Buzz-Aid Therapy (2025)

14/07/2025

Before you take any great step or make any decision, you must deromanticise it.

What does it mean to deromanticise? It means to strip away the idealised notions, the fantasies, and the unrealistic expectations. It means to look at things as they truly are, without the rose-tinted glasses.

When you deromanticise a decision or a step, you'll see the challenges, the hard work, and the potential setbacks. You'll understand that nothing is solely sunshine and rainbows. This clarity will help you make more informed decisions and prepare you for the journey ahead.

Deromanticising doesn't mean losing the excitement or passion for your goals. Instead, it means being realistic, practical, and strategic. It means being prepared for the ups and downs and having a plan for when things get tough.

So, as you embark on new ventures, make big decisions, or take bold steps, remember to deromanticise them. Look at the reality, assess the challenges, and plan accordingly. You'll be more grounded, more focused, and more likely to achieve your goals.

Let's approach this new week with clarity, practicality, and determination. Let's deromanticise our goals and make progress with our eyes wide open.

You know I love you 😚

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

07/07/2025

He who walks alone can’t boast of LOVE.
Those who team up to war know the power of unity. 🤝
From a good home, a greater government is initiated. 👩‍❤️‍👨
From one to two, till a nation is established. 🛕

“Would You marry you” without a Life and Love? 💔
“Let’s rewrite our story” in clay and gold. 💎
Together, we can dig out the foundations of failure and stagnation.
We can erect a new structure of support and strength.

Till we attain the UNITY of Faith and knowledge,
Till we become vessels and agents of divine love.
Wisdom will whisper in the shadows and shout from the rooftops. 🗣️
LOVE and Passion can rewrite the story that “wealth and tongues” have distorted. 💝

Join the movement. Save the date anf plan to attend Would You Marry You Conference 2.0 and you will be glad you did

06/07/2025

Six Steps to Solve Relationship Problems

Ever feel stuck in a rut with your partner? Don't worry, every relationship goes through ups and downs! The good news is that most relationship problems aren't deal-breakers, but rather opportunities for growth and deeper connection.

Here are 6 steps to help you solve relationship problems and strengthen your bond:

1️⃣ Create a safe space for discussion where you and your partner feel heard and understood. Choose a good time and place to talk, and establish ground rules to keep the conversation constructive.

2️⃣ Practise active listening by focusing on what your partner is saying, rather than just waiting for your turn to talk. Reflect back what you've heard to show you're really listening.

3️⃣ Identify underlying needs and desires that may be driving the conflict. Is it about feeling valued, respected, or appreciated? Once you understand the underlying issues, you can start to find solutions.

4️⃣ Generate solutions together by brainstorming ideas and finding common ground. Look for win-win solutions that meet your needs.

5️⃣ Address patterns, not just problems. Identify any negative patterns or cycles that may be contributing to the conflict, and work together with your partner to break them.

6️⃣ Follow through and evaluate your progress. Schedule regular check-ins to see how things are going, and make adjustments as needed.

Remember, relationships take work, but with the right approach, you can overcome challenges and deepen your connection. Know your worth and prioritise your wellbeing!

You know I love you 😙

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

01/07/2025

The wait is almost over! Welcome to the second half of 2025! 𝙒𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙈𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙮 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘾𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 2.0 is coming soon, and we're excited to share this empowering experience with you!

𝙁𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤'𝙫𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙗𝙧𝙤𝙠𝙚𝙣, 𝙗𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙙, 𝙤𝙧 𝙗𝙧𝙪𝙞𝙨𝙚𝙙
For those who've lost their way, found themselves single, or struggling to rise again... This conference is for YOU!

𝙍𝙚𝙬𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙮 is more than just a theme - it's a declaration of hope, resilience, and transformation. Join us as we gather to:

✨ Heal from past wounds

✨ Discover new beginnings

✨ Rewrite your narrative

✨ Rise into your best self

𝗪𝗵𝗼 S𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 A𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗱?

