25/07/2024
Before you fall in love, make sure you have attained a level of self love, happiness and care.
Always find a way to make yourself the centre of your own happiness.
This way, you won't need to rely on someone for happiness and peace of mind.
In life, people come and go. Nobody is guaranteed to stay in your life forever. Now, check the people you started life with right from your childhood to your teenage years up till your adulthood, some of them are no longer part of your life due to life's circumstances. If you had placed all your happiness and trust in them that they would stay forever in your life, you may not stand the hurts and pains you will go through after they've left.
This applies to romantic relationships. Make your relationship the secondary source of your happiness after your life, passion/purpose. That doesn't mean you shouldn't invest in your relationship or give your all. Give your 100% commitment and make sure you love your partner wholeheartedly. Do everything within your power to make yourself and your partner happy in the relationship.
But you should not rely on your partner or the relationship to give you total happiness.
Understand that your partner can wake up one day and tell you that they are tired of the relationship and want a break up. What then will you do? Kill yourself? That's the worst thing to do.
Don't get yourself wholly attached to people that you make them the centre of life's happiness, strength and peace. Be first, your own source of your happiness first before making your partner the secondary source of your happiness. By doing so, you will realize your worth and know when you are being mistreated or taken for granted. It will also make you not to commit suīcîde when your partner decides to leave you because you didn't make them the entire pillars of your life, rather a "part".
Find something else valuable that generates personal happiness for you. So that when a relationship does not work, your life will still continue and you won't think that, relationship is all you need to be happy.