Buzz-Aid Therapy, Isolo, Isolo (2025)

06/09/2025

Why You Keep Attracting the Same Kind of People

You meet someone new. At first, everything feels fresh and different. But before long, the story looks all too familiar, same arguments, same disappointments, same emotional rollercoaster. Different face, same cycle.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Many of us wonder why we keep ending up in the same kinds of relationships, attracting the same kind of people no matter how much we promise ourselves, “This time will be different.”

The truth is, it isn’t just about “them”, it’s about the patterns, beliefs, and wounds we carry within us.

Maybe they look different, talk differently, or even have different jobs, but at the core, the pattern feels strangely familiar.

This isn’t a coincidence. It’s often a reflection of:

✨ Unhealed wounds: Unresolved pain has a way of drawing us back into cycles that feel “comfortable,” even when they’re harmful.

✨ Belief systems: If you subconsciously believe “love equals struggle” or “I’m not worthy of more,” you’ll keep finding people who reinforce that script.

✨ Patterns you’ve normalised: What you grew up around or what you’ve tolerated before begins to feel like the only option.

The truth is that you don’t attract what you want, you attract who you are, and what you believe about yourself.

And the good news is that:

🔑 When you become aware of these patterns, you can break free.
🔑 When you heal, you stop chasing familiar pain and start attracting healthy love.
🔑 When you rewrite your story, you open the door to relationships that honour your worth.

That’s exactly why we are gathering at the:

🌟 Would You Marry You Conference 2.0

📅 Saturday, 1st November, 2025
📍 RCCG Divine Glory Parish, Okota, Lagos
🎉 Theme: "Rewrite Your Story"

And guess what? On this same day, we will be officially launching my new book: Rewrite Your Story: From Painful Patterns to Healthy & Thriving Relationships.

It’s time to stop asking “Why me?” and start declaring “No more!”

👉 Register today and take your seat at the table of transformation. https://tinyurl.com/WYMYC2
👉 Share this with a friend; you never know whose life you might change.

Together, we will break cycles and rewrite stories.

You know I love you❤

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Convener, Would You Marry You Conference

04/09/2025

How to Be Selfless Without Losing Yourself

One of the biggest lessons life teaches us is that selflessness without self-prioritisation leads to burnout. When you always give and never refill, you eventually run dry.

Think about it like this: a well that never gets refilled will eventually stop giving water. People may still come with their buckets, but nothing will flow.

The same applies in relationships, work, and life.

✍🏻 A parent who never rests eventually becomes irritable with the same children they love.

✍🏻 A spouse who keeps sacrificing without communicating may start resenting their partner.

✍🏻 A leader who always gives but never replenishes ends up empty and ineffective.

The goal should be healthy selflessness which has to do with giving in a way that doesn’t deplete, but flows from balance.

Practical Questions to Ask Yourself Before Saying “Yes” to Others:

👉🏻 Do I have the energy to do this without harming myself?

👉🏻 Am I doing this because I want to, or because I feel pressured?

👉🏻 What would I be neglecting if I say yes to this?

👉🏻 Will this leave me resentful or fulfilled?

When your yes comes from a place of alignment, not guilt, your giving becomes sustainable.

Loving yourself is the foundation for loving others well.
When you prioritise yourself, you don’t become selfish, you become stronger, healthier, and more capable of showing up for those who need you.

So the next time you’re tempted to neglect yourself in the name of “selflessness,” pause and remember: You matter too. 💜

You know I love you 💝

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

03/09/2025

Is it Love or Just Familiar Pain?

Sometimes, what we call love is not truly love, it’s comfort in what we already know, even if what we know hurts.

Many people mistake attachment for affection and endurance for intimacy. They find themselves drawn to partners who trigger old wounds, repeat painful cycles, or remind them of what they grew up seeing. Because it feels familiar, the mind labels it as right. But is it really?

The truth is that familiarity is not the same as love.

🤓 Love nurtures, but pain drains.

🤓 Love builds, but pain breaks.

🤓 Love heals, but pain reopens scars.

If your relationship feels like walking on eggshells, begging for attention, or constantly proving your worth, it may not be love; it may just be a recycled experience of unresolved pain.

Here’s a quick heart check:
✅ Do you feel safe being yourself?
✅ Do you experience peace more than anxiety?
✅ Do you feel valued without having to earn it?
✅ Do you both grow, not just endure?

If your answers lean toward no, then it’s time to pause, reflect, and ask: Am I in love, or am I just replaying familiar pain?