👉🏻 Singles and couples seeking love, self-discovery or relationship growth

👉🏻 Young adults who are navigating dating, relationships and marriage

👉🏻 Single parents navigating solo journeys

👉🏻 Divorcees and widows/widowers who have experienced loss or separation

👉🏻 Brokenhearted individuals finding their way again

👉🏻 Anyone facing challenges and rising above

Date: Saturday, 1st November, 2025
Time: 9am
Venus: Lagos, Nigeria

𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗻 𝘂𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲!

𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑡𝑢𝑛𝑒𝑑 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑢𝑝𝑑𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑠, 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑘𝑒𝑟 𝑟𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒.

01/07/2025

Happy New Month 🎉🎊🎉

Wishing you a successful, blissful and prosperous Second Half of 2025

29/06/2025

It's Okay to Be Vulnerable as a Man

Traditional masculinity often emphasises strength, stoicism, and toughness. But what about emotions, feelings, and vulnerability?

It's time to redefine what it means to be a man. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's courage, strength, and authenticity.

By embracing your emotions and being open as a man, you:

👉🏻 Build deeper connections

👉🏻 Foster meaningful relationships

👉🏻 Prioritise your mental health

It's high time you break free from societal expectations and be your true self.

Happy Men's Mental Health Month🎊🎉🎊!

Your Sister,
Busola Abiodun Adeagbo

28/06/2025

Every badge of honour you wear only matters because you are still alive; rest so you don't rest untimely.

Anyone who tells you they can't do without you is only teasing you, only God is indispensable.

Remember, you are not Elshaddai, else ...

You know I love you 😙

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

26/06/2025

The Laughter That Almost Cost Me a Ride

Me: Please open the boot let's put in the food and water

Bolt Driver: You will have to give me an extra 3k for all these load o, especially these packs of water.

Me: How nah? Lemme add 2k please

Him: 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Me: (Felt like he was mocking me) Your laughter is making me uncomfortable

Him: How? Am I supposed to frown? (Threatened to leave)

Caterer: Busola, what happened?

Me: He is not going again. Leave him

Caterer: Oga, no vex! Busola is under pressure, biko carry am

Me: 🌚

Driver: (Started packing the items into his boot)

Caterer to Me: Busola, smile, you hear! At least you never too late

Me: 🥺

I later apologised to the driver on our way and we gisted all through the journey. He also explained that he laughed cause he was trying to be friendly with me. I on the other hand was seriously under pressure and took his friendliness for mockery

Lessons learned:

1. Never assume intentions; instead, clarify and confirm.

2. Communicate openly to avoid misunderstandings.

3. Be mindful of different perspectives and reactions.

4. Apologise and clear the air when you've misinterpreted someone.

5. Manage stress and pressure to avoid misreading situations.

6. Don't take things personally; sometimes laughter or reactions aren't about you.

7. Give people the benefit of the doubt; they might be trying to be friendly or helpful.

What other lesson did you learn?

You know I love you 🥰

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

17/06/2025

How to move on from a toxic relationship

A friend of mine once nursed suicidal thoughts for weeks due to a painful heaetbreak.

She was shattered and broken and I was worried for her due to my awareness of her love for the guy. She truly gave her all to the relationship and had flaunted him in her bid to reject other potential suitors. She practically worshipped the ground he walked on but uncle still didn't consider her his spec because he is attracted to slim women but my friend though slim at the time had the tendency to grow fatter in the future.

The breakup wasn't the bone of contention for me but his reason for leaving her. Apparently, she had been going through and endured body shaming in the relationship all the while we thought they were having a swell time.

She eventually picked up the pieces of her life after months of crying over the spilt milk but she never really forgot how she would have been 'Mrs. Him' if he hadn't jilted her while I also never forgot to remind her she would have made the greatest mistake of her life if they had ended up together.

