https://facebook.com/groups/2700465590182138/

Intimacy In Marriage And Marriage Sexual Counseling, Lagos (2025)

08/07/2025

So many people are married to weapons fashioned against them bcus he/she was good in bed during that tin u people call DATING.

07/07/2025

Dating Till You Get Outdated

So over the weekend these pictures were flying about, a post about a lady who said a man slid into her DM for her to mentor him and today they are married despite having a previous relationship.

Many apologists came up with if it was a man this and that, others said it was double dating; another party said she was cheating bla bla bla. Today is she married or is she not married? If the other fellow was serious c’mon two years is much and to you dear lady if you are intentional, two months is enough for you to know if a relationship would end in marriage or not.

Let me still remind you, it’s either you are single or you are married, stop deceiving yourself with all these commitment stuff where a man will screw you for years and go ahead to marry a girl he met two months ago.

I’ll keep saying it, you need not be a girlfriend before becoming a wife and to the male folks you must not be a boyfriend first before becoming a husband. Until you are married your singlehood is in SUPERLATIVE.

The problem with many Nigerian relationships is with the start up and that is the reason many go into that thing you people call DATING for donkey years and since many of these dating relationships are s*xually oriented the female folks are often the emotional losers while the male folks lose financially by playing father figure roles.

Yes, you are in trouble the moment you asked her to become your girlfriend and she accepts and you are in trouble the moment he asks and you accept. What you people are practicing is colonization and isolation; listen you’ve not started meeting people and this is the reason hell let loose many times when you get to see someone more handsome or beautiful than the person you are currently dating.

If you want to marry without feeling guilty of breaking anyone’s heart, do not be anyone’s boyfriend or girlfriend, do not ask to be or accept to become anybody’s boyfriend or girlfriend and no one will accuse you of betrayal, cheating, double dating or breaking of heart, this way you won’t count anyone as EX. Also don’t assume you are in a relationship with someone just because you are close, define opposite s*x relationships and create boundaries.

Build your opposite s*x friendships the way you build friendship with folks of the same s*x, you have an image of whom you wish to settle down with as a spouse. You learn to become a doctor before being a doctor, you don’t become a doctor first and then start learning about being a doctor. This may sound weird to the females, but it’s not out of place knowing all about a male before he tells you ‘let’s take this relationship to another level’, with your prior knowledge you could say an outright yes or no and you also begin marking time for him. It’s not out of place asking a man ‘when are we going to wed’, you are not desperate you are being intentional.

Trust me, if you were not having s*x with him, if you were not spending on her, break up won’t be painful, in life two working on a straight path may reach a point where the road divided and take different paths. Genotype and Rhesus factor are the only unquestionable factors that could make two people at the point of marriage become Ex understandably without them becoming enemies.

Pull out/off from any relationship not leading to marriage a year and six months after it was ignited.

Accept being a fiancée not a girlfriend, boyfriend girlfriend is a game where females are often the chief losers.

Until your bride price is paid your back has no business on any mans bed. Close your legs!

You have a boyfriend and a man comes and says it's marriage or nothing, say yes to him, shikina!

DON’T DATE A MAN UNTIL YOU BECOME OUTDATED – YOU ARE NOT MARRIED UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.

07/07/2025

Dear Lady, if you are intentional at 2 months you should know whether that relationship is leading to marriage or not.

07/07/2025

This is one of the reasons why I don't have pity for men who boasted they could do it all, stopping their wife from what they were doing before marriage.

Nothing beats Team Work in Marriage.

The Concept of My Money Is My Money, His Money Is our Money Is Ungodly.

Why Then Are You There As A Help Meet?

05/07/2025

Don't let s*x turn you into a mother when marriage hasn't made you a wife yet..
Know your place in a man's heart.

05/07/2025

There are women happily married to barrow pushers. There are billionaire wives unhappy in their marriages.

05/07/2025

The Streets

Before I began doing this write up I overhead a video being played by someone, a male who stood to condemn the mentality of some males who think every successful woman is a pr******te.

Then he said asked a question, does it mean those males have no females in their families? Further he said may good things never happen to females in the family of such male folks with such mentality and that if females in their families should make it financially successful, they shouldn't fail to tag it prostitution.

