still whole.

One day, you’ll look back and realize you didn’t just survive. You transformed.

21/11/2025

HOW CONSCIOUS PARENTS BUILD CONFIDENT CHILDREN

The words you speak to your child are seeds, each one planting a belief about who they are and what they can become.

Every “I believe in you,” “You’re learning beautifully,” and “I’m proud of your effort” becomes the voice that guides them through life’s challenges with confidence and self-trust.

Your language becomes their inner dialogue.
Your tone becomes their emotional home.
Your words become the mirror through which they see themselves.

When parents speak with affirmation, curiosity and compassion, children grow up believing they are capable, lovable, and enough just as they are.

Let’s build the kind of inner voices our children will thank us for:

Instead of “Don’t cry,” say → “It’s okay to feel sad — I’m here with you.”
Instead of “You should know better,” say → “You’re learning and I’m proud of your progress.”
Instead of “You’re so dramatic,” say → “Your feelings matter — let’s talk about them.”
Instead of “Stop being shy,” say → “You can take your time — I know you’ll join when you’re ready.”

When children grow up hearing kind, supportive and empowering language, they don’t just survive — they thrive.

The next generation doesn’t need perfection, it needs parents who speak life, presence and love into their children daily.

Speak words that build.
Model the voice you want your child to carry for a lifetime.

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