That’s why at the Would You Marry You Conference 2.0, we are gathering to break these cycles. It’s not just about finding love. It’s about learning to recognise the difference between a genuine connection and a painful repetition.

Event Details You Shouldn’t Miss:

📅 Date: Saturday, 1st November, 2025
⏰ Time: 9AM
📍 Venue: RCCG Divine Glory Parish, 22–27 Eddy-Onugha Drive, College Bus-Stop, Okota, Lagos
🎯 Theme: Rewrite Your Story

🎁 Special Bonuses for You:

🍽️ Free Lunch
🎉 Exciting Giveaways
💰 ₦200,000 Grants for 3 Lucky Attendees

You don’t have to keep choosing pain disguised as love. You can rewrite your story.

👉 Register today, and invite someone whose cycle you know needs breaking. https://tinyurl.com/WYMYC2

You know I love you 😍

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo,
Convener, Would You Marry You Conference

01/09/2025

Welcome to a brand-new month filled with fresh opportunities, joy, and endless possibilities. My prayer for you is that this month will bring you peace like a river, breakthroughs that will surprise you, and blessings that will overflow into every area of your life.

May you walk in favour everywhere you go, may your strength be renewed daily, and may your heart be filled with gratitude and laughter. Whatever you set your hands to do this month shall prosper.

Cheers to a month of new beginnings, answered prayers, and beautiful testimonies.

Happy New Month once again! It's a September to Remember💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

31/08/2025

Questions to Ask Before Saying “I Love You”

Saying “I love you” can feel magical but love is more than butterflies and late-night calls. It’s about clarity, commitment, and compatibility. Before you speak those three powerful words, pause and ask yourself these questions:

1. Do I truly know this person? - Is what I feel based on genuine knowledge of their character, values, and life goals; or just the excitement of romance?

2. Am I ready for the responsibility that comes with love? - Love is not just about emotions; it’s about showing up, supporting, and growing together through challenges.

3. Do we share a vision for the future? - Beyond the thrill of today, can I see us building a healthy, and sustainable relationship tomorrow?

These questions help you avoid rushing into emotional declarations and instead choose intentional love which lasts. ❤️

That’s why we’re inviting you to the Would You Marry You Conference 2.0, where we’ll explore how to rewrite your story and break free from unhealthy relationship cycles.

Date: Saturday, 1st November 2025
Time: 9AM
Venue: RCCG, Divine Glory Parish, 22–27, Eddy-Onugha Drive, College Bus-Stop, Okota, Lagos

Bonuses that Await You:

Free Lunch

Exciting Giveaways

₦200,000 Grants for 3 Lucky Attendees

This is a life-transforming experience you can’t afford to miss.

👉 Register now: https://tinyurl.com/WYMYC2

See you there! 💜💚🧡

You know I love you 💚🧡💜,

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Convener, Would You Marry You Conference 2.0

29/08/2025

Choosing Yourself Doesn’t Mean Abandoning Others

Many people struggle with guilt when they decide to choose themselves, to prioritise their healing, growth, and peace. But the truth is that choosing yourself does not mean abandoning others.

It means recognising that you cannot pour from an empty cup. It means showing up for others from a place of wholeness, not exhaustion. It means breaking unhealthy patterns, setting healthy boundaries, and rewriting your story so you can love yourself and others more intentionally.

When you invest in yourself, you actually become a better friend, partner, parent, and leader. Choosing yourself is not selfish, it’s the foundation for healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.

That’s exactly what the Would You Marry You Conference 2.0 is all about, helping you heal, grow, and thrive in love and life.

Details You Shouldn’t Miss:

Date: Saturday, 1st November, 2025
Time: 9AM
Venue: RCCG, Divine Glory Parish, 22–27 Eddy-Onugha Drive, College Bus-Stop, Okota, Lagos
Theme: Rewrite Your Story

Bonuses Await You:

Free Lunch

Exciting Giveaways

₦200,000 Grants for 3 Lucky Attendees

Don’t miss this life-transforming experience!
👉 Register here: https://tinyurl.com/WYMYC2

See you there! 💜💚🧡

You know I love you 💝

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Convener, Would You Marry You Conference 2.0

29/08/2025

Marry Well, Parent Intentionally

Marriage is more than a love story between two people, it’s the foundation of the home where children will be raised.

If for no other reason, marry well for the sake of the children you are yet to bring into this world. A wrong choice in marriage doesn’t just affect you; it ripples into the lives of your children, shaping their outlook on love, stability, and family.