It's a pity that many a times, the females we try to òffer protection with our writings outrightly turn it down, the life of females is difficult, as a female try so much not to make it more difficult for yourself.

I want to talk about this popular slang 'street' formulated by some dark hearted fellows who brandished themselves alpha males, while I dislike most of the agendas they are pushing, I particularly like that of males not being in financial obligations towards females they aren't married to and the need for females to be financially accountable to their marriage, aside these, they'll all pay for their pipe and swipe motion unless they won't be having daughters.

Back to the streets, usually women who must have been married and perhaps walked out of their marriage and due to lack of finance become leeches to either single men or other people's husbands getting financial benefits in exchange of s*x, also called bed to bed mid field.

So you'll hear things like she'll be thrown out/back to the streets.

Who are these streets? MEN!

Yes, Men!

The same crime you commit with them, you are judged with a different scale than they are.

A man tricks you to bed, disvirgins you or adds to your count and then pushes you away, or marries you, cheats on you without remorse daring you to walk away.

These men are the streets and push you out to others like them who they are also calling streets, in their eyes they are innocent, you are the guilty one because of your feminine gender.

Hope you see how unbalanced it is and you can't do anything about it, with two body counts even a man with 50 would consider you are gutter.

All I'm saying is, avoid these men at all costs, there are still good men who will neither mess or take advantage of you.

You can't play with a pig and expect not to be rubbed mud.

Stay on the Lords side, only there you'll see men on his side who do not see women as chattels.

Don't allow yourself to be used for Bed 2 Bed experiments.

I hope you listen 👂

04/07/2025

Question & Answers Session
Ask Your Questions On; Relationships, Marriage, S*x. Get Answers From Fellow Members.

04/07/2025

We Are Not Having S*x In This House Tonight!

I yelled at my husband before he left for work that morning, very cool headed before he stepped out of the door he turned and said to me "let's watch and see".

I meant every bit of what I said and no antics he'll come with will ever make me lose guard. Towards evening he called and before he could say "bingo!", I lashed out at him and he hung up not saying anything.

He was back with some goodies, I was reluctant to jọịn him in eating, in fact we ate in separate plates and in silence, meanwhile I was even tying two wrappers, you needed to see me, I want this man to beg me before I would open for him and if I would, not even this night sef.

But after eating Suya and drinking Nutri Milk my heart was softening small small, but one evil spirit in me wey no dey hear word just made me to tight my wrappers the more.

Guy man showed up with a bucket of water and a towel and began to wash my legs o, I was amazed, isn't this someone I quarreled with in the morning?

After washing my legs he began applying oil on the sole of my right foot, telling me stories of how his day went, how he had an altercation with his boss at work due to our quarrel, I felt so sorry for him and I didn't even know when I handed him the left feet, from thence he proceeded towards my ankles and then my thighs, leg wey I tight since, I begin dey open am.

Suddenly, he looked up and said "oh you said we were not having s*x tonight" dropped my legs and left.

Scales fell from my eyes, after setting me on fire?

What else do you think happened?

03/07/2025

How Do You Handle A Wife Who Views S*x As A Useless Thing?

The question came a month ago during Friday question and answer session.

I first asked his approach to s*x and then his wife's temperament before directing him to my inbox if he was uncomfortable answering the questions.

They've been married for five years and his wife never saw any good in s*x, she said it was bad manners.

Kissing, fondling of breasts was a total turn off for her.

His wife was raised under a strict moral code/background. (A Catholic).

Sometimes he bought gifts just to make her allow him have s*x with her.

I directed him to posts about Temperaments for him to learn and understand the personality he's dealing with and then proceeded to tell him pass a write up to his wife titled "Can S*x-Driven Wives Be Godly Wives?"

Cautioned him to stop paying/buying gifts for her as an exchange to have s*x with her, because if eventually she picks up s*xually she'll weaponize s*x.

His wife seemed along with the message as I further dropped "The Simplest forms of Intimacy In Marriage"
1. Hugging

2. Kissing

3. Holding hands together (strolling/going for a walk) maybe in the evenings.

Weeks later after our conversations, the outcome was positive, his wife no longer sees s*x as bad manners and they've been having s*x countlessly everyday.