If you are in a similar situation, below are strategies to help you move on from a toxic relationship

1. Acknowledge the trauma: Recognise the emotional pain and validate your feelings.

2. Seek support: Talk to trusted friends like my friend did, family, or a therapist.

3. Practice self-care: Focus on your physical and emotional well-being.

4. Set boundaries: Establish healthy limits in your future relationships.

5. Forgive yourself: Let go of guilt or shame.

6. Rediscover yourself: Rebuild your identity and interests.

7. Create new routines: Identify and break patterns tied to the toxic relationship.

If you are currently trying to move on from a toxic relationship, please bear in mind that healing takes time, and patience is essential; support systems are crucial for recovery and that self-love and self-care are vital.

NOTE:

You must:

1. Avoid rebound relationships.

2. Reflect on red flags in past relationships.

3. Cultivate self-awareness and emotional intelligence.

By following these steps, you can move forward and build healthier relationships.

You know I love you ❤️

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

13/06/2025

My Take on the Tyler Perry's "Straw"

Someone asked what my take was on the Tyler Perry's Straw yesterday and my response was that God has been good. Yeah, I said so because he wanted my response to be based on my experineces as a single mom but the truth is that I couldn't relate much with Janiyah's experiences because indeed God has been good to me.

Janiyah had to care for her sick daughter all alone, I have never experienced that to the glory of God cause I have always been surrounded by supportive people who treat my daughters like theirs (family). In fact, my daughters do not live with me at the moment, we only get to talk twice a day and see fortnightly.

Janiyah also encountered financial struggles , with mounting medical bills. I have never had to deal with that either, so yet again, God has been good.

Also, Janiyah encountered job loss and eviction threats which to the glory of God, I have never experienced, yet again, God has been good.

Regardless of the fact that I hadn't encountered the major struggles that pushed Janiyah into desperation to have snapped the way she did, one thing we have in common is the fact that we are both single moms and the thought of being one in Nigeria is even stressful not to talk of the reality of it.

The movie "Straw" emphasizes the power of empathy, understanding, kindness and compassion; and these are attributes I believe we all need to be more intentional about considering how often we judge people by their situation.

A lot of single moms are going through similar if not worse situations than Janiyah, majorly from the criticisms they get from the people around them and even on the social media space.

So we all just need to be more intentional about how we look, act and speak around the vulnerable people in our community because COMPASSION IS THE BRIDGE BETWEEN SYMPATHY AND ACTION.

You know I love you 💝

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

08/06/2025

So, I recently decided to stop tracking my students online for my own peace of mind. This is because three out of ten status updates gives me heartache.

Or what should I think of a well-behaved child in school who posts sexualized content on her status? Or the ones who barely post reasonable content but instead share things that can fuel the hunger for drugs and prostitution?

My anger most of the time stems from how their parents buy them expensive gadgets yet have no time to monitor what they do with them.

Parents now fund their children's maladaptive behaviours in the name of "I don't want my children to suffer what I suffered." In actual fact, the kids now suffer what our generation didn't really suffer from.

They don't want to work but want the benefits of hard work.

It's up to us as parents to put our children right, and if we don't do it, no one will. There's honestly no point blaming society or social media for our own failures; we just need to sit up and do what we need to do to help our children turn out well.

If not, prepare your mind to face the consequences of your nonchalance towards parenting. The child you fail to raise in the way of the Lord today will automatically be your doom tomorrow.

Be wise.

You know I love you 💕

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

06/06/2025

Rewrite Your Story

Life is full of chapters, and it's never too late to start writing a new one. Every day brings a chance to rewrite your story, to redefine yourself, and to pursue your dreams.

What chapter are you writing today?

Are you turning the page on a new adventure?

Are you rewriting a past mistake?

Are you authoring a fresh start?

You have the power to change your narrative, pursue your passions, and create the life you envision.

So, take a deep breath, pick up your pen, and start writing your next chapter. The best of you is yet to come!

You know I love you 💕

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

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