Every child deserves to grow up in a healthy environment, not one filled with constant tension, dysfunction, or brokenness. That’s why your choice of a life partner is not only about your happiness, it’s about being an intentional parent even before your first child is born.

Choose wisely. Marry well. Be intentional. Your children’s future depends on it.

You know I love you ❤

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

27/08/2025

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27/08/2025

Are You Pursuing Love or Being Pursued by Loneliness?

Many people enter relationships not because they are ready to love but because they are afraid of being alone. Loneliness can feel heavy, and in a bid to escape it, we sometimes confuse companionship for love. The danger is that loneliness often drives us into the wrong arms, into rushed commitments, or into tolerating what doesn’t serve us.

True love is not born out of desperation; it is born out of wholeness.

Pursuing love means you are emotionally healthy, self-aware, and intentional about who you share your life with. Being pursued by loneliness means you are filling a void, hoping another person will complete you. But no one can complete you. Only you can do that through healing, growth, and self-acceptance.

Before you step into love, ask yourself:

✨ Am I whole or am I just afraid of being alone?

✨ Do I desire to give love, or am I craving to be rescued from loneliness?

Love is a choice, not a bandage. Don’t let loneliness push you into what your heart isn’t prepared for. Instead, embrace the season of singleness as an opportunity to build your identity, your faith, your dreams, and your values.

From that place of fullness, love will find you, and this time, it will be real.

At the “Would You Marry You Conference 2.0” this November, we will dive deeper into breaking unhealthy patterns and choosing relationships from a place of clarity, not emptiness. Don’t miss it.

Would You Marry You Conference 2.0 Details

Theme: Rewrite Your Story
📅 Date: Saturday, 1st November, 2025
🕘 Time: 9:00 AM
📍 Venue: RCCG, Divine Glory Parish, 22–27 Eddy-Onugha Drive, College Bus-Stop, Okota, Lagos

Bonuses: Free Lunch | Giveaways | ₦200,000 Grants for 3 Lucky Attendees

👉 Register here: https://tinyurl.com/WYMYC2

You know I love you 😍,

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Convener, Would You Marry You Conference 2.0

25/08/2025

Sometimes, the best way to attract what you desperately desire is to forget how much it matters and just focus on God, live a happy life and do the assignment God has placed in your hands.

At the right time, I mean God's time, your miracle will find its way to you.

This is me hugging you from behind and assuring you that you're not forsaken. "Laslas", you'll smile broadly.

You know I love you❤

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

25/08/2025

Stop Repeating What Broke You

Life has a way of teaching us lessons through pain. But pain was never meant to become your permanent address.

If a pattern broke you before, betrayal, neglect, toxic love, or self-sabotage, why keep returning to it, expecting it to heal you this time?

Healing begins when you pause, reflect, and choose differently. Don’t normalise what wounded you. Don’t romanticise what drained you. Don’t defend what destroyed you.

Every cycle you refuse to break becomes a chain you willingly wear. But the moment you decide, “No more,” you rewrite your story.

Stop repeating what broke you. Choose what builds you. Choose peace. Choose love that doesn’t hurt. Choose yourself. 💜

You know I love you 😍

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

23/08/2025

Once upon a time, during one of our staff meetings, our director asked a question that sent the entire room into laughter. A colleague had made a suggestion regarding a decision about our students. Our director didn’t agree with it, and in a sarcastic tone he asked him, “Are you a father?” Everyone burst into laughter, myself included.

But later, as I reflected, those words hit me differently. Indeed, some lessons in life cannot be fully grasped until they are experienced.

For example, the weight of single parenting is something you may never truly understand until you’ve had to carry it yourself. The sleepless nights, the silent tears, the strength it takes to play both roles, that is a journey only those who walk it can truly explain.

Yet, the beauty of it all is that while experience is a teacher, life itself is governed by principles. And principles, when discovered and applied, can help us navigate life’s toughest terrains without waiting for painful experiences to teach us.

That’s why wisdom is priceless. If we lean into learning, seek guidance, and embrace principles of love, responsibility, discipline, forgiveness, and intentionality, we can avoid unnecessary pain and break cycles that trap others.

Experience may be the best teacher, but it doesn’t have to be your teacher every time. Learn from others. Align with principles. Live intentionally.

And don't forget that 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙤𝙪𝙘𝙝 𝙛𝙞𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙞𝙩 𝙗𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙨.

You know I love you ❤

Busola Abiodun Adeagbo,
Your Winsome Marriage and Family Therapist

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