All these were possible because he answered the questions thrown at him and read the write ups he was directed to read. I said this because some fellows will ask "why are you answering my question with a question?" that's how counselling works if you are not ready to feed information, keep your problem to yourself.

Lessons
1. Know the s*xual orientation of who you are getting married to, ask questions about it and iron it out before saying I do.

2. Know the temperament of who you are getting married to, very very important.

3. Wives, stop using s*x as an exchange for gifts or monetary benefits from your husband. Husbands don't buy gifts for your wife just to have s*x with her, you'll lose in the long run.

4. Be open to learning, marry someone who does same.

Is there a thing you wish to talk about?

*xNomics

02/07/2025

A Man Who Doesn't Love You Might Out Do The One Who Does

It is true, they have been saying, a man who loves you will do this, will do that...

But truly truly I say unto you a man who doesn't love you would/might do more than those things you've been hearing a man who loves you does/would do just to take you to bed and then he disappears.

A man that truly loves you may not
- Call that much
- Give that much attention
- Give that much monetarily
- Communicate that much
- Romance might be out of his picture

But these are the paintings social media has used in deceiving many young ladies.

Stop falling for it.

You see all those things listed above, a man who wants s*x would overdo it and sadly you folks fall for it due to wrong conditioning over the years.

Love is slow, it takes time.

Let's consider a charcoal iron. Have you ever placed a charcoal iron into a bucket full of water? What happens? The water boils immediately but the next second it goes back cold, that's the kind of relationship many are in.

But then water in a kettle, starting from 0° Celsius it doesn't boil till it gets to 100° Celsius, that's a process of time many physical conditions met and it doesn't lose hotness immediately the way that of charcoal iron does.

I don't know if you got the picture I'm painting?

A man who loves you may call once or twice a week, but the one who wants s*x could call every two seconds and then speak with you for two hours, that is called Love Bombing. Such a man likely must be jobless cus no one dutifully employed or has a running business will spend such time over the phone in the name ọf love, that's why after s*x those calls drastically reduce. Be wise!

Money money money. Did you know that someone like Obi Cubana didn't spend 1Kobo during his mother's burial ceremony? But the burial was a talk of the town. It's only a phool that spends so much just to get in between the legs of a woman. The man who loves you may not dispense that much.

Lastly let me come from this angle, there are things God will never give an individual till he/she comes to sonship, the scripture said "as many as believed, gave he power to become sons", any who doesn't believe won't be given such, thus till you become a man's wife whether he loves you or not there are things you must not expect, there are things he must not give to you until you become his WIFE!

Yes a man who loves you could go a week without speaking to you over the phone besides there was a time when there were no phones and Love was seemingly better then. God showed Joseph that he would be king, that was all, he wasn't shown that he will be accused of r**e or go to prison, God kept silence all those years, did Joseph not ascend the throne?

Consider These Sayings...

Selah ✌️

01/07/2025

Character Is Like Pregnancy 🤰

Even if you hide it in the first 3 months, by the sixth months it'll be visible for all to see. It's true that some pregnancies remain hidden till birth but yet there are still signs of pregnancy, at least such a woman will not see her period for nine months.

This write up isn't about pregnacy but to those people who say "I didn't know he or she was like this", "he/she was pretending" it's not true, you are the one who aborted too quickly.

Court you said no that Dating is better.

Why won't you not know he/she was pretending when all you did was have s*x and jump from one eatery to the other.

When you never had meaningful discussions, you spoke over the phone, but what was the content? "Have you eaten?" "What are you wearing?" and so on.

How would you see those things when all you paid attention was on mundane things?

I'm reminding you today, nobody can pretend for two good years.

To the ladies, it's not only the duty of men to dig the past of women, as a woman, you could too, why did his past relationship end?

What kind of friends does he keep?

Is he financially reckless?

How does he relate with his family members?

Consider These Things...

Selah ✌️

Intimacy In Marriage And Marriage Sexual Counseling

08/07/2025

07/07/2025

07/07/2025

07/07/2025

05/07/2025

05/07/2025

05/07/2025

04/07/2025

04/07/2025

03/07/2025

02/07/2025

01/07/2025

Address

Telephone

Website

Alerts

Contact The Practice

Shortcuts

Share

Category