19/01/2026
10 SIGNS YOU’RE IN A SITUATIONSHIP (EVEN IF IT’S CALLED A “RELATIONSHIP” OR “MARRIAGE”)
1. There is commitment in words, but inconsistency in behavior
They say the right things, yet their actions keep changing. Your nervous system is always “waiting” for alignment that never fully comes.
2. Important conversations are avoided or shut down
When you raise concerns, you are labeled dramatic, ungrateful, disrespectful, or told to “pray about it.” Emotional safety is missing.
3. You feel emotionally alone while technically not single
You have a partner, but you still carry your fears, decisions, and pain by yourself. Partnership exists in name, not in experience.
4. Boundaries are treated as rebellion
Any attempt to define your needs is met with resistance, guilt-tripping, or control. Your self-expression feels like a threat to them.
5. The relationship requires you to shrink to keep peace
You edit yourself, mute your truth, or silence your intuition just to avoid conflict. Harmony is maintained through self-abandonment.
6. Growth is one-sided
You are the one reflecting, adjusting, learning, apologizing, and healing, while they remain emotionally stagnant and defensive.
7. Accountability is replaced with excuses or spirituality
Bad behavior is justified with stress, personality, culture, gender roles, or religion, rather than owned and corrected.
8. You feel more anxious than secure
Instead of calm, you feel hypervigilant. You overthink texts, moods, reactions, and decisions. Your body knows before your mind admits it.
9. The future feels vague or unsafe to imagine
There is no shared emotional vision, only survival, endurance, or “let’s see how it goes.” You are present, but not anchored.
10. You are constantly questioning yourself
You ask “Am I asking for too much?” “Am I the problem?” “Is this normal?”
When a relationship erodes your self-trust, something is deeply misaligned.
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A grounded truth to sit with
A situationship is not defined by labels.
It is defined by lack of emotional safety, mutual accountability, and shared growth.
You can be legally married and still emotionally single.
You can be committed and still deeply unseen.
If this stirred something in you, it’s not accidental. Awareness is the first return to self.
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Glory Adedolapo Oluwatumininu (Soul Coach, Professional Counsellor & Psychotherapist) © January 2026.
